I care too much what others think..

It's natural for people to change over time, through their experiences, development and the like, but I can't help but look back on how I've changed and regret it slightly.

I mean, I used to be quite an argumentative person. If I thought I was right, I would stick with this forever, I would never back down :biggrin:

. But a few years ago, one of those lovely situations where a "friend" spreads a rumour about you and the whole situation blows up, with loads of people ending up not liking you happened. I lost all of my friends apart from my best friend, who is the dearest person to me.

Now I let people walk all over me. I hate arguments- I also can't stand the idea of someone disliking me, even if I don't know them so well, or don't even like them so much. It's totally stupid, and even my friends have pointed out that people are going to walk all over me and I'll let them.

I also worry so much what others think of me- oddly enough, teachers most of all. That is what I find most stupid- teachers probably teach around 150 pupils per day and I'm just one of these- of course I don't really matter.

I know it's unrealistic to want everyone to like you, and it only causes yourself more problems in the long run. But I just.. I don't know. It's amazing to think how just one thing a person says can have such a big effect on you.

Reply 1

Anonymous #2

Im exactly the same, and im ashamed of it, thats why im posting anon. I think its because i live in an area where bitchines reins, and its very clique-ish! Its made me really insecure! I hope things will improve when i go 2 uni.

Reply 2

Bohemianthinker

1

Just don't worry about what people think. 99% of people suck anyway. If they're real friends they shouldn't care. Unless of course, you're annoyingly argumentative... which was probably the case.

Reply 3

Anonymous #1

OP

I know exactly how you feel- I go to an all girls' school, so the bitchiness is heightened to a degree. :P

I don't know. I mean is it abnormal to worry what teachers think of you? Essentially they're just there to impart wisdom onto you..not pass judgements on your character hehe but it still bothers me.

Reply 4

Mark S

17

Fluck what anyone else thinks. Pffft to that

Reply 5

BouncyB

1

Its a type of paranoia, maybe in ur case its justified coz i no how girls can be, but i think MOST of the time, who cares what they think! They probs worried bout what u think!

Reply 6

JustJam2006

9

Anonymous

Im exactly the same, and im ashamed of it, thats why im posting anon. I think its because i live in an area where bitchines reins, and its very clique-ish! Its made me really insecure! I hope things will improve when i go 2 uni.

You would think that by the time people get to uni they are mature enough not to behave like school kids but I'm sorry to have to break it to you but it's still out there. Shame I know...Guess the best thing to do is to just be who you want to be and don't worry about what others think. I know it's easier said than done sometimes but at the end of the day, everyone is too self absorbed to care about others any way...(Really hate to generalise like that)

Bitchiness at university is on a whole new level to college/ high school..Believe me because I have to deal with it everyday...What keeps me going is knowing the real purpose of my being there...Am I there to get the best degree that I can while developing as a person or am I there to be popular so that everyone will like me....

Sorry to rant on like this but I was exactly the same as you and the original poster..I would be lying if i said that from time to time I did not wonder what people thought of me...but it's normal...After all you are human...

Reply 7

Anonymous #1

OP

BouncyB

Its a type of paranoia, maybe in ur case its justified coz i no how girls can be, but i think MOST of the time, who cares what they think! They probs worried bout what u think!

That is true- they often say that we're the first ones to see our own faults and pounce on them, and others just aren't watching us that intently. So if anything I am most likely just slightly self obsessed, non? :smile:

Reply 8

BouncyB

1

Nope, i wouldnt say that. Your normal, i think all girls are like that, but we express it in different ways. Some become extrovert, others become introverted. I do the latter when i feel awkward. JustJam, uv really freaked me out now!!!!

Reply 9

munchkin18

Anonymous

I know exactly how you feel- I go to an all girls' school, so the bitchiness is heightened to a degree. :P

I don't know. I mean is it abnormal to worry what teachers think of you? Essentially they're just there to impart wisdom onto you..not pass judgements on your character hehe but it still bothers me.

i went to an all girls school too, where it was ludicrously bitchy. everyone had their own groups and their was a certain amount of hostiliy between some groups. however, when you go to uni, you'll see a dramatic difference. no one cares! it's amazing, you can wear what you want, talk to who you want and do what you want and no one really judges you. even if someone did, you would cope with it just fine because you'll have your own, really big group of friends. on a bad note though, despite having left school nearly 3 years ago now the bitchiness and rumours have somehow remained. it's crazy that everyone still knows everyone else's business but i guess that's school days for you.

Reply 10

Sexy Plexi

5

God no, you should never worry about what other people think about you! That's an awful way to live your life, cos then nothing would be "you", you'd just be the version of you which you see as socially acceptable...if that makes any sense. Stick to your guns: being decisive, opinionated and strong-willed doesn't neccesarily make a person argumentative. I am all of the above- I don't crap from anyone and I've never cared about what people think of me!"- but I honestly can't remember the last time I fell out with someone, and I certainly never argue with my mates. Forget those ex-friends of yours, chalk it up as experience and don't dwell on it/them cos it'll only make you feel bad about yourself. You are in charge of your personality/ attitudes, if you don't like the way you've become change. x

I care too much what others think..

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