Help me

hey, i have been working at Lloyds pharmacy for over a year now, and both my parents work and just recently my brother ahs just got a job at a supermarket!! and because i go to college my job is only part time and i love it to bits, its a fantastic job, and my mum said to me that during half trms i wont be able to do any overtime bcoz i will have to look after my other brother who is 10, bcoz they will b at work, and it is totally unfair, i have had my job longer than my mum and my brother so why shoud it be them that get to do extra time at there job and not me. does anyone understand what i mean. i havent told my boss, she is great and bcoz i love working there she no's that she can always come to me to ask for overtime knowing that i will say yes, because i cant seem to say NO i hate saying no and i dont know what to do???????? help me work something out please!!!!!!!

Reply 1

XavierTroy

Tis unfair, you'll have to argue the point to them. Unfairness always occurs during life, the only way you can change it is by putting your point across and hoping the people in question listen to understand you want to do more hours and earn some money. It is a rare thing that someone really likes their part time job, but like I said... make it clear to them and hope for the best. It is possible if they have days off in their periods of work (which one would think they did) you could work on those days while they are home. Maybe you can come to a reasonable agreement where everybody can work.

p.s. work sucks :smile:

Reply 2

x kat x

1.) i'd say talk to your mum and bro and see if between you you can come to an arrangement where maybe you look after your younger brother for a day and they do other days.

2.) are there any activities near you that you can put your brother on during the hols, a local sports centre or swimming pool or something?

Reply 3

mrteacher

unfair yes but who needs the money the most?

Reply 4

xxSAMMIxx

yeah there is plenty for him to do he could even go round his friends but my mum said she didnt want any1 else to look after him, she likes to know he is safe, she isnt over protective or anything

mayb if i somehow talk to my boos, mayb she cud help but i dont like to talk to her with things that relate to work

Reply 5

xxSAMMIxx

well my family are not poor, i would say i could do with the money the most
my dad just got made redundent and got a lot on money and he went dtraight into another job, so you know

Reply 6

xxSAMMIxx

well my family are not poor, i would say i could do with the money the most
my dad just got made redundent and got a lot on money and he went dtraight into another job, so you know its not exaclty a problem

Reply 7

XavierTroy

Exactly, you have a perfectly justified argument and you know the points to make as well as us, it is just whether they are willing to accept them.

Reply 8

notsoperfect

i don't know if you give money to your mum or not, but she's the breadwinner (i'm assuming), so i think she comes first as all the money she earns will be going to your family, whereas you probably keep most of it for yourself?

also, you mention you are at college. maybe your mum wants you to do some schoolwork while you look after your brother.

Reply 9

Luize

Who pays the bills in the house putting a roof over your head and keeping you safe?
Who buys the groceries?

It is your parents house and while you live there (and are under 18) then you are under their care.
It is more beneficial for your parents to go to work, you should have some college work to do over easter. Revision should be starting soon! There are weekends, and Bank holidays. You have an older brother..why not get him to stay in for a couple days?

I can understand your parents worry about your little brother, my mum was the same and I have stayed in many nights when I could have gone out with friends so that mum could go out and not have to worry about my sister being alone.

Reply 10

Snowfall

Think of it this way: Your mum wants your brother to be safe and so has asked YOU to look after him. I think this shows that she knows she can depend on you to keep him safe and happy. Fair enough perhaps you and your other brother should share the babysitting time, but like I said, she probably feels more secure in the knowledge that you are looking after your brother.

In my opinion, it's fair enough that they have asked you instead of taking time off themselves since they make money for the family, whereas you probably just save the money for yourself, right? So unless you are contributing a lot towards food etc, you shouldn't really say that it's unfair that you have to babysit. They are afterall feeding you, giving you a house to live in, etc afterall!!!

Reply 11

buttons7

you work part-time for you own money, presumably? i would also assume that your mum works more hours than you do, and that the money she earns goes towards your upkeep? it's quite possible that she has to work the extra hours and therefore can't be at home, in which case perhaps you ought to try and reach a compromise with her. i don't think there's any way that you can say that your job is of a higher priority than hers (for a start, you are still at school, so college is really your main focus), all you can really do is negotiate that you don't always have to look after your brother.