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female - female teacher relationship

I have a problem....
to start things off, I am a 17 year old female and I just cannot seem to live without this amazing teacher i have. Shes 59 but in my opinion she is the hottest creature ever. I dont know if she fancies me too...

I mean I have some evidence: She seems to enjoy touching me (ie stroking my arm and back etc) when congratulating me about good results but ive noticed she never does it to anyone else. In fact she seems to hate everyone else as she is really strict. I get on really well with her tho. She once said i had pretty hands which is surely a sign?? I feel i really connect with her but shes married and i dont think i can ever be with her. I do so well in her subject and she always talks to me about uni etc so she really takes an interest in me and my life.

I find myself unconciously eyeing her up in the class. It started off as a joke between my friends but now i think its serious.- I do admire her for her strong personality and i aspire to be like her but i understand that i also have sexual feelings towards her.

I have never kept secrets from my parents (especially my mum) and i really feel the urge to tell my parents about these feelings. I dont know if they'll understand. They'll probs laugh at me and tell me to grow up but the feelings thta i have for this woman are imcomprehensibly intense .

I am leaving to go to uni in may and i fear i may never see her again. I have her phone number (she gave it to me for news on how i got on at an interview) should i use it when i leave?

My friends keep telling me that i will meet new ppl at uni and forget but i feel that even my closest friends cannot understand this problem. what do i do?????? Plz help. Is it love?

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Reply 1
Although it technically wont be wrong as you wont be her student anymore....just no! Shes 59! Howver hot she is (and I have my reservations) the relationship just wouldnt work. Hell at that age it is possible for her to be your grandmother. Trust me, dont go there.
I didnt get it, ru a boy or girl?
It says she is a girl!!
Reply 4
CherryGarcia
I didnt get it, ru a boy or girl?

*points at thread title*

To the OP: are you normally interested in women? How would you describe your sexuality?
Reply 5
CherryGarcia
I didnt get it, ru a boy or girl?

She is a 17 year old female! That gives you a clue!

What don't you get about it?

To the OP: Your friends are right, when you move away to university you are going to meet so many new people, and no matter how you feel about this woman at the minute, the excitement of university will help you to forget her, move on and find someone else (and a more realistic partner).
Let's face it, she is 59 years old, and your teacher - nothing can happen at the minute and I doubt she would leave a marriage for a 17 year old girl who is just starting her adult life and has so many things to discover.

Have your friends seen the way she is with you? Or could you be reading too much into her touching you? Maybe she genuinely likes you as a student, is pleased with your work etc, and she may just be a touchy-feely person - but this could be totally innocent on her part.

Hope you get over this! Chin up!
Reply 6
Maybe she sees you as a kind of daughter figure?
Reply 7
Becca
Maybe she sees you as a kind of daughter figure?

Yeah, this is a possibility. I'm really good friends with someone of a similar generation (nothing sexual in it, I hasten to add). She doesn't have any children, although she is married, so I guess I am in some way a daughterly figure.
Reply 8

heh i love tsr joke threads...
Reply 9
El Scotto

heh i love tsr joke threads...

If it's a joke thread then it's a bit sad that they wrote such a long post... which is why I was thinking that it's genuine... maybe I'm naive! :p:
I highly doubt stroking your arm and back means she’s interested. Some women are very touchy feely, might be a cultural thing.
Reply 11
Rachel
If it's a joke thread then it's a bit sad that they wrote such a long post... which is why I was thinking that it's genuine... maybe I'm naive! :p:

Some people go to great lengths for a good prank...
If it was, it wouldn’t really be “good” would it? :p:
Oh my ****ing god!

what the hell is wrong wth you?
Reply 14
yea thats discusting
Rachel
If it's a joke thread then it's a bit sad that they wrote such a long post... which is why I was thinking that it's genuine... maybe I'm naive! :p:



I suppose but I couldnt seriously see anyone of 17 fancying a 57year old.

Madonnas starting to look craggy now and shes only 40-something,
and she has all the cosmetic enhancements and makeup tips going.

I sincerely doubt there exists a fit 59year old teaching lesbian.

She'd be on the front page of the sun if there was. lol

(how olds pat bucher? i forget.)
no offence but that doesnt sound very nice
I could fancy the personality of an older woman, in fact i did/do, my careers adviser who is aged approximately 45-50ish.....but in the looks scheme of things, no, not for me really.

That is a big age gap, massive gap in the physical looks context of things - with the OP and her teacher.
Reply 18
It's not that disgusting if this woman has aged well. I mean look at Sharon Stone - 48 and theres no way I'd throw her out of bed. I know my example is younger but it's the best I could come up with!
Jack0
It's not that disgusting if this woman has aged well. I mean look at Sharon Stone - 48 and theres no way I'd throw her out of bed. I know my example is younger but it's the best I could come up with!


Spot on really. The woman in my case has aged ok but still, i wouldn't. She doesn't come close to the Stones and (Demi) Moores of this world.