What do you think about this?

What would you do in this situation:

There was once a girl called Sarah and she really really liked a guy called Matt. They flirted with eachother for ages, they texted all the time and spend hours on the phone and webcam and it was pretty obvious that they liked eachother. They eventually kissed and Sarah was so happy. After that Matt started to get distant and eventually stopped speaking to her for no apparent reason. Sarah was deeply upset but one day about a month later she finally got an explanation saying that Matt couldn't do a relationship because of problems at home and also as he was in his final year at uni so he really wanted to concentrate on his exams. Sarah, being the lovely but possibly naive girl she is, accepted this as a valid reason so began to get over it. About a month later she finds out he has a girlfriend. Sarah is now in a relationship with someone else.

Should she have a right to be upset as it appeared she was lied to?

Replies from both Sarah and Matt's perspective would be appreciated!!

Reply 1

Talon

Ive been in that situation but reversed. The girl was giving me BS about not being able to do a relationship at that time (when we had been going about for about 4 months I might add). The week after she left me she had a boyfriend. Cow.

I cant stand being lied to by my friends.

So yes she has a right to be upset.

Reply 2

Segat1

Sarah's perpective - I wish Matt had been honest with me and said "I don't like you as much as I thought I did"

Matt's perspective - If I'd wanted to be with her, I would have moved heaven and earth to be with her. I gave her an excuse to let her down gently then met someone else.

Reply 3

Anonymous #1

tinkerbell85

Matt couldn't do a relationship because of problems at home and also as he was in his final year at uni so he really wanted to concentrate on his exams.

Don't EVER believe a guy who says he isn't ready for a relationship. It simply means you're not good enough for him to consider a relationship.
He hasn't met a girl who makes him want to have a relationship. That's all. Even a guy like poor Matt. Show him a girl who looks like his dreamgirl, he'll suddenly forget about all the stuff he said.

Sad but true...

Reply 4

Mrs_F

Yes she would be upset. Finding out something like that is bound to trigger all kinds of emotions.
However, she shouldn't dwell on it too much otherwise it could ruin her new relationship. She needs to accept that the last relationship wasn't meant to be and concentrate on this one. Hopefully it will be better.

Reply 5

username47781

All a lie matt was probably playing the field, if i was sarah i would cut matt completely out.

Reply 6

Dude

tinkerbell85

Replies from both Sarah and Matt's perspective would be appreciated!!

Which one are you?

Reply 7

notsoperfect

sarah has the right to be upset. however, i don't think she should be to obvious with it or make too big of a deal about it because she is in a relationship now, and that could cause problems within the new relationship.

Reply 8

Hana_87

Matts Perspective: Yes i liked Sarah she was attractive and fun to be with, but the spark wasn't there, i got bored and moved on.

Sarahs Perspective: Bit of a shame, still, i can do better than someone who can treat me like this, he obviously wasn't worth it. <------- Clíched but true.