is this bad?

Anonymous

would you call this cheap or bad?

I'd call it both.

Reply 3

Anonymous #1

OP

any explanation to go with this (rather damning) decision?

Reply 4

Anonymous

i worked out that other day that i've kissed about 40 boys. most of my other friends worked out that they had kissed around three to fifteen boys. i'm an 18 year old girl. it seems that a lot of the time i go out, i end up with somebody at the end of the night. i sort of hate it, because i feel unfulfilled in the end, but at the time i find it hard to resist flattering attention. i suppose all i really want is somebody to love me, but i find it hard to find a long term boyfriend because of a lot of bad experiences i have had.

would you call this cheap or bad?

I dont think its cheap or bad. sounds pretty normal to me. probably loads under cheap and bad. If you'd slept with 40 people then thats probably bad for a girl, but kissing is nothing.
three to fifteen is weird. especially at 18, thats pretty darn sheltered.

Reply 5

*starry_eyed_*

14

well where do you see yourself in ten years time? still leading the same life and feeling unfulfilled? you're 18, you're not supposed to be making life-long commitments so early on!

Reply 6

bret

12

no. it's not bad. neither is it cheap.

for many poeple, pulling someone in a club is just part of the fun of being out and being drunk. In fact, as a Methodist, I'd say the being drunk part is morally less sound- but I get drunk a few times a week so it would be unfair to impose this standard.

Reply 7

Well you say you don't particually feel fullfilled or satisfied by doing it, so why do you? It's bad for that reason. And it's cheap because you obviously must make yourself readily available as soon as any attention comes your way. Get some standards.

Reply 8

hitmanuk2k

Well you say you don't particually feel fullfilled or satisfied by doing it, so why do you? It's bad for that reason. And it's cheap because you obviously must make yourself readily available as soon as any attention comes your way. Get some standards.

shut up you fool. shes only snogged 40 guys, its not as if shes shagging around or anthing.

Reply 9

Don't call me a fool for having an opinion.

Reply 10

Anonymous #1

OP

i don't know why i do it, i just suppose i can't help myself. i don't like any boys at school, or the ones that i do like are already taken, etc. so when i go out and meet somebody that i fancy, i tend to go for it. i do have standards, because i only kiss boys who i find to be very good looking or nice in personality, and i am never that drunk. i wouldn't go with just anybody. so i don't think it's that cheap... however i do feel bad and unfulfilled for it. it makes me feel cared about for about an hour, and the next morning i feel as alone as usual, or worse.

Reply 11

shinytoy

18

i ahev kissed 3 guys and im 21 almost.

personally i would want every kiss to be special and mean something in my heart so i dont kiss a guy on the first date, maybe the second or third.

if you can say this about all those guys,or even most of them, you are a very lucky girl

if not, then maybe get to know the guys first

Reply 12

Ferrus

19

shinytoy

i ahev kissed 3 guys and im 21 almost.

Disgraceful, I recommend your immediate placement in a convent.

Reply 13

hitmanuk2k

Don't call me a fool for having an opinion.

you told her to get some standards and called her cheap. You can't get hurt about being called a fool when you're not exactly kind with your words yourself now can you. :rolleyes:

its not as if we're living in america or something.

Reply 14

She asked the question, I gave my answer. I didn't ask to be called a fool.

Reply 15

Darth Excluder

5

Your not cheap... YOUR LUCKY!

Reply 16