Stupid arguments with boyfriend

You deserve someone better..

Try speaking to him on phone rather then by text or on msn. This should remove the possibilty of confusion. But yea if he really is being mean to you then maybe you got to thing you deserve better.

He is clearly sexually frustrated.

i think maybe hes insecure

Someone else said this to me. We are in a long distance relationship though so only get to have sex on the occasions where we can see each other (one night a week or two nights if we're lucky). Guess it's not enough!

with the sticky out tounge... I dont get how he could misinterpret it... I always add that when I want to make sure someone gets that i'm just messing 'round.

I'll be honest, you sound like a really nice girl, and the sort of girlfriend every bloke would want. And I don't really see how he could misinterpret the sticky out tongue thing.

I think you may need to sit him down and tell him that if he doesn't stop acting like a complete ****** when you're messing around, then you'll need to move on.

I've been with my boyfriend for about 8 months and I've known him for about a year now. We've always had stupid little arguments (we've never had a full-blown argument yet though) and they really bother me. Generally, the reason we argue is his fault and the way he reacts really gets me down. We normally argue because he misunderstands what I say (normally in a text or on MSN). I know it's easy to misinterpret what someone is telling you sometimes but this happens quite frequently.

I'll try and give an example; we were joking around on MSN about the way he can never keep his hands to himself and he said he was going to wait for me to wait to make the first move the next time he sees me (we are in a long-distance relationship). I jokingly said something like 'what makes you think I'll make a move on you?' and added a stick-out-tongue smile to show I was messing about (I thought it was pretty obvious I was joking anyway). He then replied with 'Oh what's new, you can never be bothered with me, bye' and then he signed off. I thought he might be joking but he wasn't. Since then he's sent me some really horrible text messages and has continued even after I explained that I was joking and that I was sorry.

This might sound like not a big deal (it looks really stupid and pathetic written down) but this sort of thing happens a lot and he makes me feel really guilty all the time when I haven't done anything wrong. I always try to explain that I'm joking around but it doesn't get through to him. He never apologises if he says mean things to me but expects me to grovel at his feet before he will be nice to me again. The thing is, he's one of those jokey people himself and is always saying silly things, that's why I don't understand his behaviour and he is always really defensive.

What I can't stand is the fact that he'll make really mean comments and get me down (he knows I worry a lot about what people think and have become very depressed in the past due to people treating me badly) and he'll drag this out for some time until I crack and have to end up apologising for something that I haven't even done.

I've given a really stupid example of his behaviour and it sounds like I'm going on about nothing but his behaviour towards to me really does get me down sometimes. I'm not sure if I want advice or whatever but I just had to get that off my chest. Sorry for the rant.