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i asked him out....he said no

i finally plucked up the courage to ask one of my guy mates out and he said no, he said it was coz his last girlf(who he broke up with in september)really screwed him up,by not acknowledging something wasnt right in their relationship and flirting with another guy while they were still going out and then when she dumps him a few days later she's got a new boyfishbr />
ok,i understand what he means but i hate his ex so much (and shes one of my mates)and i just feel really crappy

Reply 1

lollipopsticks

cheer up thats the worst of it over now!!just get back on the lookout. look on the bright side uve still got a friend and in the long run thats better cuz if he had of said yes and it ended badly you would have lost a friend!!so always look on the bright side. now your free to find someone completely new and experience something great with a stranger!!getting to know the person is the best part!! :smile:

Reply 2

glance

Are you sure it's not just an excuse because he doesn't really want to go out with you?

Reply 3

anjurdsg

glance

Are you sure it's not just an excuse because he doesn't really want to go out with you?

that's mean...lol...

its pathetic

Thats a bit bad what he said i'm sure you wouldn't be like his ex, oh well his loss i'd like to see how he takes it when you do get a boyfriend.

Reply 6

WokSz

that's a real shame! The truth is though, that you plucked up the courage, and tbh that's a good sign. Give it time and maybe he'll ask you out.

Reply 7

Tarts_n_Vicars

Well done for having the courage to ask him! It's a shame he doesn't return your feelings right now but you should be proud of yourself for having the balls to tell him how you feel! :smile:

Reply 8

anjurdsg

Carl1982

Thats a bit bad what he said i'm sure you wouldn't be like his ex, oh well his loss i'd like to see how he takes it when you do get a boyfriend.

very well said

Reply 9

andy_c

His loss... but at least you tried. It's better to have tried and failed than to have never tried at all!

Reply 10

x-lolly-x

I read that if a guy likes you that much he won't care what happened in past relationships coz he wants 2 take a chance with you...sorry hun...

Reply 11

notsoperfect

what's a boyfishbr? i want one

Reply 12

kitty_koo

notsoperfect

what's a boyfishbr? i want one

i posted this on another forum and they have a system where certain words (mostly swear words) get changed,but it doesnt seem to like the word boyfriend either,lol
and i copied and pasted it off there instead of writing it out again

Reply 13

kitty_koo

also, i know he really liked his ex,and he was very upset and pissed off when she dumped him and then in the next 4 days she'd got a new boyfriend and got further with him than she had with her ex

Reply 14

quintsy

Sounds like this friend of yours had a blow to his confidence/self esteem as a result of the way this girl treated him. If you really still like him, I suggest you give him a bit of time, as he probably is going to be a bit defensive- trying to protect himself from getting hurt again.

Talk to him as a friend, and just show him that you're still there for him, even if at the moment he isn't quite ready as he's feeling vulnerable. He should respect this, and hopefulyl your relationship will grow as a result, and he'll regain some of his confidence.

Good luck! :smile:

Reply 15

Cellardore

well at least you can move on instead of still wondering over what could have been.

i'm in a similiar situation and i just don't know if this guy really likes me or not. He asked me to go shopping with him last saturday which i did for about 3 hours, that was good. Then i went out with him on monday (i got a bit wasted!) but he was sober and he kissed me but im not sure if that was just off the cuff or if he does genuinley like me. Guys can be very confusing! oh yes and he said he likes someone on our course, but he wont tell me who, so i;m wondering is it me!? or someone else, i just dont know. I swear if i guy likes me they have to have it printed on their forehead lol

Reply 16

ladygrey

good job having the courage to ask him out!!! Yeah, I asked this guy out in... December? He said no, but it's all good. Sometimes it works out, sometimes it doesn't, but its important to try!

Reply 17

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anjurdsg

that's mean...lol...

Probably true though. Despite all the fancy reasons people come up with, there's really only one reason for not going out with someone: not liking them (at least in 'that way')

Anyway, to the OP, well done on having the courage. Better trying and failing than not trying.