BF says he can't balance his life..

My bf of just over a year started uni last year and things were fine til today. He sees me most weekends as he plays sport near me at weekends. He's now saying he's finding it hard trying to balance me, uni and sport. I never ask him to choose I'm just always there when he wants me and he says he feels bad that he can't give me what i want. All I want is him which is what i have told him. He says he needs time as his head is spinning, where does this leave me?

Reply 1

username47781

20

Maybe he wants a break until it all calms down?

Reply 2

FunkyMonkey06

OP

yeah maybe, don't know whether to quit now and break it off, but that's not what I want.........so confused

Reply 3

anjurdsg

11

dude... just break up ... trust me.... these kinda relationships turn nasty, specially when the guy's "head starts spinning" first... if he's starting to lose control, he needs a break...

oh, and btw... there is no such thing as a "break until it all calms down"... a break is a break, a permanent break... no relationship can be mended back perfectly, once it has been broken once

Reply 4

username47781

20

Not exactly true every relationship has a rough patch, hopefully this is just a blip for her.

Reply 5

pumpkin7

13

anjurdsg

dude... just break up ... trust me.... these kinda relationships turn nasty, specially when the guy's "head starts spinning" first... if he's starting to lose control, he needs a break...

oh, and btw... there is no such thing as a "break until it all calms down"... a break is a break, a permanent break... no relationship can be mended back perfectly, once it has been broken once

i disagree. me and my boyfriend were having some problems just before christmas, mainly due to him spending too much time on his stupid mohaa among other things. he decided he needed a break over christmas (good timing :frown:

) and for two or three weeks, we didn't really talk and didn't see each other. after this break, everything has seemed to have sorted itself out. we haven't had an argument in weeks, he seems to have made his game take a back seat and we are much much closer. i think that break made us see how much we really need each other.. we both hated the break but we really needed it.
so maybe a short break would be a good idea.

Reply 6

username47781

20

I just hope her b.f isn't using it as an excuse because he's seeing someone else i mean probably not true but it has been known.

Reply 7

pumpkin7

13

i never thought of that... true though.. :s-smilie:

Reply 8

andy_c

7

A break can do you the world of good. A break is not the end. Give him some time apart, and it will allow you both to see whether you miss each other and whether you want to carry on with the relationship. It will give you some much needed perspective. I think it's a good idea.

Reply 9

DancingDiva

Boys are stupid creatures sometimes. They have everything yet they cannot get their heads around this fact and suddenly 'dont know what they want'. It will unfortunately (or perhaps fortunately) lead to a break up. Me and my ex went on a break and then broke up for similar reasons. He couldnt balance everything he did... and somehow the reason for break up was based on 'him not being able to give me the time etc tht i wanted'.... which was funny, as i had never complained about this fact. Guys get it into their heads sometimes that they are doing too many things. They cannot balance work/sport/uni/girlfriend/friends etc. Whereas girls seem more able to emotionally. He doesnt seem to know what he wants, and sadly when people dont know what they want, they generally dont want what they have got.
I'm really sorry to hear about ur situ tho, it reminds me of mine, and i hope that u will feel better soon. Regardless of what happens. Maybe ur better off without the burden of him where u wait around all the time?? It's of course up to the two of you. Goodluck.

Reply 10

Sheen

11

yeah i agree i think he should sort his head out and work out what he wants.
if he loves you or cares about you enough he will find a way to make time for you.
i would not be impressed if my boyfriend turned to me and said oh and i cant handle uni, sport and you.
sport? what the hell. surely your more important that sport.
well my boyfriend goes to uni and we still get to see eachother regularly on thursdays and i stay at the weekends, tho it helps that his time table isnt too bad

BF says he can't balance his life..

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