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Hola amigos.

So in the aftermath of a breakup, I was wondering about lots of things, as one (or I) do (or does).

My ex apparently ended the 'relationship' because of (lack of) uni and a job. I wonder if t'were true love would any of that really matter? I don't think uni is for me, or if it is its not the course I am/was on. And I am happy with little or no money, doing what I enjoy (writing and other things). It seems no one else is happy for me, and most people are mad at me.

Anyway I was wondering, for any of you, would you be able to truly love someone who wasn't at uni and you were? Or did not have a very good job/regular income if any at all?

Thanks, I'd like to see your responses.

Peace and love.

Reply 1

xraspberryx

Do u have any plans at all? u seem way to content with doing nothing

Reply 2

pikaboo

13

Are you a guy? Most girls want someone with ambition and prospects, it's just hard-wired into us.

Reply 3

Fruit-cake

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Anonymous

Hola amigos.

So in the aftermath of a breakup, I was wondering about lots of things, as one (or I) do (or does).

My ex apparently ended the 'relationship' because of (lack of) uni and a job. I wonder if t'were true love would any of that really matter? I don't think uni is for me, or if it is its not the course I am/was on. And I am happy with little or no money, doing what I enjoy (writing and other things). It seems no one else is happy for me, and most people are mad at me.

Anyway I was wondering, for any of you, would you be able to truly love someone who wasn't at uni and you were? Or did not have a very good job/regular income if any at all?

Thanks, I'd like to see your responses.

Peace and love.

maybe your ex bf/gf thought you werent motivated. someone who isnt at uni and doesnt have a job does sound like a bit of a bum. maybe that isnt the case but i personally would like a partner of mine to have some kind of future ahead of them. if your ex was a girl, maybe she was looking to the future and decided you couldnt provide for her.

Reply 4

Princess Ella

i agree most girls would like a successful guy-but r u a guy or gal? guys only want one thing-well most of them anyway

Reply 5

mipmapped

13

guys only want one thing-well most of them anyway

Yes, and I'm still waiting for my two front teeth

Reply 6

Talon

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alex_sgirl

guys only want one thing

Its true. Infact I want it right now *goes to the fridge for food*.

Reply 7

Princess Ella

lol-u guys are wayy funny

Reply 8

mipmapped

13

lol-u guys are wayy funny
Reply With Quote

Yes, and your comment was wayy stupid.

Reply 9

mrteacher

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alex_sgirl

i agree most girls would like a successful guy-but r u a guy or gal? guys only want one thing-well most of them anyway

of course not. we also need sleep and food and sometimes clean clothes, unless we are in the cave

Reply 10

mrteacher

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alex_sgirl

i agree most girls would like a successful guy-but r u a guy or gal? guys only want one thing-well most of them anyway

geez girl where do get those lines from? :p:

Reply 11

e11even

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pikaboo

Are you a guy? Most girls want someone with ambition and prospects, it's just hard-wired into us.

I agree with this. To answer your question more adequately, we need to know your gender.

Reply 12

mrteacher

1

u can truly love someone but sometimes the circumstances do not allow you to be together ----> THIS IS BULL

if you truly love someone u make it work all the way through. the guy was not worth you attention. i think the OP is a girl.

Reply 13

andy_c

7

If I truly loved someone it wouldn't matter what they were doing as long as they were happy.

How long have you not been at uni/not had a job?

Reply 14

tomtheone

2

Will The Original Poster Please State Whether They Are Male Or Female, Or A Mix?

Reply 15

Sam Beckett

7

LOL a mix.

As for the question I would have thought material possessions came a long way AFTER having emotional and immaterial bliss/love etc.

So if true love has a prerequisite of having a good job and having gone to uni...what's the point in it? lol.

Reply 16

Anonymous #1

OP

I (the OP) am male and would like to be a writer, that is my ambition. I will now get a job in the meantime. The delay/non-existence of a job before was because I was doubting and wondering about the relationship ie if I stayed here with her, I'd have to stay on the poo course I'm on.

Anyway, so true love isn't all that then if you have to have a job and uni degree beforehand? I'm a nice guy too, and considerate etc.

Reply 17

Aberdonian*Lass

1

there are different temperaments..maybe hers just didnt suit the lifestyle you are offering? i mean the sort of writer who flits from job to job and is really concentrating on his writing can often appear to require a pretty laidback partner who will put up with possible disorder and who can enjoy a life without the comfort that comes from knowing the guy is in a stable job where he can hope to move up ladders.

nb i say appear...clearly this is not the case in all situations it is a stereotype that may have freaked your partner out.

Reply 18

pikaboo

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Sam Beckett

LOL a mix.

As for the question I would have thought material possessions came a long way AFTER having emotional and immaterial bliss/love etc.

So if true love has a prerequisite of having a good job and having gone to uni...what's the point in it? lol.

People usually (not always) go for partners with the same outlook on life, with complementary drive and ambition so in the long-term they'd be able to create a stable home. That might be a bit extreme in this case but for 'true' love to happen there are conditions...you don't just fall in love with any random person, you do it for how well they'd fit into your life and enable your own to grow. A person holding you back for financial/occupational reasons doesn't allow that space and ultimately the relationship is destined for no good.

Reply 19

andy_c

7

Anon, I'd say it wasn't true love if she let these things (or the lack of them) get in the way of your relationship.

Would you say that she was a material girl - i.e. does status, money, etc bother her? And how serious was your relationship? How long had you been together?

Hopefully one day you'll get over her.

Well done for having the guts to follow your dreams!

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