Finding college difficult

I started college in Sept 05 after moving to the area in the summer. Ever since I got to college I havent got on very well there. As I had only just moved to the area I didnt know anyone and nobody made any effort to make friends with me. Since then my attendance has gone down hill. I only attend 5 lessons a week at the moment, I dont have any friends and it all seems like like i've made a big mistake. I dont know what to do anymore. Im considering taking some differnt AS levels next year and starting again but im really not sure if its going to help or not. What can I do to start enjoing college again? I dont have any friends and there arnt any clubs or societies to join. Also I dont think my tutors know how unhappy I am. They know theres a problem but dont take it seriously enough. Please help

Reply 1

lummox

I was in exactly the same situation after I got kicked out of 6th form, I went to a new 6th form but couldn't hack it so my solution was to skive as much as possible - this doesn't get you anywhere! Try to stay in college, and talk to as many people as you can, even if you are bricking it at the time, its the only way to make friends, and you will feel a lot happier, and will be able to get on with your work! It always seems that noone wants to make an effort to be friends, but you have to put the work in too, you will be suprised by the response.

Reply 2

TomaDamons

hi,
im going through a similar situation at the moment. all i can say is just what the other person has said and just try and make an effort to make some friends and talk to your tutor. dont skip college because if you do, there will not be much point in going at all. You are too far through the year now to really drop out.just try and keep with it. i know how it feels.

feel free to PM me if you want to say anymore :smile:

hope that thing work out for you.

Reply 3

ProfessorFitBoy

Try and express to your tutors your true feelings about this and tell them that it is really upsetting for you.

Next, I know it can't be easy when everyone has already settled in but try just speaking to people in your classes - not huge long conversations at first but just commenting on things for example - which may lead somewhere.

Also, try not to pick the big popular alpha males to speak to - try and single out people who seem to be friendly open and generally nice - or else people who you suspect to be in a similar situation to yours.

You say there are no clubs at your college, which is unfortunate - but try maybe joining some outside clubs or join an online chatroom that is just for your area of the country eg UK Chatterbox etc where you could arrange to meet up with some people in your area.

Hope this helps.
Anything else just ask.

Reply 4

Anonymous #1

Thanks. Your comments really mean a lot to me. Its very diffiuclt making friends because I only do 1 subject and there are only 5 people in my class. I have mental health problems so am finding this harder than most students. I may try talking to my tutor but I doubt it will help much. Its all down to me really - but it would help if my tutors knew that I was unhappy in college. Next year im hoping to take extra subjects and improve my hours - with the help of proper hospital treatment for my condition (at the moment im struggling on my own!) Anyway thanks again.

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