How important is it to have things in common with your partner?

Poll

How important is it to have things in common with your partner?

How important is it to have things in common with your partner? Can a relationship survive with little or no common things? Can too many things in common ruin a relationship, keeping in mind that everyone needs their own space? Also, what kind of things should you or should not have in common with your partner in order for a relationship to last long?

The poll has a scale of 0 [no things in common] to 6 [everything in common]

Reply 1

El Scotto

I'd love to know the longest a couple have surivived with nothing in common.

Apart from anna nicole smith and that old geezer. but they did have one thing in common I guess....

He had the money, and she wanted it.

(i voted 2/3)

Reply 2

eleri

Depends on whether you mean hobbies or personality traits.

My boyfriend and I probably didn't have any hobbies in common when we met, and we're still very different in that respect, but there has been an (albeit limited) amount of crossover. I think this is because we have several personality traits in common, so I reckon that's far more important.

The perfect mix for me is to have several personality traits in common but also plenty that are different.

Reply 3

zoemunro

me and my fella are complete opposites, I am loud. he is quiet, I am a party girl, he likes to stay in, he is healthy, I smoke ect its crazy but it works so well we never argue and we are best mates as welll as everything else so i guess sometimes opposites attract.

Reply 4

Ryan

2-3: it is important to have at least some things in common

Reply 5

Schmokie Dragon

My man and I are very dis-similar. And we have such different beliefs and values, but both have very strong personalities, that we fight ALL the time.
When I want to work hard and go to uni, he wants to spend all his money and get drunk. Its quite stressful.

My advice is never leap into a r/ship. Becomes friends and suss eachother out. It's the only way to know if you will be ok as a couple.

Reply 6

envious

Urgh I can't think of anything worse than going out with a clone with all the same interests :eek:

. Where is the fun in that? Plus they would be in all the same socities and clubs and it would be eally hard to have time away from them.

Saying that, having nothing at all in common must suck. It's fun to have your partner with you sometimes and if he never shared any of your interests then it would be likely that where ever you went there would be some form of compromise from one of you, which would surely lead to arguments or at least resentment :frown:

Reply 7

BlackHawk

The only thing you need in common is the fact you care about each other. All you need is to be open and understanding to each others hobbies and interests and perhaps even take an interest in them yourself.

Reply 8

pumpkin7

you have to have at least some things in common, otherwise you would just be bored in each others company, aaand then it would be pointless.
then again, too much in common and you start spending too much time together and you get sick of each other..

i think there is a delicate balance that not many people manage to achieve.

Reply 9

snowy

I think its imporant to have things in common obviously, what would you be talking about otherwise? However, I also think it's great to have different interests, you can learn a lot from that and it means you can do stuff apart from each other!

Reply 10

~*Sweetness*~

Me and my boyfriend are very different personality-wise. He is quite loud and I'm fairly quiet and shy. I think we compliment one another quite nicely though and we are very sensitive to each others needs.
We share some interests such as music and films and we're best friends also.
We have different opinions on a lot of things which I think is important because I hate it when people agree with everything you say even though it's obvious they hold a different opinion. I also enjoy having a good debate every now and then.
I think it's important to share some similar interests otherwise it would be difficult to spend time together. It's also important to have different interests so that you can learn new things and your time together may actually be more interesting but you need to strike a balance. I voted 2-3.

Reply 11

aSian_cUtY

You definitely need to have something in commmon, otherwise what would you talk about...BF: 'oh the weathers great'...GF: 'yeaa it is isnt it'....great conversations they gonna have!!...But i don't think that they have to be exactly alike...otherwise you won't learn anything of the other...it's good to have a mix and match..spice things up!!