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This is going to sound like a really petty stupid thread and it probably is, but I'd appreciate some advice. So I'm at uni and I have a nice little group of friends and one of my closest friends is basically always complimenting my other friends, but never me as of late! I'm not trying to sound vain or anything, but at the beginning of the year like term 1, they would tell me that I was the 'pretty one' in our group and rib me about it and stuff and now literally for the past few months, this girl is always like 'omg 'blah blah' you look gorgeous' or 'well don't you look lovely!' and she never ever says anything nice about me! Amongst all the friends, it's me, this girl and another girl who are really close and a little subgroup, and my friend always compliments our other friend and never me. She'll take a photo of us and then be like ahh 'name of 3rd friend' you look so adorable.
It's really just this friend, it almost seems like she's reluctant to say anything nice about me, but I can't imagine that being the case just because she is so lovely apart from this and is one of my best friends here. I'm really not this self obsessed person that wants to hear how pretty she is, I promise, but sometimes it's just like ok you're complimenting EVERYONE else on how gorgeous they are, even when I've been told that I'm more attractive than them, and it's really harping on my self confidence.
I realise I'm going to get a few 'shut up you stupid vain idiot' comments, I really am not being horrible, just trying to give you guys the whole picture. I wouldn't care if someone never complimented me, I'm NOT one of those girls who puts up a million pictures of herself and waits for facebook comments or whatever, I just feel like she is almost deliberately not giving me any compliments.
It's really just this friend, it almost seems like she's reluctant to say anything nice about me, but I can't imagine that being the case just because she is so lovely apart from this and is one of my best friends here. I'm really not this self obsessed person that wants to hear how pretty she is, I promise, but sometimes it's just like ok you're complimenting EVERYONE else on how gorgeous they are, even when I've been told that I'm more attractive than them, and it's really harping on my self confidence.
I realise I'm going to get a few 'shut up you stupid vain idiot' comments, I really am not being horrible, just trying to give you guys the whole picture. I wouldn't care if someone never complimented me, I'm NOT one of those girls who puts up a million pictures of herself and waits for facebook comments or whatever, I just feel like she is almost deliberately not giving me any compliments.
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Maybe she thinks your other friend doesn't think she's pretty and needs a confidence boost, but you're fine?
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Maybe she's just trying to compliment your other friend so she isn't left out? What does it matter anyway? My friends don't tell me I look gorgeous but I still love them 
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(Original post by milienhaus)
Maybe she thinks your other friend doesn't think she's pretty and needs a confidence boost, but you're fine?
Maybe she thinks your other friend doesn't think she's pretty and needs a confidence boost, but you're fine?
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maybe she's crazy about you but just compliments everyone else to make it seem she's just as crazy about them.
What i mean is, she probably thinks that she doesn't really need to compliment you because she assumes that you already think that you two are great friends however she compliments everyone else on a 'superflous' level to keep good relations with them too.
If you get what I mean...
What i mean is, she probably thinks that she doesn't really need to compliment you because she assumes that you already think that you two are great friends however she compliments everyone else on a 'superflous' level to keep good relations with them too.
If you get what I mean...
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(Original post by Billton)
Maybe she's just trying to compliment your other friend so she isn't left out? What does it matter anyway? My friends don't tell me I look gorgeous but I still love them
Maybe she's just trying to compliment your other friend so she isn't left out? What does it matter anyway? My friends don't tell me I look gorgeous but I still love them
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(Original post by Luminique)
maybe she's crazy about you but just compliments everyone else to make it seem she's just as crazy about them.
What i mean is, she probably thinks that she doesn't really need to compliment you because she assumes that you already think that you two are great friends however she compliments everyone else on a 'superflous' level to keep good relations with them too.
If you get what I mean...
maybe she's crazy about you but just compliments everyone else to make it seem she's just as crazy about them.
What i mean is, she probably thinks that she doesn't really need to compliment you because she assumes that you already think that you two are great friends however she compliments everyone else on a 'superflous' level to keep good relations with them too.
If you get what I mean...
Which is why it never bothers me when she says things like that to a random friend of ours or someone we don't know very well, but when she says it to people within our very close group of friends, it does bother me a little. Oh well, nothing I can do about it, it's her opinion!
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(Original post by Anonymous)
The point I was making was, across a period of time she will literally compliment every person in our friend group but me. If you're going to do that and single me out, then yeah it does confuse me a little
The point I was making was, across a period of time she will literally compliment every person in our friend group but me. If you're going to do that and single me out, then yeah it does confuse me a little
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maybe it's like when your really casual with a friend..so it would be awkward if she compliments you...kinda like when a close friend makes an insult but it's just a joke..if you understand what I mean
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(Original post by Billton)
Then she could be jealous, I don't know. How often do you compliment your friends? It could be as petty as "Well she never compliments me so why should I bother complimenting her anymore?"
Then she could be jealous, I don't know. How often do you compliment your friends? It could be as petty as "Well she never compliments me so why should I bother complimenting her anymore?"
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Maybe she just assumes you already know you're really pretty if they considered you the 'pretty one', so she just compliments other people to boost their confidence. It doesn't sound as though it's out of spite :P
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(Original post by Playa10)
Maybe she doesn't like your complaining
Maybe she doesn't like your complaining
(Original post by NomNomNom :))
maybe it's like when your really casual with a friend..so it would be awkward if she compliments you...kinda like when a close friend makes an insult but it's just a joke..if you understand what I mean
maybe it's like when your really casual with a friend..so it would be awkward if she compliments you...kinda like when a close friend makes an insult but it's just a joke..if you understand what I mean
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(Original post by Anonymous)
I compliment pretty much on the same level as my other friends do.
I compliment pretty much on the same level as my other friends do.
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(Original post by kirstyy93)
Maybe she just assumes you already know you're really pretty if they considered you the 'pretty one', so she just compliments other people to boost their confidence. It doesn't sound as though it's out of spite :P
Maybe she just assumes you already know you're really pretty if they considered you the 'pretty one', so she just compliments other people to boost their confidence. It doesn't sound as though it's out of spite :P
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(Original post by Jellybean91)
Do you give HER any compliments??
Do you give HER any compliments??
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