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vocal noises during sex

quite a while ago after one of my exs and i had split up she said i wasn't vocal enough during sex (and although she assures my that's not why she dumped me she was rather shallow so i wouldn't be suprised)

the thing is i have never felt the need to vocalise my pleasure. if i am enjoying something i will respond with my body (i won't go too graphic here - i'm sure you get the idea) and i will smile and on occaision i will say things - often mushy things which i am aware is completely the wrong time to do it

i have never been a fan of shouting things out either - i'm just not that type of person and would feel like i'm being unnecessarily over-dramatic. i also feel that 'talking dirty' during sex isn't my kind of thing - it makes the sex less meaningful to me atleast

just wandered what are everyone's opinions on the matter?
is it perhaps rude to be quiet in bed? how vocal are you? how vocal do you like your partener to be? .....and so on

Reply 1

Anonymous #1

I think men are generally quieter than women in bed anyway, so I wouldn't imagine that's unique to you at all.
My boyfriend certainly doesn't get particularly vocal until just before he's about to come! Don't worry about it.

Reply 2

girl afraid

I'm pretty much the same. I thought actions speak louder than words?

Reply 3

username47781

20

I hope you didnt split up because of that

Reply 4

Anonymous #1

Anonymous

I think men are generally quieter than women in bed anyway, so I wouldn't imagine that's unique to you at all.
My boyfriend certainly doesn't get particularly vocal until just before he's about to come! Don't worry about it.

Sorry, me again, doesn't allow me to edit anonymous posts obviously! I'm quite vocal, but the fact that my boyfriend isn't particularly vocal doesn't bother me. So no, I wouldn't say it's rude not to be vocal. Vive la difference :smile:

Reply 5

championhopper

OP

i love it how when i say girlfriend people presume i'm a guy :smile:

why are men quieter in general though i wonder?

Reply 6

Esquire

1

why are men quieter in general though i wonder?

It's hard to imagine pretty women...

Reply 7

pumpkin7

13

hmm..
normally both me and my boyfriend are quite quiet.. but that is only because there are normally others in the house (haha) uhm..
but when we can be loud, we are.. :p:

i like it when he moans and groans though.. turns me on :p:

i like to know he is enjoying himself.. and it works the same way for him too when i make noises.

Reply 8

cat_meiow

1

I'm only really vocal when im drunk, which isnt to good because usually there are other people in the flat. My boyfriend is practically mute during sex, doesnt really bother me that much, would be nice to hear some noises but then if he was OTT i wouldnt like it either.

Reply 9

Monkey_Maiden

11

I'm pretty vocal :redface:

Not a bad thing though!
Um I kinda like to know a guy is enjoying himself so some noise is good :smile:

my ex wasn't too vocal but oh well

Reply 10

wednesburywench

2

I like a guy to make noise its quite sexy. But then again i wouldnt want him to talk or to shout anything out....thats wierd!

Reply 11

bluedreamer

1

I would not want to hear anything...I get distracted easily :rolleyes:

Reply 12

Floozie

2

Im pretty vocal during sex, but I could be quiet if I wanted, I just like to my boyfriend know that Im enjoying it! I guess its just the general thinking is that the more noise you make, the more fun your having. However, making noise just ain't everyones thing.

Reply 13

Lady_Muck

14

No, shouting is a bit excessive, but I appreciate some noise, usually the release of breath and the occasional 'oh *****' or something quietly is appreciated.

If they were being stoney quiet, I'd be worried to be honest! I'd hate loudness, though. It'd freak me out.

Reply 14

Tyler Durden

17

I suppose there's a distinction between being vocal and talking dirty. I mean if you're enjoying something you say you don't express it vocally (and fair enough really) but maybe the odd bit of filthy chatter during sex might go down well in lieu.

Reply 15

mattyboi2k8

1

in my experiences i've been told it was good, the person involved seemed to like it aswell.

Reply 16

bluedreamer

1

Breathing hard and all that is fine - shouting...is a tad scary :/

Reply 17

TrentEnd

2

bluedreamer

Breathing hard and all that is fine - shouting...is a tad scary :/

yeah, no one likes a screamer!

Reply 18

SamTheMan

17

Yes, I see how this relates to relationships: if I don't shout "Mummy" loud enough during sex, will my girlfriend/boyfriend dump me?

Reply 19

SamTheMan

17

I heard it's physically/anatomically impossible for a woman to talk during an orgasm. The areas of her brain controlling speech are totally paralysed... just a random fact.

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