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I've been with my boyfriend for over two years, but we've been in a long distance relationship the whole time as we were at different universities but lived in the same town. He graduated last year and has been living at home since september but wants to move back up to Newcastle (where he went to uni). I'm due to graduate in june and was planning to move back home until I've got enough money to be able to move out. With my boyfriend living in Newcastle next year and me living at home it'll be a 4 hour drive/train journey everything I want to see him and I'll only be able to go up at the weekends as I'll be hopefully working fulltime.

Is it worth carrying on the relationship when we're that far apart? I don't want to finish with him, but it just seems like a very long way and I'm not sure I can carry on seeing so little of him and I always figured that adults had proper relationships and saw each other more often than once every couple of weeks.

Has anyone else made this sort of situation work?
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(Original post by ditzy blonde)
I've been with my boyfriend for over two years, but we've been in a long distance relationship the whole time as we were at different universities but lived in the same town. He graduated last year and has been living at home since september but wants to move back up to Newcastle (where he went to uni). I'm due to graduate in june and was planning to move back home until I've got enough money to be able to move out. With my boyfriend living in Newcastle next year and me living at home it'll be a 4 hour drive/train journey everything I want to see him and I'll only be able to go up at the weekends as I'll be hopefully working fulltime.

Is it worth carrying on the relationship when we're that far apart? I don't want to finish with him, but it just seems like a very long way and I'm not sure I can carry on seeing so little of him and I always figured that adults had proper relationships and saw each other more often than once every couple of weeks.

Has anyone else made this sort of situation work?
Depends how much you love him.

it would reflect the decision you make.
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Depends how much you love him.

it would reflect the decision you make.
Lots, but I'm not entirely sure that he feels as strongly about me.
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Lots, but I'm not entirely sure that he feels as strongly about me.

you should have a serious talk with him- and ask him how he feels about you.. then you will know and can make a proper decision based on facts... however in order to make a realtionship work one or both of you will have to comprimise sooner or later..about where to live or whatever- otherwise you could never make it work...
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Your still young- you can afford to take some time apart and see other people. If you still feel the same way about each other afterwards then you can get back together and at least you know your not missing out on anything.
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I've been with my boyfriend for over two years, but we've been in a long distance relationship the whole time as we were at different universities but lived in the same town. He graduated last year and has been living at home since september but wants to move back up to Newcastle (where he went to uni). I'm due to graduate in june and was planning to move back home until I've got enough money to be able to move out. With my boyfriend living in Newcastle next year and me living at home it'll be a 4 hour drive/train journey everything I want to see him and I'll only be able to go up at the weekends as I'll be hopefully working fulltime.

Is it worth carrying on the relationship when we're that far apart? I don't want to finish with him, but it just seems like a very long way and I'm not sure I can carry on seeing so little of him and I always figured that adults had proper relationships and saw each other more often than once every couple of weeks.

Has anyone else made this sort of situation work?

so where is he living at the moment??
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so where is he living at the moment??
At home, but I'm still at uni, so we're still about 100 miles apart. He's planning to move up to Newcastle permanently as soon as his contract on his current job ends at Easter.
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At home, but I'm still at uni, so we're still about 100 miles apart. He's planning to move up to Newcastle permanently as soon as his contract on his current job ends at Easter.

why does he want to do that- doesn't he want to stay at home so you can be near to each other??

you wouldn't consider going to newcastle??
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why does he want to do that- doesn't he want to stay at home so you can be near to each other??

you wouldn't consider going to newcastle??
He just doesn't want to live with his family, after 3 years of freedom at uni he doesn't like having to live by his dads rules. Theres more going on in Newcastle as well, we live in a relatively small town with no shopping or night life, there are job opportunities but it'd mean travelling to Leicester, Derby, Nottingham or Birmingham, which is quite far.

I wouldn't consider going to Newcastle. I'd think about moving somewhere else where neither of us knows anybody, but in Newcastle there'd be all his uni friends and I'd know noone
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