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my friend seems to be drifting...

ok. well basically ive known this girl for about 8 months. over this time our friendship has got closer and there was a point about a month ago when we would feel comfortable telling each other stuff and sharing thoughts etc..y'know generally very close friends.

all of a sudden she seems to have stopped talking to me on any other level other than "hi..how are you?" i dont think ive done anything, in fact im sure i havent. but im not sure as to why she seems to have distanced herself from me. its making me feel terrible coz i really got on with her and dont want to lose her as a friend.

its just she seems to have pulled away from me for some reason, i try talking but i get fairly short answers. i tried talking to her about some of the stuff we talked about when we were closer, she didnt really seem interested....
she has a lot on her plate. i wont go into details.. but shes isnt often the happiest person about and seems to have had bad experiences in the past with guys (relationship-guys) and has some problems she needs to work over... its just i want to be there for her like i thought i was but apparently now im not coz she doesnt seem to want to talk...
anyone know why she might have tried to pull away?
I know what you mean on this when a girl has a lot on their plate they tend to tell people they are comfortable with some of the stuff going on however there will be times she will be able to tell no one i would advise, just tell her that if she needs a friend that you will be around if she needs you, try to give her space when needed.
Reply 2
I think you should confront her and just ask her if anythings up with her (in a nice way, nothing demanding now). Don't take "nothing" as an answer if you think (or know) something is truely up with her. Tell her how you feel (as in getting distant). I'm in a similar situation myself and I hate it :frown:
Reply 3
hmm...its just she has other friends that she is closer with than she is to me..so id feel a bit silly saying im there for her if she needs me when..well i dont think she does really coz she has other friends.
she seems to have been a bit "distant" to many of her close friends of late..but i think ive taken the biggest distancing. she doesnt start conversations etc.
i dont really know what to do..
Reply 4
hmm...its just she has other friends that she is closer with than she is to me..so id feel a bit silly saying im there for her if she needs me when..well i dont think she does really coz she has other friends.
she seems to have been a bit "distant" to many of her close friends of late..but i think ive taken the biggest distancing. she doesnt start conversations etc.
i dont really know what to do..

EDIT: yeh..i think i might ask her straight...?
unless thats a silly thing to do and she could get defensive about it and stop talking even more...?