One opportunity with relationships?

Be spontaneous - try not to think about it, but do more what you feel is right rather than what you think is right.

I mean at the end of the day, in a situation like that, you go for broke. You either come out with nothing or everything.
50/50 chance - worth the risk?

Im about to take an equally scary risk in a slightly more 'developed' situation. All i have to tell myself is that if i dont do it, i'll be regretful forever.

So whats to lose. Go for it!

Reply 2

Anonymous #1

I agree totally, I have the same problem. Even with girls you're going to meet regularly, the only way is to take the first opportunity. After that, you really are screwed.

Reply 3

OP

Yes, i've realised it too late though. I'm sat here by myself thinking about it and i hate it because she ticks my boxes :frown:

I guess there's always tomorrow but some things are given on plates and it was a golden chance which i screwed up. I'll probably get flamed for this thread as it seems really lame; but this is something that does get to me a lot and i really cut myself up about it.

Reply 4

Ok man well now i know where your coming from.

Of course there will be other chances - but next time, you really do have to prepare yourself for taking advantage of an opportune moment (damn Quoted johnny depp Didnt mean it :eek:

).
So just get yourself ready for the next time - remember what i said. You will regret it forever if you dont do something. If it doesnt work out, then youve tried. Deffo better than not trying at all wudnt you say?

Reply 5

OP

Yeah, i know i'm saying it now and it does make sense. It's just then when doubt creeps into mind; i'm a social moron. There's always a slight chance tomorrow. I've not tried long enough and it's got me nowhere :rolleyes:

so i'm going to change my plan. Next it'll be rejection i get cut up about.

Reply 6

Keep at it man. Its scary stuff but more than worth it if things turn out ok. You just have to figure out if a risk like thats really worth taking, an if u like her that much, theres your perfect reason.
PM me an let me know how things are goin.

Reply 7

OP

I just suffer from falling in lust too quickly. Part of my insecurity i guess and wanting to feel loved.

Thanks, i might take you up on that some time.

Reply 8

Its not just you. Happens to everyone.

Ive been mad on girls ive barely known. I drove them mad cos they were like 'who the hell are you' but occasionally it works out :smile:

Isnt physical attraction what triggers it all off? And wanting to feel loved, and love somebody back?
Thats not different - perfectly normal. Dont feel like youre doing anything you shouldnt be.
If you like her, then you like her. Ive tried denying feelings like that before. Its pointless, cos in the end its how it works.

Reply 9

OP

It's not one girl though; i have quite a few; which is what worries me as i find myself attracted to a lot of girls - but she's filling more of the boxes at the moment. I feel sick talking about it now; i suck :frown:

Reply 10

minimo

15

Yes, I'm a mega procrastinator when it comes to guys. But today I'm going out with some friends (including a guy I've fancied for well over a term) and intend to do something about it. You only live once!

Reply 11

SamTheMan

17

There's a saying that if you notice a girl you like, you have 3 seconds to react and decide what you're going to do. Start thinking about it too much and your chance is gone...

Not really true but it is an idea that helps.

Reply 12

Segat1

16

believe me you get sick of regretting never talking to people so in the end you learn to swallow your pride and just talk to people. the outcomes are usually ok.

Reply 13

Monkey_Maiden

11

I neeed to start taking some of this advice :p:

I'm hopeless at approaching a guy I like and now I've passed into the friend zone with several guys. Suppose at the end of the day what's the worst that could happen...

Reply 14

OP

Monkey_Maiden

I neeed to start taking some of this advice :p:

I'm hopeless at approaching a guy I like and now I've passed into the friend zone with several guys. Suppose at the end of the day what's the worst that could happen...

Yeah, it's easy saying it now i know; harder at the time. Can't girls get out of the friend zone though? I know when it's reversed it's much harder; but for all you know some guys may see you that way but just not do anything for fear of ruining a friendship.

I'll leave an inspirational quote :p:

"Don't take life too seriously; no-one gets out alive"

Reply 15

Monkey_Maiden

11

G4ry

Yeah, it's easy saying it now i know; harder at the time. Can't girls get out of the friend zone though? I know when it's reversed it's much harder; but for all you know some guys may see you that way but just not do anything for fear of ruining a friendship.

I'll leave an inspirational quote :p:

"Don't take life too seriously; no-one gets out alive"

Hmm maybe it's possible :smile:

Might try and reverse my way out of it
Aw nice quote :p:

Thanks

Reply 16

SunburnedCactus

11

Exact same thing happened to me, the opportunity arose and I just froze up completely. Always frustrating.

Reply 17

SamTheMan

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segat1

believe me you get sick of regretting never talking to people so in the end you learn to swallow your pride and just talk to people. the outcomes are usually ok.

Very true. Even if you're not very outgoing, you can end up deciding to just go for it because you're fed up of letting opportunities go by.

Reply 18

thefish_uk

14

G4ry

I got thinking tonight, i went to some event i saw a girl i liked and she was standing right next to me by herself. I was going to talk to her; but i was playing it cool and then she went off a few minutes later and went to some friends. So my procrastination resulted in my loss of opportunity to speak to this girl i like and it's really depressing as it happens all the time to me. :frown:

I'm now going to be more pro-active as i've decided there's not much to lose from it really. So the question is when it comes to these things is it best to jump at the first opportunity or you're a believer of another opportunity will arise and see how things turn out? I've done too much of the latter and i'll be trying the former from now on as i've said before. I just feel like a fool. :frown:

been there done that!

a similar thing happened to me today. by the time the second opportunity came around, i knew i'd look like a prat if i ignored the first one but took up the second.

Reply 19

OP