never let go

Ok here's something I'm wondering. If you think you loved someone once, say like a year ago, and you havent had much contact since even though you see them around a lot, do you think it's possible to fall back in love even after all that time? I used to think no, but recently I've started thinking that if you know someone that well for say, half a year, then it could be quite easy to feel like you have never been apart. My situation is complicated and I don't want to bore you with it, but do you think it's possible to be apart, mature, feel like you moved on, but one kiss a year on and suddenly be back where you were a year ago... :s-smilie:

definitely not.

i guess it depends on the situation...explain?

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Anonymous #2

I could quite easily fall back in love with a girlfriend I had for about 2 months almost three years back now.

We just don't speak. And I never see her. And we're both with other people now.

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Monkey_Maiden

I kinda think it can happen yes, but maybe it depends on the amount of time apart, contact in that time and the nature of the breakup.
I've only had one serious relationship and we split quite horribly and don't talk anymore, however if we met up in few months/years time whos to say I might still feel for him, however people move on and change meaning maybe the type person they are attracted to changes also

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sticky-kitten

In that year, both of you have changed. Probably not massively, but there will be differences in the way you each are now, compared to a year ago. And, as you've not had much contact, you don't yet know these differences - and you don't truly know the other person, and it's unlikely to be love.

But if you want to invest time and effort and emotions (and risk getting hurt - perhaps for a second time, i don't know the details), then there's nothing to say that you couldn't fall in love again sometime in the future.

Either that, or you're not actually over them, and have been kidding yourself for the last year. Makes you feel kinda daft, doesn't it?

Pretty much you just have to look at the realistc potential future of the relationship, and balance the bad stuff against the good stuff, the certainties against the uncertainties. But every situation is different, and we can't really help unless we know more details. Sorry xx

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Anonymous #1

i know, thanks though for your opinions. i wonder also whether i have kidded myself for the last year and that theres always been this hope that something might happen again. and when it did it shook me a lot and i dont know what i feel or what to think. relationships are so messed up sometimes

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Anonymous #3

very messed up, after breaking up with my boyfriend for some reason i don't know i started talking to an ex i was in love with who messed me about. we hadnt really spoken for a while sort of the odd message here and there turns out he wants to try things again and now i'm wondering if i ever was over him. though i'm not feeling an urge to get back with him it is at the back of my mind

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Anonymous #1

oh my god, that is exactly my situation...like i dont know whether i want to get back together and im not sure even he knows...but its always there at the back of my mind, like do i..dont i...what do i want. im so glad its not just me who has these problems. im so scared of gettin so involved and then getting hurt again

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Anonymous #4

I kinda feel the same about an ex. I love my current boyfriend a lot but there's something always niggling at the back of my mind that wonders if my ex thinks about me at all. We still see each other/are in lessons and talk but he's with another girl and they're great together. I think I just miss his company and being part of his life.

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Anonymous #3

exactly like me the main reason i won't go back to him is the very real possibility that it'll all happen again and i'll feel even more stupid then the first time round. it was one of those stormy crazy relationships and i thought i was over it, i'd got the drunken texts i kinda knew he still liked me but it was a bit out of the blue that he came out with it and explained everything to me. eh, i think it's best not to go there again at least not until i'm at uni too and i know who i am properly

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Anonymous #1

yeah i got the texts but they werent drunk, and this person actually came to see me to talk about things, but i went away from the conversation amazed he had finally realised how he feels but still confused about what he wants. i camt actually ask if he wants to go back out cos im not sure its what i want. but when he touched me, like hugged me it brought so much back

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enigma2506

its very possible and I'm sure it happens alot.

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Anonymous #3

this guy has always been open about the way he feels but he is a total flirt and i'm really not. since i broke off contact he has been fairly respectfull of that (except when drunk occasionally). i thought enough time had passed that it would all have fizzled out. but i still am a bit weirded out my friends would well and truely kill me if i went there again lol but i do think we are meant for each other shame he messed it up the first time round i'm not the type to forgive and forget

luckily i don't have to deal with seeing him cept on holidays and my stomach flips but that was christmas i don't know how it would be now.

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Anonymous #1

no my friends would never forgive me either, after all they did to help me through although i kept a lot of it to myself, it felt too personal to share and i thought i was overexaggerating..

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Anonymous #3

yeah the general feeling was that i was way too good for him, he was known to be a bit of a lad (he was the sweetest guy ever just put on an act). and i know a few people who don't like me wouldnt be too pleased either...but none of that matters in my heart i just don't trust that it wouldnt happen again as much as i want it to work out.

it takes a while to get over someone it would be a bit stupid to make it even harder for yourself