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Can a guy and girl be just close friends...and nothing more?
Right this is it....I think I'm falling for one of my closest guy friends. Only thing is i dno if it is jus a lil crush that'lll go away or sumthin more. I dno y bt with my guy friends i always seem to go thru phases where i think possibly, maybe, perhaps there might b a spark between us...bt then it goes away. Is there sumthing wrong wit me...or is this normal? Well should i do sumthing abt this latest thing (which i think may be more than a crush) or jus wait and see.
Oh yeh....n is it possible 4 guys n girls to b just friends without one of them feeling something more...?
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Reply 1
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Something tells me you're too young to fall in love... Can't quite put my finger on what it is...
Reply 2
no you are totally normal! loads of male friends of mine have said they have had crushes on me, and i have sometimes felt the same way back. i once went out with my best male friend but it didnt really work out, and we lost our friendship. when another friend i thought i liked, said he liked me i didnt do anything about it and we also lost contact eventually!! i think sometimes u have to try things, but always try and keeps thing so u can go back to being friends, although its seriosuyl hard and you have to decided whether its worth the risk
Reply 3
No, not often, from my own experience. I've lost track of the number of friendships I've had that've got screwed up because it's emerged that the guy was secretly in love with me 
or "wanted to be more than friends." Equally, I've been the one doing the unrequited thing once, too, but luckily it wasn't awkward when he told me he didn't feel the same way, or, more precisely that he didn't want to muck me around like his track-record suggests.Hmmmph. But, that said, have got lots of lovely male friends at uni, and so far so good. Depends I guess.
or "wanted to be more than friends." Equally, I've been the one doing the unrequited thing once, too, but luckily it wasn't awkward when he told me he didn't feel the same way, or, more precisely that he didn't want to muck me around like his track-record suggests.Hmmmph. But, that said, have got lots of lovely male friends at uni, and so far so good. Depends I guess.Reply 4
hugatree
Something tells me you're too young to fall in love... Can't quite put my finger on what it is...
omg don't patronise me...tho i must admit i came accross a lil immmature...i kno what i feel...n u kno nothin about me so can't judge. (but i gues ur entitled 2 ur opinion)
Reply 5
caramel_qt3
omg don't patronise me...tho i must admit i came accross a lil immmature...i kno what i feel...n u kno nothin about me so can't judge. (but i gues ur entitled 2 ur opinion)
Awww, mate...don't take it personally..think they were referring to your crazeeee choice of super-large kiddie coloured font! No worries!
Reply 6
I'm not sure, I have a group of guy mates and I can say I've fancied most of them at some point or other but it normally dwindles away to nothing. Saying that I'm in an awkward situation at the mo where one of them likes me and I'm not sure how I feel bout them.
BUT theer are guy mates I have never felt anything more than friendship for so I guess I don't know
BUT theer are guy mates I have never felt anything more than friendship for so I guess I don't know
Reply 7
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Vikki Pollard..... is that you???
Reply 8
johnnysgirl
Awww, mate...don't take it personally..think they were referring to your crazeeee choice of super-large kiddie coloured font! No worries!
fair enough
Reply 9
In answer yes, I have a friend like that, and I see her more as sister than a love. Im close with my sisters too but they have moved out, so its good that way.
Reply 10
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caramel_qt3
omg don't patronise me...tho i must admit i came accross a lil immmature...i kno what i feel...n u kno nothin about me so can't judge. (but i gues ur entitled 2 ur opinion)
Had a bit of a shock as I opened this thread.Personally I haven't fallen in love until I was 18, and I don't know how old you are but I'd say it's a crush 'cos if it was love you would KNOW and not ask.
Reply 11
To be fair, if you don't wanna be judged... don't post personal questions on a public message board.
Reply 12
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I think its completely possible for a guy and girls to be really close friends and nothing more
Reply 13
Is indeed possible to have purely platonic friendships with the opposite sex, have had a number of such friendships myself.
Though have had one of those situations more recently with a female friend in which I was always going back and forth in my mind as to whether it was more than mere friendship. Thankfully I didn't act upon it, and my god I am so happy it didn't go any further now, would have been a mess. She is now a friend and that’s that.
Likelihood is it will pass for you to, these things usually do. Unless you really are certain you want more from this guy, leave it be for now I would suggest, and see how you feel in the future.
Though have had one of those situations more recently with a female friend in which I was always going back and forth in my mind as to whether it was more than mere friendship. Thankfully I didn't act upon it, and my god I am so happy it didn't go any further now, would have been a mess. She is now a friend and that’s that.
Likelihood is it will pass for you to, these things usually do. Unless you really are certain you want more from this guy, leave it be for now I would suggest, and see how you feel in the future.
Reply 14
A guy and a girl can be close friends (depends how you define "close") if they've originally settled the issue of whether there might be something more to their friendship. If one or the other has come out and said, "I'm not attracted to you" or "I don't and never will see you in that way" then it could work. Otherwise one or the other will always wonder
Reply 15
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caramel_qt3
omg don't patronise me...tho i must admit i came accross a lil immmature...i kno what i feel...n u kno nothin about me so can't judge. (but i gues ur entitled 2 ur opinion)
Text speak makes baby Jesus cry. Let's try it again.
"Oh my god, don't patronise me. Thought I admit I came across as a little immature, I know what I feel, and you know nothing about me and so can't judge. However, I guess you're entitled to your opinion."
Text speak is banned from this forum. Clean up your act young lady, or your mouth will fall off and no young men will be interested in you any more!
Reply 16
[QUOTE=caramel_qt3I dno y bt with my guy friends i always seem to go thru phases where i think possibly, maybe, perhaps there might b a spark between us...
of course or you wouldn't b friends! was told the other day that me n my male mate had 'chemistry' and i was confused cos if we didn't wouldn't we not b friends???
of course or you wouldn't b friends! was told the other day that me n my male mate had 'chemistry' and i was confused cos if we didn't wouldn't we not b friends???
Reply 17
ooops f***ed up the quote thing! my bad!
Reply 18
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In theory yes, it should be possible to have platonic relationships, as you don't feel attracted to every member of the opposite sex/whichever sex you are attracted to you meet.
Sadly, I can relate to what you say- I find it very hard to differentiate between normal friendship and there being..more there. If I had the same feelings with some of my female friends without a doubt I'd write it off as normal friendship, but with my male friends you tend to wonder if there's something extra there.
My best male friend asked me out about..two years ago. And I turned him down, with the reasoning that it could ruin our friendship. Then he moved on (to my other friends..*ahem*) and now it seems to be repeating itself.
Sadly, I can relate to what you say- I find it very hard to differentiate between normal friendship and there being..more there. If I had the same feelings with some of my female friends without a doubt I'd write it off as normal friendship, but with my male friends you tend to wonder if there's something extra there.
My best male friend asked me out about..two years ago. And I turned him down, with the reasoning that it could ruin our friendship. Then he moved on (to my other friends..*ahem*) and now it seems to be repeating itself.
Reply 19
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hugatree
Something tells me you're too young to fall in love... Can't quite put my finger on what it is...
LOL so true.
guys and girls can be close friends easily.. i have lots of male friends who i don't have any attraction too.
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