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Can a guy and girl be just close friends...and nothing more?

Reply 20

13

Poica

Text speak is banned from this forum. Clean up your act young lady, or your mouth will fall off and no young men will be interested in you any more!

oh i wish that were true..

Reply 21

smessy

1

i don't think you can!! i was thinking about it the other day and basically always one of the two has deeper feelings!

Reply 22

annagruber

smessy

i don't think you can!! i was thinking about it the other day and basically always one of the two has deeper feelings!

I totally agree. Whether it be for a fraction of a second of a 'what if?' or for a longer, stronger period of time, I don't think there is ever a platonic relationship for both parties that is truely platonic for the entire relationship. Of course this doesn't mean they take it further, of even mean that it affects the friendship in anyway. I definately have one male friend who I know likes me a lot more than a friend, but it doesn't stop us from hanging out and doing 'normal' friend stuff.

Reply 23

pedy1986

13

It really depends what you mean by 'close' friends - its obviously possible to have alot of friends who are the opposite sex and not want anything more - but 'close' friends - which often because they are girl/guy tend to end up having a much deeper emotional intimacy (due to the friendship) but also tend to also be physically intimate, since its 'ok' for girls and guys to do such things.

Yes, its possible, but only if they are both happy in other relationships - but this usually ends the closeness of the friendship.

Reply 24

bob_54321

I think that writing god instead of God might make little baby Jesus cry too. While I'm in a pedantic mood, the start of the second quoted sentence should be "Though", not "Thought".

meh

Reply 25

*~vicki~*

2

in my opinion, it is totally possible for a guy and a girl to be close friends and nothing more- in fact one of my best mates is a boy, we've known each other since primary school and nothing has ever got in the way.

Reply 26

Dutchess of Doncaster

Me and my guy friend have been friends since he was born, pretty much (2 months after me) and grew up in eachother's pockets. We've never felt anything more than friendship for eachother and it has remained entirelly plutonic. So I'd argue yes.

Reply 27

RobbieC

15

Of course it is possible. A resounding, aye, I believe is necessary.

Reply 28

Eien

16

If I couldn't have a normal close friendship with a female I would go mad - the majority of my close friendships have been with girls, and it seems perfectly natural with no sexual connection - it is certainly possible.

Reply 29

In Love

yes and no.
Its possible if theres a reason/thing which stops u from being closer than "just friends" or in having a relationship
if not then theres always a chance of someone developing stronger feelings than "friends" coz after all you are friends and already know one another really well etc..
confusing!

Reply 30

latentcorpse

12

"Something tells me you're too young to fall in love... Can't quite put my finger on what it is..."

yeah the writing is just a little too large for my finger too!

Reply 31

dj315

Optimistic

A guy and a girl can be close friends (depends how you define "close") if they've originally settled the issue of whether there might be something more to their friendship. If one or the other has come out and said, "I'm not attracted to you" or "I don't and never will see you in that way" then it could work. Otherwise one or the other will always wonder

Very true. Every now and then i wonder but luckily if i do im a little drunk :redface:

Reply 32

Princess Ella

yes def. my best mate is is a guy-but he loves my boobs-and i love his hair and 6 pack

Reply 33

ladygrey

I definitely agree that when guys and girls are friends... "what if?" always happens. But in general... yes, you can be friends. One of my best friends is a guy... but we've never really been attracted to each other. we're just really close.

Reply 34

Poica

14

bob_54321

I think that writing god instead of God might make little baby Jesus cry too. While I'm in a pedantic mood, the start of the second quoted sentence should be "Though", not "Thought".

meh

Nah, Jesus is cool. He's just a grammar nazi. Trust me.

Reply 35

Marie05

1

i personally think that a guy and a girl CAN just be close friends..

i usually dont agree whatsoever with people who say "its all about the personality" that attracts them to someone else (for love) because looks in a way have to come into the equation...u have to be physically attracted to your partner..there has to be chemistry...there has to be something there that just makes u want to hold tight your partner everyday forever! i dont think that can just be personality! but i still believe personality is more important

To be just friends, the friend would have a decent personality that fits yours...so that the two of u have a lot of similarities and just simply get on..and can have lots of fun together as mates. so in this case there isnt any chemistry or physical attraction to one another..am i making any sense? or have i waffled on like i usually do!?

Reply 36

Niaya

13

I have several close male friends - because i tend to trust them more than some of my female friends. It was and does cause problems with boyfrieds geting jealous but from my point of view yes its possible

Can a guy and girl be just close friends...and nothing more?

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