really need advice here. ive had sex quite a lot now, with 3 different people, and every time, no matter how excited i am or how wet..sorry...dont know how else to put that, it always HURTS loads, to the point of where the pain hurts more than the pleasure. sometimes even fingering hurts me. i dont get whats wrong, because im not a virgin, and ive had all this done to me loads of times, yet it hurts!!! what can i do??? why is this?? im talking the standard missionary position here as well!!!! please dont suggest lubricant...too embarrassing, i dont think i need it ...help!!