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Sleeping with my girlfriend getting boring, HELP!

I've been with my girlfriend for about 3 months and sleepign with her has been getting repetitive. I've tried to suggest things for us (not outrageous(sp?)) but she doesn't seem to keen. She'd rather just lie there and take it, literally!

I had problems finishing last time and just had to pretend that I had, which was akward! She doesn't seem to, maybe thats why she prefers the one position and just takes IT. I really want to make it work and don't want to break it off but it's gotten pretty crap. Anyone gone though something similar that can help? I plan on taking to her properly soon but I'm afraid that she might get upset and may think I'm breaking up with her.

Thanks for your time!

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Try asking her what she likes, perhaps give her a back rub before doing any foreplay or full on sex.
Reply 2
i say just abstain from sex for the rest of lent. seriously. then when you rediscover sex, the kaboom will be there again. maybe youve forgotten how good it is
Tell her you want roleplay, fantasy, fetish. bondage, doggy style, tantra and you won't accept anything less.
Reply 4
Or you could talk to her about the problem rather than rewriting the Kamasutra when you simply need to rewrite the order of events.
talking is the key role, but i spose it can be embarrassing for us girls, but if she loves u she will listen, the thing is you have to make sure she doesnt think you're telling her shes bad at sex ok? thats really bad for self esteem and she will worry constantly, making sex even worse. good luck
Reply 6
mate im Catholicc virgin so not much help.

but if the relationship revolves around sex. the sex is boring and she wont change it. seems the relationship is over.

maybe get her drunk and ask her to tell you her fantasies then act hem out
wel dont tell her that you are finding it boring - maybe you could as her if shes enjoying it how it is? and say that you want to try some new positions etc to try and make it better for her?
Reply 8
Is this just a sex problem or are you experiencing a lack of interest in each other in general? It's really important to keep flirting, keep going out on romantic dates, touch each other lovingly throughout the day, keep teasing etc.

Was she ever up for trying things out? Maybe you need to see to her needs and help show her how pleasurable sex can be before expecting her to branch out?
Reply 9
anal sex?? there's other ways to try. or oral?
blissy
Is this just a sex problem or are you experiencing a lack of interest in each other in general? It's really important to keep flirting, keep going out on romantic dates, touch each other lovingly throughout the day, keep teasing etc.

Was she ever up for trying things out? Maybe you need to see to her needs and help show her how pleasurable sex can be before expecting her to branch out?


yeah blissys definitely right, you have to tease the life out of her, make her gag for it honestly. If shes in the right mood and she starts to tease back so you will be too. Whenever you kiss her, bite her lip gently or something like that and just make things a little more steamier than beforehand. Maybe experiment more when having sex, different positions and what not. Excite her mentally and physically - the more turned on she is....the more the sex should be pleasurable :smile:
blissy
Is this just a sex problem or are you experiencing a lack of interest in each other in general? It's really important to keep flirting, keep going out on romantic dates, touch each other lovingly throughout the day, keep teasing etc.

Was she ever up for trying things out? Maybe you need to see to her needs and help show her how pleasurable sex can be before expecting her to branch out?


To be honest over the last month I haven't seen her as much as I would have liked because for uni work. You made some good points, thanks!

Thanks everyone.

:tsr2:
Reply 12
Anal is the answer here.
Reply 13
Talk about it. You only been together 3 months and its boring, I have been with my gf just over 3 months and havnt done it with her yet. Spice it up a bit, take her in the shower. Lead up to sex dont just jump straight in if you know what I mean. If she just "takes it" she probably isnt really in the mood or simply cant be bothered, so try be romantic and try waiting for sex for a while so you both gagging for it. Good luck.
Is there a specific reason she dislikes to be adventurous? Are you the guy who posted something similar earier? and that she doesnt do oral? I know tht lots of girls can be funny about it until they try it!

one thing that may be bothering her is that shes worried about failing you, getting wrong etc. That tends to hold me back.

and the idea of "witholding" can work a treat for you both. then you both want it that much more when you get round to having it! So maybe some no touchy time is it, just kisses and cuddles in bed, and no sex.
Reply 15
Fresh Prince
To be honest over the last month I haven't seen her as much as I would have liked because for uni work. You made some good points, thanks!

Thanks everyone.

:tsr2:


hm there goes anonymity.

i have been with my boyfriend for over a year and we do have a fantastic sex life. the best thing for sex i have found is not to do it for a while. like if we dont have sex for 3 days we both go mad and the sex is more than amazing:smile:
Reply 16
Anonymous
I've been with my girlfriend for about 3 months and sleepign with her has been getting repetitive. I've tried to suggest things for us (not outrageous(sp?)) but she doesn't seem to keen. She'd rather just lie there and take it, literally!

I had problems finishing last time and just had to pretend that I had, which was akward! She doesn't seem to, maybe thats why she prefers the one position and just takes IT. I really want to make it work and don't want to break it off but it's gotten pretty crap. Anyone gone though something similar that can help? I plan on taking to her properly soon but I'm afraid that she might get upset and may think I'm breaking up with her.

Thanks for your time!


i say encourage her to try doggy style. i dont find sex particularly inspiring just lying on my back! and its a lot harder for the guy to hit the right spot when a girls on her back. for me i get most pleasure out of doggy style and at least its something different. and its easy to expand, try both kneeling on the bed, or her on the bed and you standing on the floor, or try it in the bathroom over the bath or something. lots of variations that might make things a little bit more interesting for you.
theflcgal
i say encourage her to try doggy style. i dont find sex particularly inspiring just lying on my back! and its a lot harder for the guy to hit the right spot when a girls on her back. for me i get most pleasure out of doggy style and at least its something different. and its easy to expand, try both kneeling on the bed, or her on the bed and you standing on the floor, or try it in the bathroom over the bath or something. lots of variations that might make things a little bit more interesting for you.


I agree hehe :smile:
When I was with my bf we had a great sex life, we argued tonnes but the sex was good, think reason why it never got dull was because we were very experimentative and had no inhibitions.
Maybe try talking to her and see if she has anything she would like to try?
I have to say, me and my bf dont have that adventurous sex all the time, but i love to be close to him anyway, so its all good. But we have a lot of foreplay etc, so its not boring ever.
She needs to stop getting IT until she stops being a corpse... tell her shes crap and needs to sort herself out... then ask her how old her sister is.

Seriously... she needs to know your not happy, she'll make an effort if she cares at all.