Never going to happen

Ok I get some girls when I go out etc but I have never actually met that girl who would want to go out with me and who i feel the same way about. the girls who start to like me like that i usually do not fancy. bit of a useless thread but i need a bit of cheering up..

is it possible to go throughout your whole life without actually meeting someone decent whilst everyone else goes through their various relationships?.. im 18 and my longest has been 3 months.

Reply 1

ladygrey

No. you WILL meet someone. I'm 18 also, and I haven't yet had one really good relationship with someone who treated me right and loved me. But sometimes it takes a while. I'm sure you are wonderful and fabulous and handsome and someone (probably many people) who you like will want to be with you. Just... maybe not today or tommorrow... but soon :smile:

Reply 2

username47781

20

only now i am in a good relationship and i'm 24 i have had before many bad relationships.

Reply 3

Eien

16

Anonymous

Ok I get some girls when I go out etc but I have never actually met that girl who would want to go out with me and who i feel the same way about. the girls who start to like me like that i usually do not fancy. bit of a useless thread but i need a bit of cheering up..

is it possible to go throughout your whole life without actually meeting someone decent whilst everyone else goes through their various relationships?.. im 18 and my longest has been 3 months.

There are people attracted to you at least, one day you will find that mutual attraction, I have never had a relationship at all, not even one day, or any girl even feeling the tiniest possible hint of a sliver of attraction for me, so I know exactly how it is. In some cases it can be lack of luck, feeling alienated, lack of confidence, not feeling attracted to anyone else, or waiting for the right time.

Reply 4

high priestess fnord

9

wasnt till i was 18 that i met ne1 i actually formed a proper relationship with and even now i wonder if i was quite ready to be tied down. what difference does another month or year make? enjoy being single.

Reply 5

Mr Brightside

**** sake, I mean what a pathetic post - i'm 18 and i've only gone out with a girl the longest for three months. Listen mate, enjoy it, you've got your whole life ahead of you - and why are you posting anonymously, big deal. Obviously this is a projection - It ain't girls bothering you, it's something else and you just want some comforting. Sort out the real problems first.

Now that's advice, believe it or not.

Reply 6

Eien

16

For most people, it isn't necessarily not having a relationship that is the source of sadness, but a low level of confidence or lack of fulfilling emotion such as love. However I do sympathise, it is easy to fall into a negative complex, where you actually find comfort in negative emotions, and to some extent, when somebody proves your negative assumptions wrong, you can feel worse when you are meant to feel better (e.g. There are plenty of other people that are also single). Changing this attitude is gradual, but essential - talk to others about it to become more positive in yourself, it won't happen overnight. You ask for comfort but its difficult to provide that on a forum in any case, especially since we know little of your circumstances.

Reply 7

Anonymous #2

Mr Brightside

**** sake, I mean what a pathetic post - i'm 18 and i've only gone out with a girl the longest for three months. Listen mate, enjoy it, you've got your whole life ahead of you - and why are you posting anonymously, big deal. Obviously this is a projection - It ain't girls bothering you, it's something else and you just want some comforting. Sort out the real problems first.

Now that's advice, believe it or not.

you're mean. it gets to me too that i haven't had any long term relationships yet, because it feels like everyone else has. you don't have to be so harsh on him. i have to say, for me it is a big deal and there ARE no other problems in my life. perhaps that sounds childish or whatever to you, but i am happy with my friends, family, schoolwork, body etc. the one thing that gets to me is that i can never find a man who treats me right. other people feel differently from you, you should realise that!

Reply 8

so_this_is_sam

3

mr brightside was too harsh there. of course it matters, if it bothers you then obviously you dont need ppl like that answering. but seriously, dont worry! relationships are all about experimenting right? im almost 18 and ive NOT met Mr Right and dont even think i want to this young anyway. arent we meant to have fun at this age!! the whole marriage and kids type relationships annoy me , thats for later in life, friends should come first at this age x

Reply 9

KingRalph

3

Here's something to think about... Study how differently you act with the girls you don't fancy. Standoffish? Like you couldn't care either way? Hmmmm... there's something going on here. I reckon that you're probably rather nervous and 'obviously attracted' to the girls that you fancy and as such, are scaring them away. You're coming off as needy old boy, and you need to stop it. This is just speculation of course but I reckon that if you look at the differences in how you interact with these girls you will see it for yourself.
Take heed of the advice offered about improving and being happy with yourself too, it's not just feelgood ********... it's actually very relevant.

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