how do i make girls see me as a potentinal boyf...not just a friend

hey, sorry for the anonymous but i think some people on here know me, anyways just wondering if anyone can help with my problem:

whenever i find a girl im interested in, it never works out - they always see me as more of a friend, in a couple of cases developed to best friend, and then they start talking to me about guys they like etc. which is rly not what i want

anyone got any tips on how to lead to more of a possible relationship, rather thn friendship?

thanks alot guys

Reply 1

username47781

20

well first of all the trick is not to rush straight in take your time get to know them, obviously socialise with them find out what she likes etc whether its what you like.

Reply 2

TomX

14

Don't talk to them about things you'd talk to friends about.

Reply 3

WokSz

17

TomX

Don't talk to them about things you'd talk to friends about.

ditto.

Anonymous

hey, sorry for the anonymous but i think some people on here know me, anyways just wondering if anyone can help with my problem:

whenever i find a girl im interested in, it never works out - they always see me as more of a friend, in a couple of cases developed to best friend, and then they start talking to me about guys they like etc. which is rly not what i want

anyone got any tips on how to lead to more of a possible relationship, rather thn friendship?

thanks alot guys

Mate, I'm in the same boat as you. It's been two and a half years for me now. Right now my biggest problem is that almost every sigle girl I know is in a relationship...and I probably know and see fairly often more girls than I ever have done before....so even if I wanted any to be interested in me I doubt it would happen.

But if yuo find a solution, then please let me know...lol

Reply 5

high priestess fnord

9

sounds like you need to make it clear from the start that u are interested. try flirting more. its good that u find it easy to make friends with the opposit sex but if u want more u have to give out the right signals and not be so passive.

Reply 6

Anonymous #1

OP

thanks for the replys guys, anymore help will be appreciated

Don't talk to them about things you'd talk to friends about.
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if i dont talk to them about stuff i talk to my friends about, what can i talk about? thats the stuff i know about so conversations guna be difficult otherwise :s-smilie:

Reply 7

Anonymous #1

OP

thanks for the replys guys, anymore help will be appreciated

Don't talk to them about things you'd talk to friends about.
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if i dont talk to them about stuff i talk to my friends about, what can i talk about? thats the stuff i know about so conversations guna be difficult otherwise :s-smilie:

Reply 8

Anonymous #1

OP

*sorry about the double post there, was a mistake - pressed the post reply button a little too enthusiatically hehe

Reply 9

galactic_star

try talking about astrology...... :smile:

Reply 10

john!!

1

"pretty boy" got it right.
astrology hahahar

Reply 11

Anonymous #2

i have the same prob as a girl, anyone im iver interested in sees my a a friend, not been in a relationship for 2 and a half years and it gets really tiresom when everyone else around me is getting boyfriends and whatever. its shiht, i know what your goin through!

Reply 12

high priestess fnord

9

same advise to anon#2. if and when u find some1 single and attractive make a move!! dont wait for a guy to come to u. be proactive.

Reply 13

pendragon

13

Anonymous

hey, sorry for the anonymous but i think some people on here know me, anyways just wondering if anyone can help with my problem:

whenever i find a girl im interested in, it never works out - they always see me as more of a friend, in a couple of cases developed to best friend, and then they start talking to me about guys they like etc. which is rly not what i want

anyone got any tips on how to lead to more of a possible relationship, rather thn friendship?

thanks alot guys

Ask a girl for her number/email address the first time you meet her, dont have a very long conversation with her, grab her attention, get her number and then leave soon after saying I will call you/email you. That makes it pretty obvious because you wont have spoken long enough for it to be a friendship yet and you have asked her out.

When you see a girl at a party etc just walk up and say "hi" (no chat up lines), and then ask her question about herself which cannot be answered by a yes or no, keep pracitising this. When you see a girl, and possibly make eye contact you have exactly 3 seconds to start walking towards her or you will start thinking and your nerves will kick in and most likely you will never do it.

You must make it obvious that you are hitting on her, you dont have to flirt at first if your not good at it just be confident, and ask for her number within 5 minutes. Your objective is to put yourself inside the girls head, and then leave. So she wonders hey that guy liked me, why did he leave. Once you have her worrying about whether you will call and thinking about you then you have her.

If she gives her number/email to you then ask her out for coffee, I think that will kinda give her the idea, if she doesnt like you she wont give you her number/email, she will give you a fake one, or she will make excuses that she is busy.

The only way to do this is to get rejected over and over, and lose your fear of rejection. If a girl doesnt want you then she is the one who has missed out, poor thing. Think that and dont be bothered about rejection, then you will become more confident and start to be successful. Think about it this way when you play football you miss every shot at the goal that you dont take. If you try and score you will fail sometimes, it is life, but if you dont try you dont get any goals, its better to try 20 times and be successful twice. Get what I am saying?

Anonymous

i have the same prob as a girl, anyone im iver interested in sees my a a friend, not been in a relationship for 2 and a half years and it gets really tiresom when everyone else around me is getting boyfriends and whatever. its shiht, i know what your goin through!

I think you are the female version of me....lol.

Liek I said above, I've been single for 2 and ahalf years and here almost everyone I know is in a relationship... :frown:

Reply 15

Ron Stoppable

14

I know, I know! Hide your desires, lie to yourself and be a beta boy. No, really... :biggrin:

Reply 16

Anonymous #1

OP

thank you, ok so next step in my problem:
theres a girl i got to know about a year ago and we went down the friends route as opposed to relationship, now i duno what to do :frown:

i like her so so much but were "friends" and once thats happened, i know its really hard for a girl to see you as anything else, so now after ur help i now what to do with any future girls but anyone gt any advice for this girl?

Reply 17

Monkey_Maiden

11

Can't you casually flirt with her? Little things such as complimenting her, eye contact, smiling at her etc
If she responds groovy :smile:

Reply 18

lawzer

Anonymous

thank you, ok so next step in my problem:
theres a girl i got to know about a year ago and we went down the friends route as opposed to relationship, now i duno what to do :frown:

i like her so so much but were "friends" and once thats happened, i know its really hard for a girl to see you as anything else, so now after ur help i now what to do with any future girls but anyone gt any advice for this girl?

I think you should play a little game. THis from my experience as a girl with blokes who have been my mate and then i start to fancy them. The key is to make her laugh as much as possible and slightly flirty, a taster if u like. BUT if you push it too far then she might say no..u dnt wnat that! :smile:

I know the playing hard to get doesnt work sometimes. But the bloke im thinking of when he spoke to me, he looked me in the eye and laughed but i never saw too much of him. LIke episodes a day. Which was good coz then i was wondering if i fancy him.....

Then play the jelousy card. Talk to other girls but dnt give them the same amount of eye contact or do something less, but enough for her to want to be with you instead of your other person/helper. Dont over do this to heavy flirting (More than u do to the girl u like) or you cld push her away, just make the other girl laugh..again not as much. Soz if this is being long winded..trying to help. Just make the one you like feel special but let her wonder if she really is or whther she thinks she is coz she fancies u and therefore wants to be. Truth being u are singling her out more, but dnt make it to obvious. Leave that to her brain. :elefant:

When she starts approaching you more and starts acting different...its time to ask her I know this soundssss reallly silly, but someone told me..i laughed when they did but its quite true. If you think she does like you but need clarification or a sign or something more but subtle-try this. Put an obvious piece of visible string/wool on ur blazer? shirt? It definitely shouldnt be there. Talk to her with it on u..make her laugh etc, talk, whatever u do best. She'll see the odd piece that shouldnt be there on you
If she removes it theres potential. The way she moves it is the biggest hint. Whether she gets a little embarassed or whatever little thing she may do, (best to put thread on shoulder-sort of masculine and shoulders are kinda sexy or round the collar-thats easily visible i guess). If you wear a blazer on bit that folds.

ANYWAYS the way she removes it will be the biggest hint. Give it at least a few hours before u ask her out. If she didnt remove it and she definitely saw it, and u talked for longer than 3 mins. Chances arent great. Hope this helped and made sense. I know it sounds silly but if she likes u..she'll want you looking your best-and gives her an excuse to touch you in a wifey, loving way? :date:

That was long..if u do it tell me what happens

Reply 19

sweetangel

1

talk and walk confidently, again make her laugh in a bit of flirty way. Being funny is so attractive but dont need to try too hard.

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