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How do I break it to him?

I'm in deep trouble. I've been involved with this guy for a good 3 month now. the trouble is that were both leaving to uni soon and my school work is keeping me so busy. to an extend that i dont even have time to talk or text him. also I realized about a week ago that I dont like him really. the relationship has kinda been slow so i didnt see him much but last weekend it just hit me that i dont have feelings for him. i know i have to end it with him but heres the problem. he keeps telling me how much I mean to him. and it the first time he really said it to me was begginning this week when i already new i had to end it. this makes it ten times worse I want to tell him this friday, but as im busy i cant go out to see him....is it fair to tell him over the phone?

also i think i was the first girl hes ever had a relationship with

please reply within the hour as i wont be able to get back here after that till sunday.

Reply 1

high priestess fnord

9

over the phone isnt perfect. it would be better if u could see him. there isnt really a rush to do it as long as you do. another thing if you are doing exams i assume he is too. unless he brings it up i would wait untill the exams are over. just make it clear that he is a great guy and its not his fault.

Reply 2

shinytoy

18

break up with him honestly and gently. do it sooner than later otherwise he's going to love you more the more time you are spending 'together'. i think as u say, u dont speak to him much so on some level he probably know it already.oryy

Reply 3

Anonymous #1

OP

why should i wait til the exams are over? i dont like him why should i stay with him? my exams arent until later but we are preparing (we are in different schools). the thing is it hurts me so much everytime he says something about wut i mean to him because i know i dont feel the same way. so i want to end it fast. i wont get to see him this weekend or the next so i think i have to tell him over the phone. please some one tell me that its ok to do that. :frown:

Reply 4

high priestess fnord

9

sorry with the work thing i assumed exams were imminent and dumpung some1 just b4 exams is never a good thing. yes it is ok to do it over the phone if u honestly cant see him but it does seem to be the easy way for you because u dont have to see his reaction.

gl

Reply 5

Talon

18

Not really. Why cant you see him this weekend? If you are going to break up with him you arent going to be spending all day with him...

Reply 6

Anonymous #1

OP

no he doesnt suspect.....he keeps telling me how good this relationship is. i feel so terrible but wut am i supposed to do? :frown:

Reply 7

Segat1

16

tell the truth. gently. its never easy to do but you jus thave to say that is it not working out and you're sorry.

Reply 8

TrentEnd

2

The longer you leave it the worse it'll be...just be honest

Reply 9

Talon

18

Dont convince yourself that revision time means you cant take the time to do the break up face to face. Basically you are just lying to yourself and trying to make it easier on you. He will have more respect for you if you do it face to face. Over the phone isnt that much better than a text message.

Reply 10

yeahyeahyeahs

16

i think the boy might fail he's exam because he will be trying to get over you after the dump. there is no wrong or right solution to this.

Reply 11

Evil-Tuna

2

TrentEnd

The longer you leave it the worse it'll be...just be honest

Dont listen to him, he supports nottingham forest

Reply 12

username47781

20

This is a horrible situation, i'm guessing you are just too young for this kind of thing yet you got a guy that thinks the world of you, there's no easy way at all of doing this.

Reply 13

pendragon

13

Anonymous

I'm in deep trouble. I've been involved with this guy for a good 3 month now. the trouble is that were both leaving to uni soon and my school work is keeping me so busy. to an extend that i dont even have time to talk or text him. also I realized about a week ago that I dont like him really. the relationship has kinda been slow so i didnt see him much but last weekend it just hit me that i dont have feelings for him. i know i have to end it with him but heres the problem. he keeps telling me how much I mean to him. and it the first time he really said it to me was begginning this week when i already new i had to end it. this makes it ten times worse I want to tell him this friday, but as im busy i cant go out to see him....is it fair to tell him over the phone?

also i think i was the first girl hes ever had a relationship with

please reply within the hour as i wont be able to get back here after that till sunday.

If he has exams too, then you must wait until after exams to break up with him, and you have the perfect excuse to see him less due to revision. Then you can say we are both leaving uni and I dont think we are heading in the same direction, I want spend a year in Buddhist monastry in Burma... yadda yadda yadda.... that would be the nicest way to do it.

Reply 14

TrentEnd

2

Evil-Tuna

Dont listen to him, he supports nottingham forest

booo, you're lucky I'm in a good mood! :rolleyes:

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