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Attitudes towards older virgins (21-26)

Anonymous #1

what do you think of people in this agre range and older who are virgins.

Reply 1

AT82

1) Is there any point to this thread
2) Why is it anonymous?

Reply 2

ChemistBoy

16

If it is a personal decision then that's fine. If it is because you can't even though you try - it is a bit sad.

Reply 3

Monkey_Maiden

11

Wouldn't really bother me, they could be waiting for the right person or simply not want to. :smile:

Reply 4

so_this_is_sam

3

Suppose it is a matter of personal choice

Reply 5

Ryan

10

Personal choice, you can't judge people for no good reason to be fair

Reply 6

wendy_17

1

I look up to these people it shows that they havent let peer pressure lead them into doing something that they really don't want to do so well done :smile:

Personally I lost mine last year (Im 17) and dnt regret it but would have liked to wait longer

Reply 7

Segat1

16

TBH I don't know any

Reply 8

username47781

20

Ok let me get a point straight any girl who is still a virgin between say 18-26 are not losers, what the hell is wrong with being a virgin at that age, yeah maybe it hasn't happened yet so what i am sure in time it will the best thing is not to give into peer pressure into losing it. And for those who are waiting for the right moment thats good take your time no need to rush, nothing wrong with being a virgin at that age.

Reply 9

lawzer

Deciding to loose your virginity is in many cases a choice. If someone doesnt want to, whether it be for waiting for someone, beliefs or disagreeing or thinking the reason they have for having sex isnt good enough then i fully respect that. There is alot of pressure to have sex and there really shouldnt. If the case is uve tried to loose ur virginity..and become a slapper wnabee or a playa wnabee. Ur virginity had become like a boomerrang. You cant get rid of it...then thats kinda just funny :biggrin:

When people say the chance never came up, think u need to slow down and think why. Maybe u havent found the right person or circumstances. :suith:

If you tried REALLY hard to get urself laid and failed or even suceeded...maybe take a good few steps back and get happy or self containned without sex before jumping into bed with the first person who gives u the green light. Either way it will happen when it does, and you just got to ignore judgements or stop being worried because at the end of the day its ur life. So live it how u see fit! :biggrin:

Reply 10

Anonymous #2

I don't think there's anything wrong with it. It's great that some people have enough respect for themselves so when they lose it to someone special, it'll have more meaning. Tbh, I think those who lost their virginity early are the desperate ones since they obviously wanted peer approval...well, unless it was forced on to them of course.

Reply 11

Schmokie Dragon

17

Nowt wrong with it. Its their choice after all. Sex is no one elses business.

Reply 12

completely random

8

Schmokie Dragon

Nowt wrong with it. Its their choice after all. Sex is no one elses business.

I couldn't agree more.

Reply 13

Lauren Hart

3

my bf was 24 when we first had sex, we were both virgins and it was so special for me, coz he'd had a few chances and passed them over because he wanted it to be really special. and when i talk to him now and ask if he wishes we'd done it together earlier (we had had the chace and inclination) he said no, because it was so prefect :redface:

It actually refreshing to see people wait! I hate the attitude (Which my mother shares) that anyone who hasnt had sex by the time their 21 are losers or have a problem or something just isnt normal! Some people just want to only have one sexual partner all their life and wait for it to be right!

Reply 14

Angelil

19

similar story to you Lauren - I lost my virginity to my boyfriend, and he lost his to me. I was almost 19, he was 23. This wasn't because either of us were 'losers' as someone so delicately put it, or because either of us were saving ourselves until marriage: the right person just hadn't come along yet, and there's nothing wrong with that.

Reply 15

Lauren Hart

3

Ye, I think "worse" of people who screw anything with a pulse just for having sex. Theres something really special about a person who waits till its right! You get such an emotional attatchment, knowing that they find you special enough to give themselves to you.

Reply 16

Princess Ella

well-it depends really on the person-but dont have sex for the sake of having sex-do it with the person u love but if you're not ready-thats another story

Reply 17

Anonymous #3

I find a lot of people have the attitude that virgins in their 20's are losers, which is ridiculous. There are a LOT of downsides to sex, such as pregnancy and STDs which put me off it completely as a teenager. I had 2 cousins get pregnant young and if I had, my parents would have literally killed me. Now I wouldn't mind losing my virginity, I feel like I am ready (I'm 21) but I'm not going to go out and screw the first guy I meet. It makes me laugh when girls think they're so hot/special because guys want to sleep with them. Most guys would sleep with anything with a pulse. I've had several opportunities recently to have a one night stand but chose not to take them. I at least want to know the person first.

Reply 18

amie

14

Anonymous

I don't think there's anything wrong with it. It's great that some people have enough respect for themselves so when they lose it to someone special, it'll have more meaning. Tbh, I think those who lost their virginity early are the desperate ones since they obviously wanted peer approval...well, unless it was forced on to them of course.

Isn't it possible that someone who lost their virginity at a young age did find someone special, and it did have meaning? You seem to be saying that it can't have meaning unless you've waited ages for it.

Reply 19

frost105

14

My fella was 23 when he lost his virginity. He wanted to wait.

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