Seriously worrying, SEX hurts ALL the time

You might not be relaxed enough and therefore if you are tense it will hurt if the penetration is forced.

Try using lubrication as well.

I have been having sex a for quite a few years now :redface:

and I still get sore after sex - especially if it is a quite rushed fumble :biggrin:

Vaseline is a God send!

Reply 2

zooropa

Go and see the doctor.

OK I'm not female, but sex shouldn't really hurt. It hurts the first time because the vaginal muscles aren't used to penetration.

Reply 3

ChemistBoy

See your doctor and don't be shy about the full details either. Sex should not be painful.

Reply 4

username47781

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Well first of all don;t rush straight into it becuase its more likely to hurt that way, start off with maybe a gentle rub to relax you then maybe some foreplay, plenty of lubricants and when you do finally get to the full on bit don't go wham bam straight away build it up nice and slow at first.

Reply 5

Would not recommend Vaseline as it may irritate you further - and if using condoms as it will rot the rubber/latex stuff :eek:

use water based lube i.e. KY....

incidently, what does the KY stand for???

Note: are you sure you're doing it in the right hole?

Reply 6

segat1

Would not recommend Vaseline as it may irritate you further - and if using condoms as it will rot the rubber/latex stuff :eek:

use water based lube i.e. KY....

incidently, what does the KY stand for???

Ooh we always use Vaseline. Works just fine for us.

Reply 7

http://www.bbc.co.uk/teens/girls/sexloveandlife/atozofyou/sexandbodyfiles/condoms.shtml

lynseyweth

Ooh we always use Vaseline. Works just fine for us.

really - should be careful -

If you use a lubricant make sure it’s water-based (like KY Jelly) - oil-based lubricants (like Vaseline) can make condoms break.
If the condom splits see your doctor or family planning clinic right away.

Reply 8

Bexxxx

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My friend has the same prob, she asked in the FPC and they said that she would be best off making an app. with a gyno through the doctor, just to make sure everything was okay down there. But i think some girls are just naturally small. Good Luck!

Reply 9

segat1

really - should be careful -
http://www.bbc.co.uk/teens/girls/sexloveandlife/atozofyou/sexandbodyfiles/condoms.shtml

Hmmm. Whispers: We don't always use condoms

When we do use condoms that often gives enough lubrication in itself. It's only when we don't that we use Vaseline to make it easier (you know) :redface:

Edit: I will stop giving out bad sex advice now :biggrin:

Reply 10

lynseyweth

Hmmm. Whispers: We don't always use condoms

When we do use condoms that often gives enough lubrication in itself. It's only when we don't that we use Vaseline to make it easier (you know) :redface:

well, you're getting married so fair enough. But seriously, its a by-product of petroleum refining - do you really want that up your woozer?

Reply 11

segat1

well, you're getting married so fair enough. But seriously, its a by-product of petroleum refining - do you really want that up your woozer?

Never thought about it like that to be honest. Ok, guess what I am going to be buying next time I'm out?

Yes, that's right - some proper lubrication.
I just thought - well Vaseline is good enough for my lips and my dad's sore butt on holiday - :rofl:

Reply 12

so_this_is_sam

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are you serious about the vaseline thing?? i never knew that!

Reply 13

^^ Yeah! If you read anyl leaflet in a pack of condoms, it says you should use water based lube, never vaseline or baby oil as it reacts with the latex (or summink) and weakens it. Hence, condom breaks and HELLO MUMMY!!!!

Reply 14

segat1

^^ Yeah! If you read anyl leaflet in a pack of condoms, it says you should use water based lube, never vaseline or baby oil as it reacts with the latex (or summink) and weakens it. Hence, condom breaks and HELLO MUMMY!!!!

Yep, it makes total sense now that I have thought about it.
Wait til I see Jake tonight and play war with him for never reading the condom packets properly :mad:

In fact I think I will make him buy the "real" lubrication. It was his cheap skate idea to use Vaseline :biggrin:

Now babyoil - that's a totally different idea altogether :p:

Reply 15

so_this_is_sam

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hmm reaaaalllly glad u told me that, i wld never have thought to read condom packets!!!!! so what do u use, like K Jelly or something? slightly embarrassing buying that, vaseline cld be for anything!!

Reply 16

well, buy it at the supermarket, like Tescos (where they have the self checkout thingies) and no-one has to see that you are buying it!

Failing that, I am sure Ann Summers does a line of diffferent "duty" lube.... :wink:

KY is the best thing in the world :biggrin:

Reply 17

so_this_is_sam

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cant stop laughing at this, i really dont think il ever be buying KY jelly, lets just hope i never need too. Ann Summers is right on the high street and EVERY1 can see if you go in there, which is just too embarrassing. i swear they wld do better if they put their shop on a side street!!

Reply 18

dogtanian

Eeek, babyoil is bad for condoms too.

And going into boots and buying lube isn't a big deal. If you can buy condoms OK, you can buy other things...

Ann Summers would do worse if they were on a backsteet. They want to have an open and fun image, not a seedy one.

I go in there and I'm OK. In fact, you always see loads of people going in and out. Hardly doing badly on the high street, I think!

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