Is this going to be a bad thing to do? (girl related of course)

Dude the way i see it, youve got an opening, msg her what have you got to loose?, tell you saw her at blah and again at blah, but never got a chance to say hello so your doing now, and then get chattin and make friends and well yuo should know the rest by now, good luck dude

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so_this_is_sam

You could message her asking her to meet you after the lecture or something> That way you know whether she will be there or not, and can plan what you want to say

If you were a girl and some guy you don't know messaged you asking to meet you somewhere would you do it? I think we both know the answer. Nice idea though.

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hence the reason i said msg her, say hello and then say you wanted to say hello at the religious social but never got a chance, she will accept you and start chattin or not, simple as

Reply 5

OP

Ok, so assuming i message her saying i saw her there and whatever details. Would it be advised to do that before or after tuesday? If i do it before and then on the rare chance i do get to speak to her on tuesday it could seem a bit weird. As a side note we both live in London so i doubt she lives that far from me if she really did want to meet up out of term time; but obviously that'd be a lot more difficult to do.

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bewithoutyou

I agree with the above poster. And add her to your friends list on Facebook.

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high priestess fnord

9

why dont u msg her and explain that youve seen her around but have never had the chance to talk to her? since you are in the lecture together you could ask her if she would like a drink in the student bar or something afterwards? it shouldnt sound too dodgy especially if u mention that it was the religous social that u first saw her at and u were just too shy to make a move.

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Flank Runner

hence the reason i said msg her, say hello and then say you wanted to say hello at the religious social but never got a chance

That's a slight half-truth. She was standing practically next to me by herself. I was just working out what i was going to say and procrastinating and then after a few minutes she went elsewhere. I was so angry with myself :redface:

She was next to me later on that evening, but with people and i was more intimidated then. (i'm really bad at these social things :redface:

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dude i'm not condoning lying but for the sake of meeting the possible 'one', damn boy one white lie never killed anyone, so msg her and get chattin, get to know her, get to be her friend and take it from there

Reply 10

OP

Ok, i was just venting...it pissed me off so much how lame i was. You think i should message before tuesday then? Some time on the weekend?

Here's another thing though. As i said it was at a religious thing and there's cliqués and i lived last year with some of her friends (girls). She might say something to them and i don't know what they'd say about me; i wasn't a bad guy - perhaps nice and kind, but they may not think i look much and dis-courage her. Then there's just the awkwardness of them knowing i messaged and it's the type of circles where word probably spreads around. But as i side note i have a month to hide i guess.

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high priestess fnord

9

well theres the dodgy excuse out of the window if u know some of her mates. i doubt they would discourage her based on looks, if they do then she probly isnt worth knowing but she will probly be curious enough about you to meet up. think about how much more pissed off you will be if you dont msg her and end up not seeing her by the end of uni.

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dude theirs a motto i have lived by, thanks to the way i was brought up,

do or die,

basically try anything once, just go for it, even if it dont work out, you'll be better off then than if you never asked her, if you never try you can never win, so just give it a go, who knows her friends might encourage her if you were a nice bloke :smile:

, just go with your gut and your heart and you cant regret a thing, just dont over analyse anything

Reply 13

OP

If she asks people they'll know who i am. But that's assuming she asks. I'll do something on the weekend, maybe just say hi or say something along those lines; not suggest meeting up as that's kind of soon. I've got no idea what i'd say though. Any more suggestions are welcome though.

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Flank Runner

dude theirs a motto i have lived by, thanks to the way i was brought up,

do or die,

basically try anything once, just go for it, even if it dont work out, you'll be better off then than if you never asked her, if you never try you can never win, so just give it a go, who knows her friends might encourage her if you were a nice bloke :smile:

, just go with your gut and your heart and you cant regret a thing, just dont over analyse anything

I try that one, i'm not so good at it though. I do over-analyse things and it does get me down often; so i'll try and avoid that in future.

I've got nothing to lose except for some dignity i guess. It just seems the wrong way to go about things as you have the crossing from internet to real life and not everything online is as it seems in real. But that's a bridge that'll have to be crossed if the time comes to it.

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TommyD

Only message her if theres absolutely no other option.

Approaching her in person first is the best choice - she'll feel more comfortable because then she'll know who shes talking to. Imagine being randomly messaged - i duno about others, but i find it slightly odd unless i know who it is.

Take any chance you've got to talk to her soon, even if its just to have a quick chat.
But by all means message her after that.

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Barny

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Avoid the inter-web at all costs.

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TommyD

Only message her if theres absolutely no other option.

Approaching her in person first is the best choice - she'll feel more comfortable because then she'll know who shes talking to. Imagine being randomly messaged - i duno about others, but i find it slightly odd unless i know who it is.

Take any chance you've got to talk to her soon, even if its just to have a quick chat.
But by all means message her after that.

It was my thinking to talk to her. But opportunities are rare and i have tuesday and that's it unless i bump into her somewhere else on this huge campus. So wait until after tuesday or even in the holidays? I'm so confused about all this stuff. :frown:

Reply 18

TommyD

Dont try dealing with this message thing yet.

Try talking to her first - she'll admire you more for approaching her in person.

If you cant/dont get round to talking to her, thens time to think about messaging.
But until then, go up to her. Time is precious, and dont think about anything except talking to her. Ignore any apparent consequences you might have in your head. Just do it, and imagine how easy it'll all be once its done.

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