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she's so strongly opinionated,its doing my head in!!

ok, one of my girl mates has been going out with her (2nd) boyfriend since last septmeber but she's changed so much since then, lately she is being so strongly opinionated and arrogant. she HAS to be right about everything, and behind peoples backs she slags everyone off and picks on their faults, its really annoying me lately because i cannot stand to be around her!
anyone else going through this or been through it? and what should i do? i asked my mum and she said i should tolerate her but she annoys me so much!HELP!
Reply 1
The simple fact is as people grow they change, clearly your friend's personality has changed and for the worse.
yes i have definitely been through this. i lost my best friend because of her boyfriend, and even when he was rude and insulting to me, she ran after him. People's priorities change and it hurts a lot, but i grew closer to other friends and can honestly say i wldnt want her as a best friend when i have others who i know will be there through thick and thin. sorry if i sound mad, touchy subject!! my advice is, forget her...and do not let her use you
Reply 3
try and slowly drift apart from her.
Reply 4
Same exact thing happened to my friend, only she's a few years older (am amusing she is, because you have the number 89 in your name).

So, I no longer speek to her unless I have to (like, if she asks me a question that can't be answered with yes or no)
Reply 5
Tell her to shut her mouth, that or give her a smack. Failsafe.
Reply 6
I was about to have a right go at you, for implying women cant be opinionated, but your not..........

If you can't stand to be around her, dont be. I know it can be hard to get rid of people, but you shouldnt have to put up with someone as annoying as her.
either: 1.drift away dont talk to her unless you have to, be boring and quiet around her so she drifts away from you
2.argue your corner feircly, if she always trys to be right about everything, dont let her, argue against her and tell her shes wrong.
3. Tell her straight up that you dont like the person she's become and dont think you can be friends with her if she stays like this, either she'll realise shes being annoying or you'll never speak again...


However although your describing her as bitch from hell, are you sure you not just jelous that shes getting more notice from people and has come out of her shell??
Sorry its just that i was always a shy person and gradually i became more opinionated and made loads of friends, and my best friend at the time hated that for so long. I used to be known as 'so and so's friend' and now that people know me, as me are are my friend without being her friend aswell she hated it. Ok fair enough i didnt think i was right or bitched about people..but similar thing. Luckily my best friend got over it and were still best friends.
Reply 7
everyone thanks for the advice, smacking her is appealing,lol
~the one~ its not just me who's noticed she's changed so much recently and im not jealous of her,i just hate the person she's become.

when im around her i dont talk much or talk to other people,so i dont have to talk to her that much. i think i'll carry on doing that,lol
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ok, one of my girl mates has been going out with her (2nd) boyfriend since last septmeber but she's changed so much since then, lately she is being so strongly opinionated and arrogant. she HAS to be right about everything, and behind peoples backs she slags everyone off and picks on their faults, its really annoying me lately because i cannot stand to be around her!
anyone else going through this or been through it? and what should i do? i asked my mum and she said i should tolerate her but she annoys me so much!HELP!


two options, the first is to tell her straight That you dont like her slagging everyone off, or the second option is just to ignore it.