Giving up

Hi sorry for ann some people know me.
Well I split up with my bf few months ago and I found it really hard moving on as I had depression and kind of leant on him a lot. Well after an initial depressing period I got on with my life and made a fresh start at uni and being happy and being independent.
But in the last week or so I feel myself slipping back into depression, I keep thinking of my ex as well and miss him a lot as we don't talk anymore and I've heard he's met somebody else. He was my best friend and its horrible sometimes as none of my other mates truly know the real me and what issues I have. I just wanna talk to my ex. I realise I must sound sad and pathetic but I've fought so hard to move on and I just feel like giving up :frown:

My uni work is slipping and I'm withdrawing from my friends again like I did.
I Don't know how to not give up

Reply 1

G4ry

1

Have you spoken to anyone about it? Your university might have a counselling service and it may help to just go and chat to someone who won't judge you for what you say.

I know it's a vicious circle not bothering to be around people and spending time by yourself and the more time you spend by yourself the worse you feel and want to withdraw more. But sometimes you've just got to break the chain of events and get up and do things. As far as the academic studies go, i don't know how much you've missed and in what year you're in; but if you feel you're going to have big problems you should speak to the student support officer of your department as you're not the only one they'd come across.

It's hard to do and easy for me to say but you just need to make changes and take each day for what it is. Hope it all goes well.

Reply 2

enigma2506

Have you thought about counselling? I used to hate the idea of going to a counsellar, but my depression got so bad and I just felt there was no-one else to turn to explain how I felt, I didnt think it would help but it did a little.

Reply 3

Anonymous #1

OP

I did the whole counselling thing and it wasn't really for me, I tried but I found it hard and uncomfortable talking to people who didn't know me and felt like they were judging me.
Thanks for your replies, guess I've just got used to being on my own a lot now, want to break the cycle but it's hard

Reply 4

G4ry

1

Anonymous

I did the whole counselling thing and it wasn't really for me, I tried but I found it hard and uncomfortable talking to people who didn't know me and felt like they were judging me.

I can relate, it felt like been analysed and it did get confrontational. But if you feel you can talk to friends without being judged then go for it. If you want to break the vicious cycle then you're a step in the right direction - you just need to follow through with it even if you really don't feel like it. Just find things that you actually enjoy doing.

Reply 5

Flank Runner

hey, it hurts ive been there as have many others and we all turned out fine...ish :biggrin:

, yeah counselling sucks, never bothered with it, but thats cause i'm a different breed, grow up in a military family you soon learn to deal with things, but you dont have that luxury lol, but yeah it'll hurt and if you need to talk, you do have friends, let them in, and theres always us fools on :tsr2:

, ready to lend an ear, a hand, or even a shoulder to cry on, your not alone and nobody here is judging you, so just open up and let others help,

to quote a friend of mine,
what are friends for if not to pick you up when you fall
thanx bud

Reply 6

Anonymous #1

OP

Flank Runner

hey, it hurts ive been there as have many others and we all turned out fine...ish :biggrin:

, yeah counselling sucks, never bothered with it, but thats cause i'm a different breed, grow up in a military family you soon learn to deal with things, but you dont have that luxury lol, but yeah it'll hurt and if you need to talk, you do have friends, let them in, and theres always us fools on :tsr2:

, ready to lend an ear, a hand, or even a shoulder to cry on, your not alone and nobody here is judging you, so just open up and let others help,

to quote a friend of mine,
what are friends for if not to pick you up when you fall
thanx bud

Thank you

Reply 7

Flank Runner

No worries if you need someone to talk to i'm here, but it would be better if you talked to your own friends as you would most certainly feel more comfortable talking to people that know you rather than some random fool like myself :biggrin:

Reply 8

La Trampa

18

it'll take time. the same thing happened to me with my college work when my bf and i split. try talking to someone about it.

Reply 9

Bear_Grylls

19

go shorty its your birthday we're gonna party like its your birthday, we gonna sip bacardi its your birthday, and you know we dont give a f0ck if its your birthday

:wink:

Reply 10

Flank Runner

erm ok

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