Nice ways of saying 'No'

I'm posting as anonymous on the off-chance that the guy this is about reads this.

So I'm in my first year at uni, and I've become good mates with this guy. Trouble is, I think he fancies me, and I'm worried he's going to ask me out. I really like him, but just as a friend, and I don't want to hurt his feelings. I also know from experience that 'let's just be friends' doesn't always get the best reaction from blokes. I'm just worried that it'll ruin the whole friendship; plus I just don't fancy him.

Any advice?

I'm posting as anonymous on the off-chance that the guy this is about reads this.

So I'm in my first year at uni, and I've become good mates with this guy. Trouble is, I think he fancies me, and I'm worried he's going to ask me out. I really like him, but just as a friend, and I don't want to hurt his feelings. I also know from experience that 'let's just be friends' doesn't always get the best reaction from blokes. I'm just worried that it'll ruin the whole friendship; plus I just don't fancy him.

Any advice?

say you swing the other way

I'm posting as anonymous on the off-chance that the guy this is about reads this.

So I'm in my first year at uni, and I've become good mates with this guy. Trouble is, I think he fancies me, and I'm worried he's going to ask me out. I really like him, but just as a friend, and I don't want to hurt his feelings. I also know from experience that 'let's just be friends' doesn't always get the best reaction from blokes. I'm just worried that it'll ruin the whole friendship; plus I just don't fancy him.

Any advice?

Oh, and may I know WHY you're not attracted to this guy?

There is no easy way to deal with this. If he really likes you he will get hurt from being rejected. I'd advice that if he asks you out you reject him as nicely as you can avoiding obvious lines such as "lets just be friends" or "I'm not looking for a relationship right now".

Its probably better the less of an explanation you give as long as you don't give him any false hopes. As a guy who has experienced being rejected I must say that longwinded explanations or excuses just hurt more than a polite decline. If you are close friends it will be harder to handle the situation, but if you are sure you don't want a relationship I'd say its best not to leave the guy dangling in false hope. Let him know in the nicest way you can and don't try to explain why. Truth is you don't like him in that way and if he fancies you that is the last thing he would want to hear. Since you probably don't want to lie I'd say its best not to say more than necessary about it.

I am in a situation where I like a girl with whom I've become good friends this term and I'm not sure she likes me (ie. identical to yours, but from the guy's perspective!) Anyway, out of interest, do you flirt with him/compliment him on appearance or make sure specifically that you don't? Also if he did say something, would that really necessarily ruin the friendship? I have wanted to tell this girl for weeks now. I am seeing her soon away from University so I will be very tempted to tell her. Ultimately though I value her friendship a lot so I don't want to risk it for this.