going to a club on your own

1

Has anyone done this?

I have a few times when i was drunk but I knew I was probably gonna see people I knew inside, I wouldn't be like "hey, no one else wants to go out, **** em, that won't stop me".

I can imagine its good for meeting girls if you have confidence, It would be quite a cool thing to try just as an experiment I think.

Reply 1

Fleece

15

i dont think i'd dare if i wasn't drunk or i didn't know people inside!

Reply 2

Aeris

15

I really don't think it's a good idea. You knew know when some crazy person might want to pick a fight with you. And you need someone to keep you from doing weird things after you've been drinking. Friends are good for making sure you get home safe.

Reply 3

Kittennffc

15

I always look at the weirdo's standing at the bar on their own gawping at girls as slightly sad.

Would only ever go to a club on my own if I was meeting people either in their, or waiting for people to meet me. I'd have to be slightly drunk on both parts.

Reply 4

Bob123

I havent done clubs but i crash parties on my own occasionaly. Its fine providing you have the balls to go and chat to the people there. I have had some good times doing that.
I find if you go on your own you are far less likely to get kicked out.

Reply 5

dyslexic_banana

1

Yes, I've done it numerous times, and still do, occasionally. During a time of my life when I was suffering from mild depression and not-so-mild boredom and loneliness, I found myself not wishing to stay at home, of a night, alone, and so started to go to a smallish local club; I did so knowing I'd get drunk, and would start talking to random people. Were it not for this fact, admittedly, I might not have done so.

I did this a fair few times (up to four times a week, as extreme as it may sound), and made friends and even pulled in doing so; it soon got to the stage at which I could go out alone, secure in the knowledge that I almost definitely wouldn't be alone for much of the night, as I'd meet some of the friends/acquaintances I'd made that frequented the club in question; as I'd always hoped would happen.

If I don't have anyone to go out with, of a weekend, these days (which I almost always do, however), I still do this, but I can be 99% sure that I'll see people I know, and will be able to hang around with whom, anyway; but even if I couldn't, I'd still do it. Fact is, alcohol is a social lubricant, and makes for an interesting night, whatever the circumstances, so being alone doesn't deter me too much. But, I don't have to 'resort' to this very often.

Kittennffc

I always look at the weirdo's standing at the bar on their own gawping at girls as slightly sad.

Very open-minded; maybe it should occur to you that not everyone's been as fortunate as you have, when it comes to making friends?

Reply 6

BeeDee

No because doing so would just be LAAAME.

Reply 7

Schroedinger's Pandora

13

I'm a really outgoing kinda gal but for one reason or another, all my uni mates have gone a bit boring. Some have started up relationships and never want to go out, others are just bored of the nightlife and would rather watch TV.

Its horrible as I'd never pluck up the courage to go out alone.

When I see people I know in clubs, the first question usually asked is "who are you out with?"

I dunno.

Maybe I'm not confident enough. No offence but maybe I'd feel a little sad if i went out alone?? Not that it hasn't crossed my mind sometimes..

Reply 8

Fleece

15

i think i'd just make out that i was with people across the other side of the dancefloor. fake waving to them if necessary haha :biggrin:

Reply 9

mangomaz

14

I've never gone out alone alone, closest I've done is go out knowing there will be people I know inside. It has happened when people ask who I'm out with and I dont really have an answer because I've just turned up and float between groups of friends :rolleyes:

It also depends what kind of club you go to I guess... Proper hardcore clubs (house dance trance etc...) I'm happy to just go off on my own and dance away.

Reply 10

john!!

OP

1

Yeah, youd just say you lost them or something,

respect to the people that have done this.. takes some guts I think. I used to think it was sad (thats just close minded though), but whenever I go to a club anyway some mates break off to meet new people anyway, it's really no different to that.

Reply 11

dyslexic_banana

1

BeeDee

No because doing so would just be LAAAME.

With debating skills such as those, I can see how you've managed to win yourself an offer to study English Literature at Durham University.

little_red_sox

I'm a really outgoing kinda gal but for one reason or another, all my uni mates have gone a bit boring. Some have started up relationships and never want to go out, others are just bored of the nightlife and would rather watch TV.

Its horrible as I'd never pluck up the courage to go out alone.

When I see people I know in clubs, the first question usually asked is "who are you out with?"

I dunno.

Maybe I'm not confident enough. No offence but maybe I'd feel a little sad if i went out alone?? Not that it hasn't crossed my mind sometimes..

It seems to be different, for women; you just don't get women out on their own, as you often do men (but then, there are more male loners, than female loners, in this world). Maybe women feel more intimidated being alone, given the high number of lecherous guys about (who ruin things for those of us who aren't like that), and consider their own personal safety more than do guys.

I've always managed to tackle the 'Who are you here with?' question, simply by claiming that I'm out with a mate who's in the toilet, or a few mates who are at another bar; I've even once pointed to another loner, and claimed to be with them. It's really no issue, as it's so easy to get around.

Actually, if alone, it's good to deliberately approach other people who are alone (always men, alas), as they'll most likely be fairly receptive, given that they'll be grateful of the company; it can also make for a good starting point for conversation. I once did this with one guy, and I'm still friends with him, two years on.

It may not be everyone's cup of tea, but if you're tempted, go for it. Oh, and I wouldn't care if people thought I was 'sad'; if people haven't left such taunts behind on the playground, then more immature fool them.

Reply 12

Reue

20

Wish i could do it. Even when drunk i wouldnt go somewhere totally alone :frown:

Reply 13

El Scotto

15

I'd never goto a nightclub on my own, I like to have my friends around me.

A pub however, I'll often go and have occasional pint after work,
Its nice to just unwind and not have to speak to anyone.

Reply 14

timtom

El Scotto

I'd never goto a nightclub on my own, I like to have my friends around me.

A pub however, I'll often go and have occasional pint after work,
Its nice to just unwind and not have to speak to anyone.

I'm the same. Sometimes after a lecture in the afternoon, i'll go to the pub, buy a pint and read the paper - I sound like a middle-aged man, but I like to occasionally just sit somewhere with a drink and chill out by myself.

But I don't think i'd go to a club by myself, I think like other people have been saying, to do that, confidence is the key..which is unfortunately something i'm kinda lacking

Reply 15

Sir Joe

1

i've done it once because i love techno nights but didn't really have any mates who were up for it [the ones that used to be got into relationships etc], so i headed to my fave techno night alone. Had plenty of drinks, sat down like i was waiting for someone, and throughout the night people just came and sparked up conversations, and it was really good, had a very good time. As another poster said, other people are there alone, who are good to talk to.

you wouldn't want to go to a night full of insecure people like beedee judging everyone else rather then trying to have a good time [most student nights are probably like this unfortunetly. I'd recommend going to a more "underground" night, and whether you are anti drug or not, nights where alot of people seem to be on pills. The reason for this is people are so friendly at pilled up nights and are more likely to just start a pleasent convo rather then starting off with a negative "OMG where are your mates". Obviously no one would push drugs on you or anything like that, but i guarentee you would feel more accepted at a less mainstream night, where there is more togetherness. i ****ing love it.

luckily i got a mate to go with to these nights now so i'm set, but i'd go alone again definetly. Would probably recognise many faces anyway!

Reply 16

silence

16

i'd do it but only with a small poetry book tucked into my back pocket. then i'd get a bottle of wine and sit for a bit.

Reply 17

Fleece

15

and then get swiftly beaten up?

Reply 18

thePhantom

2

i'd never go to a club on my own ... dont think i'd have a good night tbh, im always hitting clubs with a group of mates and its always a good laugh with them ...

i even feel wierd in a pub on my own when waiting for people etc

Reply 19

Barny

17

Never gave this much thought before, but everytime I've ever queued up somewhere on my own(meeting people inside or whatever) then I've actually always got chatting to people, on an even bigger plus note its mostly been women, so I think the moral of the story here is:

queue on your own, and meet people inside.

I'm a ****ing genius.

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