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What is he playing at? tres confused:-S opinions needed...

They may be a big waffle and rant and I apologies now :redface:

About a month and a bit ago I went to a party and met this really cool guy whom I shall call Charlie. At the party he was as drunk as a skunk and came onto loads of girls including me that night but I wouldnt let him do anything with me. That night I got with one of his friends, but that didnt go further after that night which I didnt really mind about.

Anyway for about 3 weeks after the party I chatted with Charlie quite a bit on msn and really liked him, but got the impression he didint like me in 'that way'. I then found out from my parents that they were going away and so was my brother so I asked him if he wanted to come round to mine the evening they were away. (I hadnt met up with him since the party) About 2 weeks ago I went out in the evening with some friends, started texting him and found out he was in the same town, and so we met up for a little bit and we kissed which was really good :rolleyes:

He said to me then that he was 80% sure he could come to mine the next night and by the end of that night he said he could definatly come :smile:

So he came over the next night, stuff happened, nothing really really major, but he was so sweet. He cuddled me to sleep that night and it was just really really nice :p:

A few days later he called me and we were on the phone for about 3 hours, into the small hours :redface:

(This has happened about 5 or 6 times in the past few weeks :smile:

) He then said to me on msn that he 'didnt think that we could be more than friends' but that he was 'really confused'. When I asked what he was confused about he said 'you'. Didnt manage to get anything more out of him, as I didnt want to annoy him about it. But when I did mention it a few days later he said 'dont repeat that, just forget I ever said it'. He 'doesnt know whats goign on with us' but he said 'well we're always going to be a bit more than friends'. What the hell?! First he's really nice to me, then says basically we cant be more than friends, then says forget that, then flirts with me again and again! we speak on the phone quite a bit and for a long time each time. Also, he says he wants to see me, but he's always busy! I know he has college and is a bit stressed aout that atm, and he has a job at the weekend, but does that mean he cant see me at all?! Even for 1/2 hour! I've said that I'll walk to his as well...

So.....as the title asks, what is he playing at do you lot reckon? Does he like me? Is he confused? Or is he just playing me for an idiot? he promises me he isnt, but I dont always trust 'promises'.
Thank you for reading this (if you survived! :redface:

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Reply 1

username47781

20

I would guess he is playing you for an idiot because if hes flirting with you then going cold it makes me believe he's going someone else on the go somewhere.

Reply 2

so_this_is_sam

3

Hmm I think that hes really confused and not quite ready for a relationship. Sounds exactly like my ex to be honest. based on that i advise you to not go out with him..and dont get yourself involved. for me, it was like an emotional rollercoaster and i never knew where i stood. i ended up feeling numb with hurt and had to get out of the relationship even though i liked him so much. but if u really want to take that chance, or think u could deal with half a relationship then thats your choice. but i honestly honestly warn you that you may end up falling for him and then having to get over it, and it isnt easy...good luck

Reply 3

LubyLoo

2

I think he is right in that he doesn't know what he wants. But don't let him use you until he makes his mind up, as it is the worst feeling ever. Appreciate the night you spent with him and just move on. If he wants you he will get in touch.

Reply 4

Barny

17

I'm a bloke and I can't even figure out what hes thinking, though I have an inclin(sp?) he wants some action/a girlfriend but doesn't find you attractive enough.

Thats the only thing I can come up with, probably completely wrong though.

Reply 5

andy_c

7

Do you know anything about his previous history with girls? Maybe it's just nerves?

Reply 6

mangomaz

14

Hmmm I think he likes you but doesnt want to commit to anything (from the sounds of the party where he was wasted, he likes to mingle with the ladies). He doesnt know whether he wants to take it to the next level or not.

But seriously be careful here, if you get too attached even if the relationship doesnt go anywhere you could just get screwed over in the end if he gets together with someone else; its the whole jealousy thing which really cant be helped sometimes. But then I could be wrong and it could work out that you'd just be really good close friends and its always nice to have that.

Reply 7

mc_hamster

1

I don't know but did you really have to put emoticons in every sentence?

Reply 8

pendragon

13

Sounds like he is too immature or stupid for you. If you like him enough to put up with this crap then dont give him any more of the goods until he makes a more firm commitment.

Reply 9

pendragon

13

imasillynarb

I'm a bloke and I can't even figure out what hes thinking, though I have an inclin(sp?) he wants some action/a girlfriend but doesn't find you attractive enough.

Actually I think that sounds the most probable answer.

What is he playing at? tres confused:-S opinions needed...

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