Do not want to be a nice guy anymore

Basically, ive got tired of being a nice guy in all aspects of life (espeically on the women front!). I dont want to be seen as a "nice guy" or "just a friend". I basically want to change my image from a nice guy to someone who isnt so nice. Not quite a bad boy, but have the things that makes a bad boy attractive to people.

Im not a typical nice guy. In my only relationship, i never bought gifts/paid for dinner. Me and my ex always paid for things half and half. But for some reason, people see me as a nice guy and undateable.

So exactly what does a badboy have which makes himself attractive to other people (apart from confidence)? As im thinking of going to uni and "playing the field" for a bit to see what works and what doesnt.

How does a bad boy/player "challenge" a girl (as i so often read)? What does he do (and what doesnt he do) to make him attractive?

As im trying to really build up my confidence in general before i go to uni in september. Any tips on how to do this. I am generally a quiet person, wouldnt say shy, but just quiet in general. Ive had people say to me "you're quiet" and things like that! Ive been walked over a few times in the past, so I also want to know any advice on how to stand up for yourself!

Reply 1

Reue

20

go up to a girl.. insult her... get slapped... realise that a 'not nice guy' is not what any normal girl wants and that really they are just sad (usually chavs). go back to being a nice guy.

the end.

Reply 2

ExitMusic

9

No offense, I empathise, but your whole plight is really, really sad.
Rather than being a pushover, just stand up for yourself more often and let your opinion be heard rather than trying to put on a false "bad boy" image, which will in all fairness, will make you look like an utter cretin.

Reply 3

Talon

18

Anonymous

Basically, ive got tired of being a nice guy in all aspects of life (espeically on the women front!). I dont want to be seen as a "nice guy" or "just a friend". I basically want to change my image from a nice guy to someone who isnt so nice. Not quite a bad boy, but have the things that makes a bad boy attractive to people.

Im not a typical nice guy. In my only relationship, i never bought gifts/paid for dinner. Me and my ex always paid for things half and half. But for some reason, people see me as a nice guy and undateable.

So exactly what does a badboy have which makes himself attractive to other people (apart from confidence)? As im thinking of going to uni and "playing the field" for a bit to see what works and what doesnt.

How does a bad boy/player "challenge" a girl (as i so often read)? What does he do (and what doesnt he do) to make him attractive?

As im trying to really build up my confidence in general before i go to uni in september. Any tips on how to do this. I am generally a quiet person, wouldnt say shy, but just quiet in general. Ive had people say to me "you're quiet" and things like that! Ive been walked over a few times in the past, so I also want to know any advice on how to stand up for yourself!

Dont be a moron. Just go find yourself a "nice" girl. Problem solved.

Reply 4

Misogynist

18

Walk like a 'tard and look about frantically as you walk as if you're expecting to see one of your 'mates'. If you want to be the ultimate badboy.. If you're wearing something with collars, put them up.

Reply 5

dyslexic_banana

1

I take it you've been reading the 'women' thread? I feel similar to how you do; if only I could give you some advice. It's a depressing state of affairs, isn't it?

Talon

Dont be a moron. Just go find yourself a "nice" girl. Problem solved.

You've got a lot to learn, if you think that most nice girls are attracted to nice guys.

Reply 6

me12345

just be yourself :smile:

i'm sure plenty of girls will like you for who you are

Reply 7

killerbee

12

everyone wants a bad boy - for example hugo jackman in x men

phwoar!

Reply 8

Flank Runner

bad boys are for teenage crushes but nice guys especially genuine nice guys are the ones that takes home the nice girl, so just be yourself and remember all good things come to those who wait, but it bluddy helps if you look :biggrin:

Reply 9

Anonymous #2

As long as you aren't a wet blanket don't change. All girls fancy bad boys because of thethrill of the chase thing. But all they do is mess you about, hurt you and stamp on your broken heart, by this time girls are so pissed off they just want a nice guy. You know what? you'll be beating them off with a stick in a short while and you'll get a girl who treats you so well.
Please stay a nice guy!!!

Reply 10

anjimcflanji

1

Sorry clicked anon by accident

Reply 11

Anonymous #1

OP

Flank Runner

bad boys are for teenage crushes but nice guys especially genuine nice guys are the ones that takes home the nice girl, so just be yourself and remember all good things come to those who wait, but it bluddy helps if you look :biggrin:

Definitely teenage crushes but im also talking about uni girls and people around 19/20 or older. People still act the same way and find a nice guy "undateable"

Reply 12

dani_88

14

Girls like nice guys! Well the ones i know anyway.. The whole bad boy thing is a joke really, who wants to go out with an idiot.. The nice guys end up with nice girls in the end :biggrin:

Reply 13

Anonymous #1

OP

Im not wanting to change to a bad boy. Basically want to become less obsessed and have more of a backbone/character and show MY opinions. And obvisouly more confidence (which bad boys usually seem to have a lot) and NOT arrongance (i hate arrogance).

But the question is HOW do i get to where i want to be?

Reply 14

Sezkin

11

dani_88

Girls like nice guys! Well the ones i know anyway.. The whole bad boy thing is a joke really, who wants to go out with an idiot.. The nice guys end up with nice girls in the end :biggrin:

I totally agree with you, Dani_88.

To be honest, I think the 'bad boy' image is a turn off to me, I am no way attracted to a lad who seems cocky, loud and too confident; it just shows me that he's a show off and would make me feel uncomfortable around him.

Anyway, I prefer nice lads who are caring, talkative, and who are generally laid back. You just have to keep your eyes out for the nice girls :p:

Sezkin

Reply 15

Sezkin

11

Anonymous

Im not wanting to change to a bad boy. Basically want to become less obsessed and have more of a backbone/character and show MY opinions. And obvisouly more confidence (which bad boys usually seem to have a lot) and NOT arrongance (i hate arrogance).

But the question is HOW do i get to where i want to be?

Well it's best to be yourself, if you want to become more confident,you should try and talk to more people and get to know them. Don't worry too much about what other people think, just be happy about yourself and enjoy life! :biggrin:

Sezkin

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