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need to stop being a loser

i feel like loser by even posting this in a forum but when i ask my friends for advice they just tell me to grow some balls:

basically there is a girl that i am really attracted to in my 6th form and ive recently found out she fancies me as well but im not sure what to do because:

ive never actually talked to her and i dont have a clue about what shes like and i never get the chance to coz she is always swampt with friends that make it their mission to embaress me about fancying her.

ive never had a girlfriend (yep its sad, but its something ive never given a **** about it) so i am scared i will be a bumbling nervous wreck if we do go out

she has a strict muslim background and i have a strict sikh background and im sure there will be troubles.

shes in the lower sixth and im in the upper sixth so we have like a max of 3months together before i go uniwhich is on the other side of england from here

i need to work REALLY hard to get into uni so she might be a distraction (youve probably worked out that im one of them geeks that work all the time)

everyone thinks im tryna make excuses but i see these as really big things that are stopping us getting together. at the moment everything is purely physical (for the last 6months :redface: ) but apparently this girl has found out about me (pretty creepy) and really likes me and her friends want me to ask her out.

can you guys add your 2pennies???
Reply 1
Yes. Grow a pair and ask her out. Lol.

I had less time than that with my girlfriend before I went to uni, and we are still together.
Reply 2
If you'e that sure that she likes you I don't see what's stopping you. Family wise with the religion issue, I wouldn't worry about - you're hardly marrying her just yet. The uni issue, sure you only have three months, but look at it the other way - you have three whole months that you could potentially spend together, and who says relationships have to end with uni?
I'd go for it, you'll only regret it if you pass up the opportunity.
Hmmmm yes tricky, but lifes too short to worry about these things....go for it...it cld be the best thing you've ever done
Reply 4
Better to have loved and lost, then to have never loved at all.
Reply 5
Indus1986
Better to have loved and lost, then to have never loved at all.


No; per se, it really isn't.

God, I do so despise platitudes.
Go For it!!!! If she likes u and u like her-what more could u want? Good luck and be sure to let us know how u get on-xxx ella