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"You need to get partying out of your system when you're young"

this is what a guy i know told me and i was interested to know if people here agree with him. he said that partying and all the things which go with it (alcohol, sleeping around, facebook photos etc.) needs to be got out of your system when you are young, or else you grow up with regrets and in some cases, he said you can grow up to be strange/weird/mentally unstable.

obviously there are exceptions, but he said this is the general rule and in particular as a guy, if you dont experience a bit of sleeping around with girls or getting into short, lustful relationships (which are essentially only based around sex with some intimacy and "fake love") when you're younger, there is the potential to grow up with regrets and to be a bit of a weird individual. he said this is why it is so important to get involved in partying and drinking in sixth form and university, and get it out of your system by the time you hit a full time job.

do you agree with this viewpoint?

Reply 1

Tycho

14

No; I think your friend is trying to define rules where rules cannot reliably determine an outcome. :rolleyes:

Suggesting that people who don't sleep around when they are younger are destined to become weird is an absurd assertion to make.

Reply 2

A128

11

This is rubbish. There is no single right way to live your life.

Absolute bull****.

What a load of crap.

I don't agree that you have to sleep around etc but I do agree that where a person doesn't go out clubbing etc because they have kids early instead of just because they don't enjoy it that it can affect them in later life. I've seen it with my family members, particularly my Uncle who my Dad says used to go round to his girlfriend's every night instead of going out when he was a young teen/early 20s. Now he's nearly 50 and goes out clubbing practically every weekend, and since he's remarried and had kids recently that results in him leaving the kids with his wife to do so. He's told me and my sisters to make sure we get in some good holidays with friends before it's too late in places like Ibiza and Ayia Napa because otherwise we'll regret it.

Reply 6

Movember

OP

10

Original post by A128

This is rubbish. There is no single right way to live your life.

Original post by Nephilim

Absolute bull****.

Original post by WelshBluebird

What a load of crap.

can you tell me why you think this? :s-smilie:

Reply 7

Chumbaniya

17

This sort of view only makes sense if you look at being over the age of 30 as equivalent to being dead. I haven't had a wild youth, but at the same time I don't intend for the rest of my life to be dull. Why is it expected that a person must do everything they ever want to in terms of exploring their social and sexual world by the time they're barely a third of the way into their lives? I'd much rather have interesting experiences throughout my life than try to force myself to do everything while I'm young and leave myself burnt out and hopeless later on.

I think in a great many cases, people who view their youth as a rush to get drunk and have sex as many times as possible before giving up on fun completely end up with very dull lives, while people with a more balanced approach to life actually have a far more exciting time socially and sexually well into their later lives.

(edited 12 years ago)

Reply 8

username945458

18

is a girl sleeps around shes known as a slut if a guy sleeps around he's know as a legend

Reply 9

Blazinq

14

Original post by Just Another Girly

is a girl sleeps around shes known as a slut if a guy sleeps around he's know as a legend

If you had a key which could get in to any padlock, it would be a good key.
If you had a padlock which any key could get in to it, it would be a crap padlock

Reply 10

username945458

18

Original post by Blazinq

If you had a key which could get in to any padlock, it would be a good key.
If you had a padlock which any key could get in to it, it would be a crap padlock

thats true

Reply 11

NAB

Some people just don't like doing that type of thing so they really shouldn't feel bad about not getting involved in it when they're young. Plus if it gets you in the habit of being too sexually active and drinking too much, it can have more severe consequences that you'd regret even more when you grow up.

If someone doesn't take advantage of their youth, they may regret it, but clubbing drinking and sleeping around is not the only way to live youthfully, nor is it by any means the best way.

Reply 12

EGjeff

10

No set rules, but I suppose it's just natural progression - it would be a little bit weird to be sleeping around and clubbing constantly in your 30s, but then again, by that age you probably wouldn't want to anyway.

The 'Dad' brigade on friday / saturday nights in town make me chuckle, matching white shirts that don't fit, revelling in 'being away from the wife' for one night and eyeing up birds who are probably the same age as their eldest daughters. Usually absolutely steaming and telling you to stay young and don't get married haha :smile:

(edited 12 years ago)

Reply 13

XxelliexX

14

No i don't agree, i think i'm more likely to regret any sexual things i've done as a teenager when i'm older... Because it didn't mean anything and a lot of it was because i was just lonely and/or too drunk/nice to say no... Might be different for guys though, i think girls are way more likely to overthink and regret things like this.
Also, if someone gets an std from sleeping around and it means they can't do things like have children later in life... Then that's not a youth well spent?

Reply 14

butter_god

I somewhat agree as you don't want regrets- but to each their own.

This was posted from The Student Room's iPhone/iPad App

Reply 15

NB_ide

14

Original post by Movember

this is what a guy i know told me and i was interested to know if people here agree with him. he said that partying and all the things which go with it (alcohol, sleeping around, facebook photos etc.) needs to be got out of your system when you are young, or else you grow up with regrets and in some cases, he said you can grow up to be strange/weird/mentally unstable.

obviously there are exceptions, but he said this is the general rule and in particular as a guy, if you dont experience a bit of sleeping around with girls or getting into short, lustful relationships (which are essentially only based around sex with some intimacy and "fake love") when you're younger, there is the potential to grow up with regrets and to be a bit of a weird individual. he said this is why it is so important to get involved in partying and drinking in sixth form and university, and get it out of your system by the time you hit a full time job.

do you agree with this viewpoint?

lol @ "facebook photos"

But, yes, there's probably a lot of truth to this. I was basically a total recluse until my early 20's - didn't drink, talk to girls, go to "parties" or anything like that. A lot of youthful social interaction kind of underpins the rest of society and it's all excellent practice for "the real world" of influencing people and getting along with them.

I turned out pretty weird and now I'm 25 and occasionally make embarrassing failed attempts to do things I should have done 10 years ago when it was appropriate. It's very hard to learn those things when you're older, in fact it's basically impossible. I'm not kind of torn between trying to be young for a while, or just giving up, acting my age and settling down/committing suicide.

But who's to say whether I'm strange now because I didn't socialise properly, or I didn't socialise properly because I was inherently strange? Either way, it's a bad sign imo when teens and young people don't/won't/can't fit in with their peers and get involved in normal young nonsense. You can bet that they won't fit in as an adult, either.

Reply 16

username91207

16

This thread makes me sad.

So men under the age of around 30 aren't to be trusted because all they want is sex and alcohol?

Reply 17

philistine

14

What a load of utter ****.

Reply 18

M'Ling

9

He sounds like a venerable sage. Hang on, no - yes - he doesn't.

He sounds like an easily-entertained, lonely, stupid, STI-ridden douche.

Reply 19

ihatebrownbread

Original post by Blazinq

If you had a key which could get in to any padlock, it would be a good key.
If you had a padlock which any key could get in to it, it would be a crap padlock

Though a penis is not a key and a vagina is not a padlock, yeah.

"You need to get partying out of your system when you're young"

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