crap night... i am a crap flirt... meh. need advice.

so tonight... the dance. after the **** that was last weekend (best friend/ex bf debaucle...) I wanted something to happen with this guy in the year below that i like. um. yeah. so he stayed half the dance... spent half of that time talking to his twin brother and his ex gf (who is like model beautiful :mad:

)... and then left. I didnt have the balls to even ask him to dance. so now i think our whole flirtation was in my head... and if he actually liked me at all he would've asked me. I went over to his group of friends with my friend (who is in his year) and she was like "this is ladygrey!" and i was like "uh kristin, they know who i am"... then i left to go dance. after that, some kid was apparently like "who was that girl?? does she even go to our school? ( :frown:

)" and my boy apparently said "yeah, i know her, she's in my french class." I feel stupid. I thought MAYBE something MIGHT work out for me. but no. mehhhhh :frown:

what to do?

Reply 1

Angel Interceptor

11

Um, perhaps you should have just asked him to dance? It's not the 19th century anymore - women don't need to wait for guys to ask them to dance, unless it's something like ballroom dancing, and I'm assuming that you weren't at that kind of a dance. Anyhows, just ask him next time; you've got nothing much to lose. :smile:

Edit: How old are you/what year are you in anyway?

Reply 2

ladygrey

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Angel Interceptor

Um, perhaps you should have just asked him to dance? It's not the 19th century anymore - women don't need to wait for guys to ask them to dance, unless it's something like ballroom dancing, and I'm assuming that you weren't at that kind of a dance. Anyhows, just ask him next time; you've got nothing much to lose. :smile:

Edit: How old are you/what year are you in anyway?

im almost 18 and in my last year of college. no... i SHOULD have asked him, except a)im a wuss and b) he was being kinda anti social

Reply 3

Angel Interceptor

11

ladygrey

im almost 18 and in my last year of college. no... i SHOULD have asked him, except a)im a wuss and b) he was being kinda anti social

He wasn't being kind of anti-social - it seems like he was talking to his friends etc; just because he wasn't talking to you doesn't make him anti-social. Also, how well do you know this guy anyway? You said that you're in French together, but are you friends at all, or do you just know him from that class?

Reply 4

ladygrey

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Angel Interceptor

He wasn't being kind of anti-social - it seems like he was talking to his friends etc; just because he wasn't talking to you doesn't make him anti-social. Also, how well do you know this guy anyway? You said that you're in French together, but are you friends at all, or do you just know him from that class?

walking around talking to just his twin brother during a dance? thats a little antisocial. and we're friendly... we had a club together too (mock trial, but his team has already been eliminated)

Reply 5

Angel Interceptor

11

Well, if you like this guy, then make more of an effort to get to know him outside of school - forget your inhibitions and say something like 'I really want to go and see such and such film, but noone wants to come with me; do you want to come?', and perhaps make it the case that it's the type of film that he may enjoy as well, and then take it from there. Anyhows, what kind of 'dance' was this anyway? Was this in a club, or a school disco or what?

Reply 6

Anonymous #1

just spread your legs for him and he'll notice ya

Reply 7

Profesh

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How one might qualify an appraisal such as that incorporated in the thread title seems quite speculative, given that you are evidently yet even to have attempted such.

Reply 8

Princess Ella

heyy ladygrey!! flirting basically is complimenting someone-sometimes plaing hard-to-get actually works even though it may seem a bit horrible. Just be yourself and if the person doesnt like u then its his loss!!

tc-ella xxx

Reply 9

ladygrey

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alex_sgirl

heyy ladygrey!! flirting basically is complimenting someone-sometimes plaing hard-to-get actually works even though it may seem a bit horrible. Just be yourself and if the person doesnt like u then its his loss!!

tc-ella xxx

i know... i just feel a bit of an idiot! I'm not usually that awkward... do you all think its still reparable?

Reply 10

Princess Ella

most def.-all of us feel like idiots even though we havent done anything that seems idiotic-i feel like an idiot all the time-haha-lol

Reply 11

ladygrey

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alex_sgirl

most def.-all of us feel like idiots even though we havent done anything that seems idiotic-i feel like an idiot all the time-haha-lol

yeah... i was just being so awkward. and he was like walking around with his twin brother (hello, unapproachable?) and then left early. uhhh

Reply 12

Flank Runner

just talk to the guy, so what you didnt get to be with him at 1 dance, it doesnt make much difference, plus if your after a relationship, then the best bet is to talk to the dude and get to know him and let him get to know you, then you'll either hit it off or not, and believe me your no wuss its natural to be apprhensive, and as far as the playing hard to get, i wouldn't bother, most guys incl. me and my friends see playing hard to get as a pain and generally dont bother with such girls, cause if you like someone you dont mess them around :redface:

hope this helps, and remember have fun thats what life is for :wink:

Reply 13

Princess Ella

ohh-i see what u mean-thats not good-u have two versions of him staring at u-not good-umm what would i do-better not tell u-its not a good idea-try and get him on his own-tell me how it goes

Reply 14

ladygrey

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alex_sgirl

ohh-i see what u mean-thats not good-u have two versions of him staring at u-not good-umm what would i do-better not tell u-its not a good idea-try and get him on his own-tell me how it goes

im confused.... what do you mean 2 versions of him staring at me?

Reply 15

Flank Runner

i'm guessing the twin thing, and yeah dont post what you would do :biggrin:

sorry dirty mind :rolleyes:

Reply 16

ladygrey

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Flank Runner

i'm guessing the twin thing, and yeah dont post what you would do :biggrin:

sorry dirty mind :rolleyes:

hahaha i get it, sorry. Yeah... he and his twin look exactly alike except one has blond hair and blue eyes (the one i like) and the other has brown hair and brown eyes

Reply 17

Profesh

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ladygrey

hahaha i get it, sorry. Yeah... he and his twin look exactly alike except one has blond hair and blue eyes (the one i like) and the other has brown hair and brown eyes

Well, you're certainly not in the least bit shallow.

Reply 18

ladygrey

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Profesh

Well, you're certainly not in the least bit shallow.

i'm not shallow at all!! their facial features are the same, as is height and body type, which is why i said they look alike. and i only know the blond one, because i have class with him and mock trial.

Reply 19

ladygrey

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alex_sgirl

ohh-i see what u mean-thats not good-u have two versions of him staring at u-not good-umm what would i do-better not tell u-its not a good idea-try and get him on his own-tell me how it goes

lol... yeah... they're both very cute. but i only know the blond one (because we have french and had mock trial together) the brother also seems a bit of a slut, to be honest :wink:

i dunno, i don't much like school dances (neither does blond (i am calling them by hair colors just in case), as he left early...)

crap night... i am a crap flirt... meh. need advice.

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