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Struggle before 'getting' someone?
Helloo...I'm wondering: How easy/difficult was it for you to get together with your current bf/gf? As in, were there other girls/guys in the way, was it hard getting them to like you etc. Whyyy does it seem soo difficult 
The guys who ask me out don't appeal to me; not because they're ugly or have bad personalities or anything, can't really explain it...and its so impossible to 'get' guys that I actually do like. Thanks in advance to anyone willing to share 'stories' etc.
The guys who ask me out don't appeal to me; not because they're ugly or have bad personalities or anything, can't really explain it...and its so impossible to 'get' guys that I actually do like. Thanks in advance to anyone willing to share 'stories' etc.Reply 1
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Principally, it was sheer fluke.
Reply 2
You shouldn't have to purposely get them to like you! 
Maybe I just don't understand the dating game....
Maybe I just don't understand the dating game....Reply 3
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Profesh
Principally, it was sheer fluke.
Care to elaborate?
Reply 4
yer bit of a struggle.... my current gf was one of my close friends ex's. they split up 4 like 2months then me n her got together but kept it secret as dint wana really piss him of. BUT he found out and had a massive go etc, hes bros aint exactly the nicest guys in the world so you can imagine how fun that was everytime i ran into them on nights out! her ex kept sayin to her split up, u cant etc and then most of her other friends took his side, (kinda of understandable but they fort we got together b4 they broke up so they were kinda just jumpin on the band wagon me thinks!) any way 10 months later me n here r still 2gether, stronger than eva, she has all her friends back, me n her ex r good friends...and hell..... even his bros like me! so its all good!!! 
her ex kept sayin to her split up, u cant etc and then most of her other friends took his side, (kinda of understandable but they fort we got together b4 they broke up so they were kinda just jumpin on the band wagon me thinks!) any way 10 months later me n here r still 2gether, stronger than eva, she has all her friends back, me n her ex r good friends...and hell..... even his bros like me! so its all good!!! Reply 5
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Me and my boyfriend met, couple of problems.
1) He lived in London i lived in Kent. How would we cope with the distance?
2) We were both kind of seeing people. He was seeing some girl that his best friend had fancied for ages, so he kinda thought he was being out of order and was basically letting her go. I was seeing someone i used to argue with quite alot and didn't really like that much anymore.
Then when we did begin texting etc he tured around and said he 'didn't think i was the right sort of girl for him' and let me down when he was supposed to be coming to meet me! I was like 'whaaaaaaat?!'.
I really fancied him though, so managed to get him to come on a date with me(!!!) at this point we'd never even really spoken face to face just got friends to exchange numbers etc.
On the first date we ended up talking for four hours and he asked me out, i said yes and from then on the tables tured and he was bessotted!
Nearly 3 years on were still together, bit of a different story now though, haha. But yeah, moral of the story is, if you like someone don't let anything stand in your way!
1) He lived in London i lived in Kent. How would we cope with the distance?
2) We were both kind of seeing people. He was seeing some girl that his best friend had fancied for ages, so he kinda thought he was being out of order and was basically letting her go. I was seeing someone i used to argue with quite alot and didn't really like that much anymore.
Then when we did begin texting etc he tured around and said he 'didn't think i was the right sort of girl for him' and let me down when he was supposed to be coming to meet me! I was like 'whaaaaaaat?!'.
I really fancied him though, so managed to get him to come on a date with me(!!!) at this point we'd never even really spoken face to face just got friends to exchange numbers etc.
On the first date we ended up talking for four hours and he asked me out, i said yes and from then on the tables tured and he was bessotted!
Nearly 3 years on were still together, bit of a different story now though, haha. But yeah, moral of the story is, if you like someone don't let anything stand in your way!
Reply 6
Yeah but sometimes the chase is the best bit, i like the excitement! make sure you are not expecting too much too soon, i think guys need time to think otherwise they end up in a relationship they cant quite remember agreeing to! It's nothing to do with you, you probably havent met the right guy yet, and you definitely shouldnt change who you are to try and win over a guy
Reply 7
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Thx people.. I guess I'm not really sure how willing I am to 'chase' a guy I like, especially when it seems really difficult. I'm soo not a chaser...but I guess it's not always meant to be 'easy'!
Reply 8
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frappuccino
Care to elaborate?
Yup.
Reply 9
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Hahah! That's pretty awesome..
(edited 5 years ago)
Reply 10
I was really lucky with my ex, I liked him, he didnt really know me but we were in the same classes at school sometimes, and I told a friend, who happened to be a knob and shouted it out infront of him in georgraphy that i liked him infront of everyone. I went completly red. The next day my friend got me his number, i txt him, but then we had broken up for summer holidays. So we met up and went to the cinema in the summer holidays, and hung out together and then started seeing each other 
It was so easy thinking about it, and to think we went from not really knowing each other, to being together for 4 years! and now still being best friends. Best thing that ever happened to me was that.
It was so easy thinking about it, and to think we went from not really knowing each other, to being together for 4 years! and now still being best friends. Best thing that ever happened to me was that.Reply 11
I'm still working on mine. She likes me, but she's unsure about a relationship.
She's worth the work, mind.
She's worth the work, mind.
Reply 12
Kinda easy with my last relationship 
He started coming out with me and my guy mates, we both got drunk one night and I said I liked him, then for the next week we saw each other whenever we could, he then asked me out and I said yes, simple
He started coming out with me and my guy mates, we both got drunk one night and I said I liked him, then for the next week we saw each other whenever we could, he then asked me out and I said yes, simple Reply 13
Quite complicated...
I used to have a huge crush on my girlfriend way before we went out, but she had a boyfriend and anyways, i thought she was out of my league.
Then later on i fancied her friend for ages, and came very close a few times to getting with her, but she always changed her mind and messed me around loads, leading me on then rejecting me.
Then I was at a party, at which was boththe girl who would is now girlfriend and the friend of hers which i fancied, and they both were trying to get with me.
In the end, i thought about all the crap i had put up with trying to get with the second girl, and went for the other, who i still fancied loads, and she eventually became my girlfriend. However, the second girl wasn't very happy about this, and the two almost fell out, as the second girl thought that I had been 'stolen' from her, even though she had always rejected me! I guess she didnt realise what she wanted until she couldn't have it, haha. But alas, i don't care, as I am totally in love with my girl and still good friends with the other one.
I used to have a huge crush on my girlfriend way before we went out, but she had a boyfriend and anyways, i thought she was out of my league.
Then later on i fancied her friend for ages, and came very close a few times to getting with her, but she always changed her mind and messed me around loads, leading me on then rejecting me.
Then I was at a party, at which was boththe girl who would is now girlfriend and the friend of hers which i fancied, and they both were trying to get with me.
In the end, i thought about all the crap i had put up with trying to get with the second girl, and went for the other, who i still fancied loads, and she eventually became my girlfriend. However, the second girl wasn't very happy about this, and the two almost fell out, as the second girl thought that I had been 'stolen' from her, even though she had always rejected me! I guess she didnt realise what she wanted until she couldn't have it, haha. But alas, i don't care, as I am totally in love with my girl and still good friends with the other one.
Reply 14
yeah..i've never had a girlfriend
Reply 15
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Profesh
Principally, it was sheer fluke.
Now that I can believe.
As for me... easy. I liked him, he liked me, he asked me out, we went for dinner... I'm sure you get the jist of this.
Reply 16
We were good friends and he was seeing someone. She was a cow to him and had cheated in a horrible way with 4 guys in one night (we were 15 btw). She was his first love and he was so ridiculously upset. He went back to her after that, but it was never quite the same. We'd always got on really well and before he went back with her he told me that he liked me. We'd had to spend a lot of time together for school stuff so it was quite clear and his girlfriend saw me as a bit of a threat. I told him to go back to her because i didn't want him to be with me wondering what could have happened if he hadn't gone back. Luckily for me the relationship backfired after a couple of months and we started seeing eachother pretty much straight away. We're still together now, so i had to wait, but it was worth it. xx
Reply 17
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Anonymous
Quite complicated...
I used to have a huge crush on my girlfriend way before we went out, but she had a boyfriend and anyways, i thought she was out of my league.
Then later on i fancied her friend for ages, and came very close a few times to getting with her, but she always changed her mind and messed me around loads, leading me on then rejecting me.
Then I was at a party, at which was boththe girl who would is now girlfriend and the friend of hers which i fancied, and they both were trying to get with me.
In the end, i thought about all the crap i had put up with trying to get with the second girl, and went for the other, who i still fancied loads, and she eventually became my girlfriend. However, the second girl wasn't very happy about this, and the two almost fell out, as the second girl thought that I had been 'stolen' from her, even though she had always rejected me! I guess she didnt realise what she wanted until she couldn't have it, haha. But alas, i don't care, as I am totally in love with my girl and still good friends with the other one.
I used to have a huge crush on my girlfriend way before we went out, but she had a boyfriend and anyways, i thought she was out of my league.
Then later on i fancied her friend for ages, and came very close a few times to getting with her, but she always changed her mind and messed me around loads, leading me on then rejecting me.
Then I was at a party, at which was boththe girl who would is now girlfriend and the friend of hers which i fancied, and they both were trying to get with me.
In the end, i thought about all the crap i had put up with trying to get with the second girl, and went for the other, who i still fancied loads, and she eventually became my girlfriend. However, the second girl wasn't very happy about this, and the two almost fell out, as the second girl thought that I had been 'stolen' from her, even though she had always rejected me! I guess she didnt realise what she wanted until she couldn't have it, haha. But alas, i don't care, as I am totally in love with my girl and still good friends with the other one.
That's soo...complicated....haha great how it all worked out in the end though.
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