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My girlfriend lives in another country, how to keep relationship going?

Basically, my girlfriend lives abroad and She's never been to the UK. It's fine, because we're okay with that. It is tough with her being abroad, but how do we keep the relationship going? Because if I was to bring her to UK, she would need a visa, which costs a lot of money, which I don't have. But It isn't expensive to travel out to see her, so I want to try and do that as much as possible in the next year or so. We haven't known each other for that long, but the time we've spent together means a lot. She doesn't believe in sex before marriage because she's religious, but I explained to her my situation and she understands that I am not 100% religious. We plan to make it work, but it is hard! I know LDR are not easy, but hopefully we can be together for good in the near future.

What do you think about my situation? It's tough, but can I make it work?
How far away is she? My boyfriend lives halfway around the world but we have kept it going for over a year so far and are still a strong couple. I have the same problems with visas and flight costs. However, I really do think it can work if you both really want it. Me and my boyfriend hate being so far apart and it really is hard sometimes because we miss each other horribly, but I can't imagine being with anybody else. From what you wrote it sounds like you really like her so I really hope it works out for you both!

How long have you been together?
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I know people who have made it work and are now married - but it takes money.
Come join the LDR thread :smile:


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I am in an LDR and she lives on the other side of the world. We have been apart for almost a year but I am seeing her again in less than a month. Regular texts, phone calls and skyping helps a lot. Hand-written letters every couple of months or so adds a personal touch that emails/texts can never hope to match. Occasional presents sent through posts, personal ones, like an elaborate picture frame or piece of jewelry with a photo of both of you together inside it.
We do lots of stuff like this even though we have been together for nearly 2 years, there is still so much passion in our relationship it still like new. I call her phone every morning she goes to college to wake her up too.
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I don't think that the long distance relation ever works


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Original post by Frankie_say_relax
I am in an LDR and she lives on the other side of the world. We have been apart for almost a year but I am seeing her again in less than a month. Regular texts, phone calls and skyping helps a lot. Hand-written letters every couple of months or so adds a personal touch that emails/texts can never hope to match. Occasional presents sent through posts, personal ones, like an elaborate picture frame or piece of jewelry with a photo of both of you together inside it.
We do lots of stuff like this even though we have been together for nearly 2 years, there is still so much passion in our relationship it still like new. I call her phone every morning she goes to college to wake her up too.


This is so cute! And in a way I think the distance can make a relationship much better on sone ways. It will either make you realise how much you love someone, or do the opposite and make you realise that maybe you don't. But I'm happy you have such s success story! You must really lovr each other^^ My boyfriend and I have one more year to go but we also make gufts and call each other regularly.

OP, I think to make long-distance work you just need to really love the person. I think it can make a relation more intense as you basically do have to plan your futures together too and yes. it does take money. But, my family are not rich and I have managed. It just means you may need a part-time job. :smile: I hope it works out for you!
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I think there are many ways to keep good relationship going, You have send her some jewelry gift its such a great gift to make your relation very strong. You also send her some good gold jewelry pendant with your photos and write some thoughts which make your distance less.
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Original post by patricronald
I think there are many ways to keep good relationship going, You have send her some jewelry gift its such a great gift to make your relation very strong. You also send her some good gold jewelry pendant with your photos and write some thoughts which make your distance less.


THanks, but she lives in Africa. And she is African, so it's a lot different there. The rules are a little more intense, so it's a complicated situation. I would love to bring her to the UK, but at the moment I think she's happy in Africa. And It doesn't cost me a lot to go visit her, as the country is a cheap place to live in general, and flights and accommodation are cheap too. I wish she wasn't in another country, but for now there's not much we can do. We speak on the phone nearly every week, and I text her occasionally. She can speak good English, but she cannot text English as she never got to that level of education. It's absolutely crazy who we gather feelings for, but I really do want it to work....It's just tough!
Original post by Frankie_say_relax
I am in an LDR and she lives on the other side of the world. We have been apart for almost a year but I am seeing her again in less than a month. Regular texts, phone calls and skyping helps a lot. Hand-written letters every couple of months or so adds a personal touch that emails/texts can never hope to match. Occasional presents sent through posts, personal ones, like an elaborate picture frame or piece of jewelry with a photo of both of you together inside it.
We do lots of stuff like this even though we have been together for nearly 2 years, there is still so much passion in our relationship it still like new. I call her phone every morning she goes to college to wake her up too.

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