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Sex Q (yes-again!!)

Hi. Do any other girls feel the same as me?? I'm still a virgin (18, nearly 19) not consciously if that makes sense, just because I've not been in a relationship for 6months (we didn't sleep together as it wasn't working out and we werent together all that long)
Since I've been at uni I've had a lot of interest off blokes, but no-one has really caught my eye (well, two people in the picture at the mo but it's early days..not sure who!) I've also had a lot of offers of what I know would just be casual sex (ie one night stands or just sex, basically) I've got a really high sex drive even though I've not gone all the way..so these offers kinda tempt me a bit I've got to admit, not to "get it over with" cos I know it's a special thing. I just know it would make me feel slutty if I lost it like this.. Does anyone else feel like this?
If you know it will make you feel slutty then don't do it. You shouldn't have to regret your first time, so if you're unsure just wait a while until the right person comes along or until you feel more positive about casual sex.
Personally, I would definitely wait for it to happen in a steady relationship, it seriously is a million times better than a one night stand and could be really special if you feel good about the whole thing, instead if guilty and regretful.
yup exactly the same. im 19 and just figure i havent met anyone whose been worth it its not cus im "saving myself" or anything its just because i havent met anyone i like enough to bother with. but like you i am definately tempted to just "go 4 it" just haven't because i figure all this waiting would just be pointless then.
Reply 3
I know I want to wait until my girlfriend is ready, and vice-versa. Don't think you have to rush into anything- its your body, you do it in your own time, with the person that you want.
Reply 4
Anonymous
Hi. Do any other girls feel the same as me?? I'm still a virgin (18, nearly 19) not consciously if that makes sense, just because I've not been in a relationship for 6months (we didn't sleep together as it wasn't working out and we werent together all that long)
Since I've been at uni I've had a lot of interest off blokes, but no-one has really caught my eye (well, two people in the picture at the mo but it's early days..not sure who!) I've also had a lot of offers of what I know would just be casual sex (ie one night stands or just sex, basically) I've got a really high sex drive even though I've not gone all the way..so these offers kinda tempt me a bit I've got to admit, not to "get it over with" cos I know it's a special thing. I just know it would make me feel slutty if I lost it like this.. Does anyone else feel like this?


DONT DO IT!!!!

if you are just horney, cant you have some DIY with a vibrator or something?

a virgin can always become non virgin, but once its gone its gone. and you THINK you will feel slutty already. when your future hubby asks you how you lost your V, how can you say 'i had a drunken one night stand i dunno who with'?

wait until you are with soemone special. you've had alot of offers - this shows you KNOW you are attractive. you dont need to have sex to prove it.
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shinytoy
DONT DO IT!!!!

if you are just horney, cant you have some DIY with a vibrator or something?

a virgin can always become non virgin, but once its gone its gone. and you THINK you will feel slutty already. when your future hubby asks you how you lost your V, how can you say 'i had a drunken one night stand i dunno who with'?

wait until you are with soemone special. you've had alot of offers - this shows you KNOW you are attractive. you dont need to have sex to prove it.


Yeah, I know I should wait! THe DIY thing, erm, isn't really enough anymore. Ah well, got plenty of uni work to take my mind off it, I guess..:frown: I'll hang on till I'm with someone I care about, it's just difficult!
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but if you are a virgin, how do you know you'll like sex? is it the closeness with a guy you want?

the first time is something you will never forget, and it will really hurt you if you randomly lose it to a guy who ignores you the next day. and the risks of STD/pregnancy and the pain of breaking the hymen - just for some physical pleasure?

if any of the guys you met seem decent and caring then maybe date them and see how it goes. but definately dotn randomly have sex
I used to, before I did actualy lose it. I was really horny all the time *blushes* and was really looking forward to it, but just did not have the opportunity. I had offers, but I felt weird thinking about losing it like that.

Just wait until it feels right. If thats a ONS, then fine. If its a r/ship, fine. But if you feel slutty or weird about it, just hold it. Don't do anything because your body wants to, if your head doesnt.
Anonymous
THe DIY thing, erm, isn't really enough anymore

cos you think that onetime sex will satisfy this totally? believe me you'll want it more than ever after...rather inconvenient i find:rolleyes:
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Kill_More_Foxes
cos you think that onetime sex will satisfy this totally? believe me you'll want it more than ever after...rather inconvenient i find:rolleyes:



Ah okay, got ya. Didn't think of that!More than likely.
Anonymous
Hi. Do any other girls feel the same as me?? I'm still a virgin (18, nearly 19) not consciously if that makes sense, just because I've not been in a relationship for 6months (we didn't sleep together as it wasn't working out and we werent together all that long)
Since I've been at uni I've had a lot of interest off blokes, but no-one has really caught my eye (well, two people in the picture at the mo but it's early days..not sure who!) I've also had a lot of offers of what I know would just be casual sex (ie one night stands or just sex, basically) I've got a really high sex drive even though I've not gone all the way..so these offers kinda tempt me a bit I've got to admit, not to "get it over with" cos I know it's a special thing. I just know it would make me feel slutty if I lost it like this.. Does anyone else feel like this?


I don't know why you feel less slutty doing the "other stuff" as you put it. It's just as slutty.

As for sleeping with these guys, you do realise that if a guy offers just casual sex, it's probably because he doesn't find you attractive enough to want to go out with you. If you can put up with that...
Anonymous
I don't know why you feel less slutty doing the "other stuff" as you put it. It's just as slutty.

As for sleeping with these guys, you do realise that if a guy offers just casual sex, it's probably because he doesn't find you attractive enough to want to go out with you. If you can put up with that...



That's a little bit rude. The "other stuff", of which I've done very, very little, compared to most girls of my age, has only been with men I've been out with (exes) ,of which there's only been two. So no, I'm not slutty by any stretch of the imagination.And I think most girls have been offered no strings before, it goes with the territory. I don't dress in next to nothing when I go out and I bloody well don't act that way either.
To be honest, i mean if ur gonna do the DIY stuff, u might as well like have sex with someone if u really care about them and stuff, I mean sex as an act of love has to be better than just doing it for your own pleasure... I dont know if u get what I'm saying...
all the time hun-you're right-u have to lose it at the right time-with the right person-im a virgin too :biggrin: -yay-go virgins!!
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Anonymous
To be honest, i mean if ur gonna do the DIY stuff, u might as well like have sex with someone if u really care about them and stuff, I mean sex as an act of love has to be better than just doing it for your own pleasure... I dont know if u get what I'm saying...


that's probably not that easy, that's the point . . .