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sigh *men* he isnt speaking to me still
ok basically i have had a crush on this guy for about 2 years, though i have dated other guys, it comes back to him because he is The One. he is lovely and perfect and gorgeous and shares my religion. i m fairly sure he is a virgin. but the thing is, he is really really shy . he's here on scholarship and he's the type that does work all of the time so i dont know if he has ever had a gf. he was known to have been stalking a girl last year.
we had discussed dating but he kept making excuses at the last mminute. i guess he might have been leading me on, but at the same time he got really mad when i was dating another guy.
we were getting on really well but i thought i should be honest and tell him about a)my religion and b)i dont believe in sex. however when i said this he went all shy and since then , 3 months ago, he blatantly ignores me in all of our lectures and in frount our mates. he wont take my calls. i asked him what his problem was and he said 'i dont have a prob, i dono whats ur prob, im just busy'.
we were good friends before. i dont understand why he isnt talking.it cant be that he is after 1 thing, cos the girl he was stalking is known to be very loose and he turned her down when they were drunk and she made a move, then she slept with his mate. also if he is a virgin, he cant just be after sex. its been 2 yrs, and he is gorgeous and could easily get it. i think he might be shy about his inexperience. but i dont knw.
i last text him a month ao. i want to call him because i miss him soooo sooo much.
we had discussed dating but he kept making excuses at the last mminute. i guess he might have been leading me on, but at the same time he got really mad when i was dating another guy.
we were getting on really well but i thought i should be honest and tell him about a)my religion and b)i dont believe in sex. however when i said this he went all shy and since then , 3 months ago, he blatantly ignores me in all of our lectures and in frount our mates. he wont take my calls. i asked him what his problem was and he said 'i dont have a prob, i dono whats ur prob, im just busy'.
we were good friends before. i dont understand why he isnt talking.it cant be that he is after 1 thing, cos the girl he was stalking is known to be very loose and he turned her down when they were drunk and she made a move, then she slept with his mate. also if he is a virgin, he cant just be after sex. its been 2 yrs, and he is gorgeous and could easily get it. i think he might be shy about his inexperience. but i dont knw.
i last text him a month ao. i want to call him because i miss him soooo sooo much.
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"Men"? That word has just made it's 50,000,000th appearence in the title of a thread relating to one man. You know, it's amazing as to how much men get slated for supposedly generalising about women, yet women seem to be doing so left, right and centre; where're the sanctimonious women, now?
Double standards.
Double standards.
Thats what I thought.
He may be what you are looking for, but if he was serious about you surely he would be speaking to you?
And do you really want someone who gets mad at you when you mention certain topics and then ignores you and blanks you will giving you inadequate excuses. Doesnt seem like a great match.
But, if you really want him, let him alone for a while. The more you call/txt/approach him, the more he will run away. leave him alone and then maybe invite him to a group gathering one day when you are sure he is free. Get back into the friendship slowly and with no pressure. DO NOT discuss dating until you are good friends again.
Above all else, let him make the first move. He knows that you would like to date him so leave it in his hands.
He may be what you are looking for, but if he was serious about you surely he would be speaking to you?
And do you really want someone who gets mad at you when you mention certain topics and then ignores you and blanks you will giving you inadequate excuses. Doesnt seem like a great match.
But, if you really want him, let him alone for a while. The more you call/txt/approach him, the more he will run away. leave him alone and then maybe invite him to a group gathering one day when you are sure he is free. Get back into the friendship slowly and with no pressure. DO NOT discuss dating until you are good friends again.
Above all else, let him make the first move. He knows that you would like to date him so leave it in his hands.
shinytoy
.... the girl he was stalking
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.... the girl he was stalking
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Why do you say this as if it was normal?!
well she says he was calling her all the time, getting drunk and pestering her, even when she was with another guy. but at the same time i think she was contributing to it - she slept with alot of guys, and what girl goes on the phone to a 'stalker' for 2 hours every evening? i think she was leading him on.
he gets really embarassed when i mention this to him, and thats why he stopped talking to me the last time.
if he didnt like me then why does he get mad if i date other guys?
he gets really embarassed when i mention this to him, and thats why he stopped talking to me the last time.
if he didnt like me then why does he get mad if i date other guys?
to be fair, she could just mean a girl he was interested in. Although, if he would consider persuing a "loose" girl, he hardly seems shinytoy's type...
edit: ah, he was most definitely agressively persuing her....why? Doesnt seem like someone someone of your religion would persue. Unless you want a bloke that gets pissed and pesters loose women.
edit: ah, he was most definitely agressively persuing her....why? Doesnt seem like someone someone of your religion would persue. Unless you want a bloke that gets pissed and pesters loose women.
i dont want to believe you, but i think it makes some sense.
i mean i tell him im a Catholic virgin, and he stops talking to me. he gets drunk and pesters hoes for easy sex.
but it was only the one girl, and he could have had sex with another girl easily. but im good friends with his best mates who he lives with and they say he hasnt had any girls since he's at uni.
i mean i tell him im a Catholic virgin, and he stops talking to me. he gets drunk and pesters hoes for easy sex.
but it was only the one girl, and he could have had sex with another girl easily. but im good friends with his best mates who he lives with and they say he hasnt had any girls since he's at uni.
That may be true. But you should still think about the way he acts, even if he is not actualy giving in and having sex.
Just use your head and do what seems right. Just be aware that even if you get him, it could be very complicated and he may turn out to be the complete opposite of what you want.
Just use your head and do what seems right. Just be aware that even if you get him, it could be very complicated and he may turn out to be the complete opposite of what you want.
he made a date with the gilr but chickened out at the last minute like he did with me.
aaaah!!! *rips hair out of head in an agonizing way* im going to call him tomorrow or i might text him tonight. he is too confusing. but also HOOOT. but then again i cant date him cos i dont want to marry him
aaaah!!! *rips hair out of head in an agonizing way* im going to call him tomorrow or i might text him tonight. he is too confusing. but also HOOOT. but then again i cant date him cos i dont want to marry him
Can't you get some info from his best friend if you are good friends with them? Get the best friend to go find out what's happening, what this guy thinks?
Other than that, just confront the guy. That's what I'd do. No point sending yourself mad over something. Maybe if you put your foot down and demand to know what the problem is, then you might get an answer.
Other than that, just confront the guy. That's what I'd do. No point sending yourself mad over something. Maybe if you put your foot down and demand to know what the problem is, then you might get an answer.
Honey, if hes The One... why don't you want to marry him? If you don't want to marry him, surely you know deep down he is bad news.
If you really want to date him, the last thing you must do is pester him. DO NOT CALL. Many men hate the feeling of being chased by someone they are not sure about.
If you really want to date him, the last thing you must do is pester him. DO NOT CALL. Many men hate the feeling of being chased by someone they are not sure about.
shinytoy
he made a date with the gilr but chickened out at the last minute like he did with me.
aaaah!!! *rips hair out of head in an agonizing way* im going to call him tomorrow or i might text him tonight. he is too confusing. but also HOOOT. but then again i cant date him cos i dont want to marry him
aaaah!!! *rips hair out of head in an agonizing way* im going to call him tomorrow or i might text him tonight. he is too confusing. but also HOOOT. but then again i cant date him cos i dont want to marry him
Does that matter? Surely you can date people you dont marry?
but she cant date someone if she is not considering them for marriage - its a religion thing.
He sounds like a coward. In fact, he probably is. I think the reason why he's mad when you go out with someone else is because he feels that he's losing an admirer, not because he truly cares for you. Also, I've learnt not to be too forward with guys, so when you told him your religion and your views on sex, it probably frightened him off. (i've done that once 
)
Really, you deserve better. Try to stop communicating with him, because otherwise you'll appear desperate; go out with other guys and just allow him to go mad....
)Really, you deserve better. Try to stop communicating with him, because otherwise you'll appear desperate; go out with other guys and just allow him to go mad....
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