Jealous Mate

Right well ive been best mates with my mate for about coming upto ten yeas. In the whole time even though we attended different secondary schools we've only not spoke for 6months! In that time she was in the late stages of pregnancy and her boyfriend(the only bf shes ever had) didnt let her speak to me. I dont know he felt threatened. Anyway when she dumped him as he was hitting her we became friends again i'd say about that was jan/feb 2005. I never had a t go at her because of it.(her not getting in touch wid me)

Anyways in august 2005 i started seeing this lad my m8 met him and admitted she was jealouos as we were like holding hands etc. I tried not to let her feel left out. Anyways she said she liked him yet when we started going out she didnt like him and he wasnt good for me etc. I finished witht his lad in jan and met someone else about 6 weeks ago. We only started going out the other day but my m8 kept mentioning my ex bf in the convo and how she liked him. I was thinking wat the hell you never did when we were going out and she admitted she was worried the ex was going to take me of ehr.

Anyways this morning she texts me saying i better not come and see her for a bit as phil(my curent bf) is coming between us and as long as im wid him she dont wanna see me.

grrr i can not take her jealous behaviour! everytime we go out she sits there wid a face on her as lads dont chat ehr up. i admit she aint the pretteist giirl but thats doesnt count. Everyones mentioned whenwe go out. you can tell by her negative body language she aint happy and im sick of erh ahving a go at me aevery time we go out and ehr sta there wid a face on. grrrrr wat shud i do!

Reply 1

andy_c

Have you tried explaining to her that she is your best friend and that nothing that happens between you and any guy can and would never take you away from her. Maybe she's just scared that you are going to end up with a guy like she did, who will turn around and make you stop seeing her. Make her see how much she means to you, but also, how silly her worries are at the same time.

And, maybe you could try helping her with her confidence... sounds like she needs some help in that department too.

Reply 2

Princess Ella

ignore ignore ignore-forget her!!! dont apologise unless-you've done anything wrong

Reply 3

white_haired_wizard

Arguably, because she's not happy herself, she doesn't want you to be happy. She doesn't seem a particularly nice person...in fact she's being pretty horrible.

DON'T let her drag you down.

Reply 4

brimstone

Normally, I'd say stick with your friend, but in this case - don't. She seems a horrible person, and I've been in similar situations myself. Dropping the friend usually makes life better.

Reply 5

blondie_

Yeah i do just think fine enough enough im sick of your behaviour. Yet she been my m8 for so long i do wanna help her! yeah andy c i told her that! im not gonna let her drag me down or anything! i mean she wont see a counselor yet will admit to sum random guy in the pub she jealous! yet she wont talk to me????