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So, the basics:
I'm 19 and go to uni, my girlfriend is 18 and is in her 2nd year of 6th form. We live close to eachother (about 2 miles). We have been going out for 8 months today, woo
I've always felt that i've done most of the work for the relationshop, I always have to put the most effort in to see her, i'm never late when she wants me, I go to see her after i finish uni for a 2 hours once/twice a week. I do nearly everything I can for her. But sometimes I feel even this isnt enough to please her and to actually get her to respect me as a person.
Whenever she comes to see me, she's pretty much always late. By late I mean an hour and she lives a 10 min drive away from me. Once she was nearly 3 hours late and wondered why I was annoyed. She can only come to mine during the weekends because she does work pretty much nonstop during the week. It doesnt stop at the weekend either, I can only see her after 5 or 6 because she'll be doing work during the day or for whatever other reasons she has - and remember she's still usually late after this so I get even less time with her as she has to go by 10.
The other thing is she is never interested in what I have to say. Using this example, when she sprained her wrist I told her to rest it, keep it up high and put ice on it but she thought I was talking crap and didnt do it. Then after a week she sees a doctor who tells her the same and she does as told. She admitted that she didnt listen to me because she thought I was wrong but she's still the same now. She must take me for an idiot or something, because thats how it feels. Again yesterday, I was trying to get on a website which wouldnt work, yet she told me she tried it and it did work (I tried various friends/proxies to see if it was my internet being a nub). Once I asked her to copy and paste me what was on the site she found out that it didnt work, in fact she didnt even give it time to load the first time yet still said it was my connection being wrong blah blah. So once again, something small but it just shows how... i dunno... everything is my fault, theres nothing wrong with her at all?
AND I have tried to bring this up with her, but it then turns into 'why cant you love me?' 'you dont make me happy anymore', she just makes it all about her :/
I asked why she was always late to mine and the reply i got kinda did shock me - "because you dont make me look forward to seeing you". It's true we have had quite a few arguments the past month, but she was doing it well before that anyway, so she has no excuse? She's constantly saying I mean so much to her, that she loves me so much, that she cant imagine being without me... but rarely shows it. If she did mean it wouldnt she at least care about what I felt and listened to me and my problems with her for a change?
This is the first time I'm posting here about me/her so if its me with the problem, and me being an idiot - i will accept that
I'm 19 and go to uni, my girlfriend is 18 and is in her 2nd year of 6th form. We live close to eachother (about 2 miles). We have been going out for 8 months today, woo
I've always felt that i've done most of the work for the relationshop, I always have to put the most effort in to see her, i'm never late when she wants me, I go to see her after i finish uni for a 2 hours once/twice a week. I do nearly everything I can for her. But sometimes I feel even this isnt enough to please her and to actually get her to respect me as a person.
Whenever she comes to see me, she's pretty much always late. By late I mean an hour and she lives a 10 min drive away from me. Once she was nearly 3 hours late and wondered why I was annoyed. She can only come to mine during the weekends because she does work pretty much nonstop during the week. It doesnt stop at the weekend either, I can only see her after 5 or 6 because she'll be doing work during the day or for whatever other reasons she has - and remember she's still usually late after this so I get even less time with her as she has to go by 10.
The other thing is she is never interested in what I have to say. Using this example, when she sprained her wrist I told her to rest it, keep it up high and put ice on it but she thought I was talking crap and didnt do it. Then after a week she sees a doctor who tells her the same and she does as told. She admitted that she didnt listen to me because she thought I was wrong but she's still the same now. She must take me for an idiot or something, because thats how it feels. Again yesterday, I was trying to get on a website which wouldnt work, yet she told me she tried it and it did work (I tried various friends/proxies to see if it was my internet being a nub). Once I asked her to copy and paste me what was on the site she found out that it didnt work, in fact she didnt even give it time to load the first time yet still said it was my connection being wrong blah blah. So once again, something small but it just shows how... i dunno... everything is my fault, theres nothing wrong with her at all?
AND I have tried to bring this up with her, but it then turns into 'why cant you love me?' 'you dont make me happy anymore', she just makes it all about her :/
I asked why she was always late to mine and the reply i got kinda did shock me - "because you dont make me look forward to seeing you". It's true we have had quite a few arguments the past month, but she was doing it well before that anyway, so she has no excuse? She's constantly saying I mean so much to her, that she loves me so much, that she cant imagine being without me... but rarely shows it. If she did mean it wouldnt she at least care about what I felt and listened to me and my problems with her for a change?
This is the first time I'm posting here about me/her so if its me with the problem, and me being an idiot - i will accept that
Reply 1
It sounds like you have some serious communication issues. From what you've said, it sounds like she's not listening enough, although I'm aware you might not have given us the whole story. 
IMO, this relationship is on a fast road to disaster until you start listening to each other more. If she can't handle that, then I'm sorry, but there's going to be pain, one way or the other.
IMO, this relationship is on a fast road to disaster until you start listening to each other more. If she can't handle that, then I'm sorry, but there's going to be pain, one way or the other.
Reply 2
Yeah this sounds quite bad.
She clearly has little respect for you.
I don't want to sound harsh...but if I were you I would end it asap.
She clearly has little respect for you.
I don't want to sound harsh...but if I were you I would end it asap.
Reply 3
Anonymous
So, the basics:
I'm 19 and go to uni, my girlfriend is 18 and is in her 2nd year of 6th form. We live close to eachother (about 2 miles). We have been going out for 8 months today, woo
I've always felt that i've done most of the work for the relationshop, I always have to put the most effort in to see her, i'm never late when she wants me, I go to see her after i finish uni for a 2 hours once/twice a week. I do nearly everything I can for her. But sometimes I feel even this isnt enough to please her and to actually get her to respect me as a person.
Whenever she comes to see me, she's pretty much always late. By late I mean an hour and she lives a 10 min drive away from me. Once she was nearly 3 hours late and wondered why I was annoyed. She can only come to mine during the weekends because she does work pretty much nonstop during the week. It doesnt stop at the weekend either, I can only see her after 5 or 6 because she'll be doing work during the day or for whatever other reasons she has - and remember she's still usually late after this so I get even less time with her as she has to go by 10.
The other thing is she is never interested in what I have to say. Using this example, when she sprained her wrist I told her to rest it, keep it up high and put ice on it but she thought I was talking crap and didnt do it. Then after a week she sees a doctor who tells her the same and she does as told. She admitted that she didnt listen to me because she thought I was wrong but she's still the same now. She must take me for an idiot or something, because thats how it feels. Again yesterday, I was trying to get on a website which wouldnt work, yet she told me she tried it and it did work (I tried various friends/proxies to see if it was my internet being a nub). Once I asked her to copy and paste me what was on the site she found out that it didnt work, in fact she didnt even give it time to load the first time yet still said it was my connection being wrong blah blah. So once again, something small but it just shows how... i dunno... everything is my fault, theres nothing wrong with her at all?
AND I have tried to bring this up with her, but it then turns into 'why cant you love me?' 'you dont make me happy anymore', she just makes it all about her :/
I asked why she was always late to mine and the reply i got kinda did shock me - "because you dont make me look forward to seeing you". It's true we have had quite a few arguments the past month, but she was doing it well before that anyway, so she has no excuse? She's constantly saying I mean so much to her, that she loves me so much, that she cant imagine being without me... but rarely shows it. If she did mean it wouldnt she at least care about what I felt and listened to me and my problems with her for a change?
This is the first time I'm posting here about me/her so if its me with the problem, and me being an idiot - i will accept that
I'm 19 and go to uni, my girlfriend is 18 and is in her 2nd year of 6th form. We live close to eachother (about 2 miles). We have been going out for 8 months today, woo
I've always felt that i've done most of the work for the relationshop, I always have to put the most effort in to see her, i'm never late when she wants me, I go to see her after i finish uni for a 2 hours once/twice a week. I do nearly everything I can for her. But sometimes I feel even this isnt enough to please her and to actually get her to respect me as a person.
Whenever she comes to see me, she's pretty much always late. By late I mean an hour and she lives a 10 min drive away from me. Once she was nearly 3 hours late and wondered why I was annoyed. She can only come to mine during the weekends because she does work pretty much nonstop during the week. It doesnt stop at the weekend either, I can only see her after 5 or 6 because she'll be doing work during the day or for whatever other reasons she has - and remember she's still usually late after this so I get even less time with her as she has to go by 10.
The other thing is she is never interested in what I have to say. Using this example, when she sprained her wrist I told her to rest it, keep it up high and put ice on it but she thought I was talking crap and didnt do it. Then after a week she sees a doctor who tells her the same and she does as told. She admitted that she didnt listen to me because she thought I was wrong but she's still the same now. She must take me for an idiot or something, because thats how it feels. Again yesterday, I was trying to get on a website which wouldnt work, yet she told me she tried it and it did work (I tried various friends/proxies to see if it was my internet being a nub). Once I asked her to copy and paste me what was on the site she found out that it didnt work, in fact she didnt even give it time to load the first time yet still said it was my connection being wrong blah blah. So once again, something small but it just shows how... i dunno... everything is my fault, theres nothing wrong with her at all?
AND I have tried to bring this up with her, but it then turns into 'why cant you love me?' 'you dont make me happy anymore', she just makes it all about her :/
I asked why she was always late to mine and the reply i got kinda did shock me - "because you dont make me look forward to seeing you". It's true we have had quite a few arguments the past month, but she was doing it well before that anyway, so she has no excuse? She's constantly saying I mean so much to her, that she loves me so much, that she cant imagine being without me... but rarely shows it. If she did mean it wouldnt she at least care about what I felt and listened to me and my problems with her for a change?
This is the first time I'm posting here about me/her so if its me with the problem, and me being an idiot - i will accept that
Nice book. Going to publish it?
Reply 4
Tell her you're not happy, and want some space. Don't see her for a week or two. If she really does mean 'I can't imagine being without you' She'll shape up and It'll work. Otherwise... the relationship is over.
Reply 5
You need to sit down and have a proper talk. Tell her how you feel and ask her what she feels about the relationship. You aren't going to get anywhere unless you sort out your communication issues.
Maybe send her the link to this thread... make her see your side of the story?
Maybe send her the link to this thread... make her see your side of the story?
Reply 6
Is there anything she might be resenting you for?? I used to be like this to my bf because he went to uni, and i was stuck at college, and my mum and dad had just split up and his family were "perfect". I just used to be mean to him for everything. I used to turn up late for his, cancel arrangements last minute etc. It took me a long time to realise that he was the best thing that had happened to me for ages, so i sorted myself out, i stopped being jelous of him. Could there be any reason that you could think of why your gf is like this to you?? I am probably way off line, but just trying to help lol.
Reply 7
Yeah we just broke up. She wouldnt give me a reason for why she was always late etc. She said I caused all the problems, and she wanted a weeks break from me because i've pissed her off by telling her why i was upset (pretty much saying everything i've said here). Also, it was our 8month of togetherness today and she was thinking of coming at 5/6! I know it's not exactly a year together, but she should have put in some more effort, especially since i didnt see her yesterday either because she was working. She wouldnt give in to anything though, so it's her fault and i've had enough of it! Tbh I am better off without her, and know I can and have done better! Going out with friends in a bit to watch Natalie Portman :} Still have to delete those nude pics of her though, hmmmmmm.... (and no I wont upload them :P)
Reply 8
Well done matey brave of you. good hunting! 
brave of you. good hunting! Reply 9
Nude pics?
Always good for blackmail.
Always good for blackmail.
Reply 10
10
Pfft. I'd never bother with someone like that. ****ing pain in the arse.
Reply 11
20
Good man. Given your circumstances, I'd like to think of myself as having testicularity sufficient to accomplish the same.
Reply 12
Oh Morgan, you're very likely to have to put up with her on your course at uni by the looks of things!
Reply 13
Ah joy...which uni she going to?
I'll avoid that one.
I'll avoid that one.
Reply 14
Bristol or Warwick (no offer there yet). She got pooled and rejected for Cam. Ah wonder what i'll be doing tomorrow, in a way I dont think this relationship is over but will have to see
Reply 15
would you obscure her face and upload them??
Reply 16
Nahhhhhh 
Reply 17
Anonymous
Bristol or Warwick (no offer there yet). She got pooled and rejected for Cam. Ah wonder what i'll be doing tomorrow, in a way I dont think this relationship is over but will have to see
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