learnt my lesson - note to guys with f' all confidence

i thought that there was going to be a happy ending to that, sorry about that.

if she didnt like the new guy, would you ask her out then?

you said you learnt your lesson, I was just wondering if you did.

no

A note to all those guys who have little confidence:

Whatever you do, don't spend years liking a girl, taking forever to ask her out, actually do it after much reassurance they like you and then, a month in, when the girl is totally head over heels for you, break up with her because you think you're not good enough.

That's what my ex did, and he totally broke my heart. I would do anything to have him back, but he's far too stubborn to go back on his decision. (by the way, if any of you are like that, do you think there would ever be a chance?)

I did that... fell for a girl in secondary school, liked her all the way though, and in college to, but I never did anything about it. Though I wasn't good enough. Fact is, I think she liked me too. I was really good friends with her best mate, and she tried to set us up, but I just avoided it all the time. God, how I wish I could turn back time now. I really hate myself for not even trying. But, then again, she could have approached me, because I'm sure she had some idea of how I felt! I feel sick just thinking about that.

see, it's post like these that make me want to try and improve my confidence, but it never happens. does anyone actually have any techniques for improving self confidence? to a degree i do have self confidence, but i mean, not enough to just go up to a girl in a club and start chatting away.

regards
--marty

Yes. If you ask, what's the worst that could happen?

She could reject you humiliatingly. Oh, right.

Ah, but if you're a bit sharp with your wits you can usually turn any sort of humiliation around onto the other party.

So would you advise me to try and talk to him and see if there's a chance? It's been 4 months since now, and I still can't get over him...I lost my best friend as well as a boyfriend. He's had another girlfriend since, but that was obvious rebound and was very short and sexual. I just don't want to make a fool of myself.