Out of your 'League'

Yes you are but surely if a girl is naturally good-looking yet her priorities aren't looking good and she's out of your league in that sense, but she's intelligent, shares similar interests etc she still won't go out with you?

I never believed in leagues until I liked a girl that friends warned me about being out of my league (this was about 4 years ago). That was a painful experience, not because of "leagues" as such. It happened because we're such different people, we thought in different ways, did different stuff, had different priorties- basically it wouldn't have worked.

"Leagues" for me now, means different personalities. If a girl is out of my "league", for example, is stupidly good-looking, it is not because she's so hot, but because her priority is her looks, which is not something I like. A girl can very easily be in my league and be good-looking as well, its just that it wouldn't be her main focus.

Am I making sense here?

If she's intelligent and has similar interests, I don't think that's out of my league. I'd go for it anyway. I'm really bad at judging how good-looking I am; bad previous experiences, but apparently a lot better now than when I was younger, which is meant to be dangerous (so I've been told!).

Sorry, I don't get what you mean by "its meant to be dangerous"?

Being a particular level of good-looking-ness, and not knowing it (either believing you're better than you actually are, or worse than you actually are), can lead to messy and painful results.

What does everyone think about so-called 'leagues'? How do you tell if a girl is out of your league? I usually make the mistake of punching above my weight and making a fool of myself.

Maybe some of you don't believe in them?

Discuss

I guess "leagues" are just a young person's way of referring to social classes.

I certainly think there are leagues (I posted this on the other thread- what happened to that?) and they probably contribute to the fact that I don't currently have a perfect male specimine for a boyfriend.

I'd advise still going for people who are out of your league though, you never know what might happen- it's not overly healthy to believe you're below someone, if they think you're below them then you'll find out soon enough and you can blame it on incompatibility instead of thinking of yourself as not worthy. Works for me.

u dont have the perfect male specimin because A) he doesnt exist B) you arent confident enough to go get him.

what does social class have to do with dating???



being incompatible means exactly that. its nothing to do with making yourself feel better because someone is above you. no-one is above you, alls fair in love and war therefore everyone is fair game u dont have the perfect male specimin because A) he doesnt exist B) you arent confident enough to go get him.