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Why are you telling me this?!?
One of my uni flatmates keeps, basically, telling me a lot things that frankly I don't want to hear. I don't know her very well but we get on alright. It seems everytime I see her she just completely opens her heart and starts telling me all these messed up things that she's done, etc. She's pretty open in general, but I'm at a loss why she keeps telling me everything, I'm assuming she doesn't do it to everyone and I don't know how I can kind of just say 'I really don't want to know' without pissing her off. It's not so much as I'm uncomfortable as I just don't think I should be getting told these things.
Any ideas
Any ideas
Avoid seeing her? This is a tricky one... How about you be really upfront and say, "I don't know how to help"?
LOL, I'm reading "Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus" (I thought it'd be funny, and it actually is) and that might not help- girls seem to just like talking things over, and having someone there to emapthise. With a guy, its straightforward, if he asks you, he's looking for a solution, and if you haven't got one, he'll leave you be.
LOL, I'm reading "Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus" (I thought it'd be funny, and it actually is) and that might not help- girls seem to just like talking things over, and having someone there to emapthise. With a guy, its straightforward, if he asks you, he's looking for a solution, and if you haven't got one, he'll leave you be.
Reply 2
Women crave emotional support
Reply 3
Tell her you don't want to know. If you don't tell her, she will never know.
Reply 4
Attention seeking? Just throw up in her lap or something the next time she tell you 'too much info'...
Reply 7
Tell her to come to TSR and discuss her problems on here like all normal university folk 
Reply 9
True enough, I suppose.
Subtlety isn't my strong-point so I'll just tell her to stop, or ask her why, I guess. If I bottle it I'll just put my fingers in my ears and start singing.
Subtlety isn't my strong-point so I'll just tell her to stop, or ask her why, I guess. If I bottle it I'll just put my fingers in my ears and start singing.
Reply 11
Profesh
Congratulations: you've scuppered the 'relation-ship'.
He doesn't seem to know her that well at all either way
Reply 12
is it really that bad that you cant "lend a hearing ear" lol
come on, obviously this person is trusting you, and letting you know some personal things, the least you could do is try and help her if shes looking for advice, or opinions...
i know i know, ur not OBLIGATED to do anything...
but at least give it a go lol
luv ya
Nicole
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come on, obviously this person is trusting you, and letting you know some personal things, the least you could do is try and help her if shes looking for advice, or opinions...
i know i know, ur not OBLIGATED to do anything...
but at least give it a go lol
luv ya
Nicole
x
Reply 13
Profesh
Congratulations: you've scuppered the 'relation-ship'.
A relationship of titantic intimacy
Reply 14
Nicotine
is it really that bad that you cant "lend a hearing ear" lol
come on, obviously this person is trusting you, and letting you know some personal things, the least you could do is try and help her if shes looking for advice, or opinions...i know i know, ur not OBLIGATED to do anything...
but at least give it a go lol
luv ya
Nicole
x
come on, obviously this person is trusting you, and letting you know some personal things, the least you could do is try and help her if shes looking for advice, or opinions...i know i know, ur not OBLIGATED to do anything...
but at least give it a go lol
luv ya
Nicole
x
With some people though they tell you SO much you get to a point where you think "wtf are you telling me all this junk for??!". I had a flatmate like that and it was stuff I genuinely couldn't help her with, other than umming and aahing at random times during her speech to make it sound like I was digesting what she was going on about. For her it was all about attention (her stories were fairly outlandish) and we fell out about something unrelated pretty soon after so I didn't have to put up with her anymore.
Reply 15
Thing is...some of the things are quite personal - stuff that I wouldn't tell some of my best mates, in all truthfulness. So I feel quite awkward, like I shouldn't really be saying 'Do this, do that' because I don't know her that well. Its well and good saying be a listening ear, but when I'm just standing there like a lemon hearing all these things without able to give advice (I know I CAN give advice - I'd just feel really out of place if I did) and just mostly agreeing it can be, as I've said, pretty awkward.
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