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Hi people! I need some advice on how to try and tell this older girl that I like her. The difference between us is 4 years, and I know that sounds like quite alot and so did I at first, but after we had flirted quite alot, I began to think about it. I've just come out of a fairly serious relationship with someone, but even while I was with my ex, I had feelings for this older girl but didnt think much of it due to the age difference. We are very close friends and we tell each other everything, and to be honest I was just happy being friends with her. However, after she initiated the flirting, I thought there might be something there? I understand that it could just be a rebound thing for me, but I liked her even when I was in my relationship, so that kind of rules that out doesnt it? So, what do you guys think I have to do in order for her to perhaps like me more? And how do I go about telling her about my feelings without risking the friendship, because I cannot stress how much of a good friend she is to me, especially helping me with the break up. Another thing, she is really pretty, and Im not sure if it might just be lust for her, as I lost my virginity in the last relationship, and now Im not gettin any ! 
Sorry for the long post, I been thinking about it loads, and just want some other people's opinions, Thank you !
Sorry for the long post, I been thinking about it loads, and just want some other people's opinions, Thank you !
How old are you? If you're 14 I'd forget about it...
18...
18 and 22? Not that difficult. Step outside the situation, look at her behaviour from a neutral perspective, if it looks like flirting, smells like flirting and quacks like flirting... Go for it, get friendlier then go for a kiss or just plain ask her! Unless there's any major reason you can't hook up (ie one of you going away)
lol so knowledgeable fragreaper. Seriously it's just like with any "normal" girl, the only difference is some chicks are hung up about age gaps so might say noo purely for that reason (she might still think you're hot tho lol). My sis has been with a fella 5 years younger than her since he was 18 and she was 23 so it's not that out of the way...
Tarts_n_Vicars
lol so knowledgeable fragreaper. Seriously it's just like with any "normal" girl, the only difference is some chicks are hung up about age gaps so might say noo purely for that reason (she might still think you're hot tho lol). My sis has been with a fella 5 years younger than her since he was 18 and she was 23 so it's not that out of the way...
I choose not to see any sarcasm there
I was admiring your advisory prowess!
Tarts_n_Vicars
I was admiring your advisory prowess!
*smug mode* Btw, thought your MSN hack backfiring was sheer genius! hello !! this is supposed to by my thread!!! lol, thanks for your advice though 
so you think i should just go for the kiss? what if she's like what the hell and slaps me and just walks away !! im not too bothered about the humiliation, but the fact that id be losing a friend like her, she's pretty much one of my best friends, is going to hurt me ... anymore advice people?
so you think i should just go for the kiss? what if she's like what the hell and slaps me and just walks away !! im not too bothered about the humiliation, but the fact that id be losing a friend like her, she's pretty much one of my best friends, is going to hurt me ... anymore advice people?It's not like you just jump in there lips first! Just be extra flirty and close, hug her, tickle her, if alls good, she wont back away and you'll be sitting / standing somewhere quite alone, watching tv or something, then make eye contact, and move in closer to kiss. The emergency abort technique if she looks petrified is to fake a sneeze
Good luck
Good luck
sounds good, but ive never been to her house before, and she hasnt been to mine....do you think inviting her round mine might be a bit too much if she only wants to be mates? we live in different cities, so we just meet up in london or something like that. shall i invite her, or do it somewhere in public? im really nervous about all this incase i do something wrong ! ... 
i've been thinking about it so much...im not sure if i should go for it or not...help people !
minimo
Completely irrelevent, but I started a thread with the exact same title a few weeks ago
Did you try what I suggested with him? And did it work
?Yes I attempted to... But he never seemed to grasp the fact that I wanted to move the convo in that direction, or I suppose didn't want to let me do so (more plausible I s'pose). What really made me sad was the fact he didn't even appear flattered, not even slightly - just really indifferent which has left me under the impression that he was really disgusted And it's not like he has had zilch experience with women as he mentioned his ex randomly to someone else at dinner.
Oh well. I'm moving on.
But he never seemed to grasp the fact that I wanted to move the convo in that direction, or I suppose didn't want to let me do so (more plausible I s'pose). What really made me sad was the fact he didn't even appear flattered, not even slightly - just really indifferent which has left me under the impression that he was really disgusted And it's not like he has had zilch experience with women as he mentioned his ex randomly to someone else at dinner.Oh well. I'm moving on.
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