I feel terrible!

Ok im sorry for posting as anon just i know quite a few people on here and dont really want anyone else to know.
I randomly met up with a mate when she was back from uni for the weekend, we flirted loads and invited me up to see her. I went up last weekend, and everything seemed great, we have loads in common and the inevitable happened and basically ended up sleepin together. This was all good until she suddenly went all wierd on me, i dont know what's wrong with her. Ive been back a week sent her tonnes of emails and texts n tried callin her, but she hasnt replied to anything. I hoped she'd end up being my gf, and everything was going brilliantly until the last morning. Have you lot got any ideas as to what's going on? Sorry this is long, but she's breaking my heart.

Reply 1

andy_c

When you say tonnes of e-mails and texts, what are you talking about? How many? Are you coming on to strong?

Reply 2

Zerforax

Don't be so clingy? give some space?

Reply 3

xavier2k3

I totally know what you mean man but you can only chase it to a point. Although it'll break your heart, you're gonna have to leave it at some point and if she isn't replying then just leave it.

Another possibility is that she is really busy and hasn't had time to get back to you. Hang on for another week and if the situation doesn't change, just leave it and move on matey. That's all i can suggest.

regards
--marty

Reply 4

Anonymous #1

I know ive prob come on too strong, ive sent her about 100 texts n a similar amunt of emails, and at least tried to call her 10 times a day. It's just everything was going really well until the last minute, maybe it was just her realising she didn't want to sleep or be with me, but she could have said something instead of being quiet and spendin my last few hours in her mates room.

Reply 5

Tarts_n_Vicars

Just how matey were you before you slept with her? Like best buds from age 2 or casual mates from sixth form? She could either be regretting what went on or maybe feels she's crossed the line from being mates to something else and doesn't know how to handle it.

Keeping texting or emailing won't do any good and will just hack her off eventually. She'll most likely come round in her own time and feel she owes you an explanation.

Reply 6

warranty-ideal

Did you have an strong emotional connection whilst you were friends? If so you might be in trouble, as you were in the 'friend zone' . And she's now freaking out about ruining your friendship. If you're friends with a chick, and would like it to develop into something more, it's generally a good idea to retain some emotional distance.
However, you did force yourself out of the friend zone temporarily with the humping and all, my advice would be to communicate in a non confrontational way (letter, email) exactly how you feel and that you'd like more than friendship or casual sex.
Good hunting.
Si

Reply 7

Anonymous #1

We werent best friends or anything, just she used to do the same subjects as me in college and we'd generally chat about that, n we went out pubbing and clubbing quite a bit together. So we werent all that great mates to start with.

Reply 8

Tarts_n_Vicars

Maybe you're just a guy she had sex with one time and now she feels awkward? It happens.

Reply 9

El Scotto

Anonymous

Ive been back a week sent her tonnes of emails and texts n tried callin her, but she hasnt replied to anything. I hoped she'd end up being my gf, and everything was going brilliantly until the last morning. Have you lot got any ideas as to what's going on? Sorry this is long, but she's breaking my heart.

Maybe you've sent her too many emails and texts and phonecalls,
Maybe she thinks you're the one whos gone weird on her...

Reply 10

Anonymous #1

Yeah that is a good point that she might not want to cross the friend zone, butit seems a bitodd, to only realise after we'd been doinit for the 2 days before. Who knows, women eh. I know ive gona bit psycho, just i want toknow where i stand, and waiting and gettin no recognition isnt good