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Is anyone truly "out of someone's league"?

There was a more specific thread on this... but I was curious for a more general opinion. Is there such a thing as "out of your league?"

Reply 1

warranty-ideal

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Nah, Confidence + Charisma + Drunk Girl > Than your personal looks. :smile:

Reply 2

alej18

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yes, what would be the point in that type of relationship without physical attraction.

Reply 3

warranty-ideal

12

You can be attracted to someone for their mind, not just their bust size.

Reply 4

q1w2e3r4t5y

I personally think only insecure people use this term. Some people, who try and make themselves feel better and others who use it as an excuse not to ask somebody out or an explanation for their rejection.

Reply 5

ladygrey

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superalex16

yes, what would be the point in that type of relationship without physical attraction.

i don't even mean just physical attraction... but yeah. can someone be too hot for you, too popular, too smart, too funny etc?

Reply 6

alej18

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fragreaper

You can be attracted to someone for their mind, not just their bust size.

beg to differ, thats what friends are for, i just dont think any relationship that has no physical attraction can last in the long term. it just doesnt work.

Reply 7

La Trampa

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no it's not true. unless you make it an issue then it's not a problem. a bartender and a lawyer could be dating and unless one of them sees it as an issue,there should be no problem or anyone saying the other person is out of their league.

Reply 8

sjuthani

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I said it before, in the other thread, and I'll say it again- being in someone's league is having stuff in common, appreciating the same things as them and generally getting along like a house on fire. If they're not in your league, regardless of looks or whatever, it won't last.

Reply 9

MagicNMedicine

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You might be outside an individuals 'personal tastes' - that doesnt mean you'd be outside of a league (a league being part of a wider group)

I think when people talk about leagues, they are creating barriers in their own mind.

However amongst weak-minded people there may be a susceptibility to peer pressure, especially girls - if they start seeing a guy who their friends don't consider is 'in their league', they may get influenced negatively by their friends

Reply 10

sheepy05

I think everyones in the same "league"....might just be idealisitc thinking tho.

Reply 11

SamTheMan

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ladygrey

There was a more specific thread on this... but I was curious for a more general opinion. Is there such a thing as "out of your league?"

The answer everyone wants to hear: no

Reality: yes

Reply 12

Cellardore

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fragreaper

Nah, Confidence + Charisma + Drunk Girl > Than your personal looks. :smile:

lol

that is depressingly true

i'm not doing myself any favours admitting this! :redface:

Reply 13

Roses are red. . .

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superalex16

beg to differ, thats what friends are for, i just dont think any relationship that has no physical attraction can last in the long term. it just doesnt work.

Its exactly the opposite of this, relationships with physical attraction are amazing in the short term, however, in the long term (e.g. one gets old and their looks wither) the only things that are really important are companionship and friendship.

Reply 14

ladygrey

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SamTheMan

The answer everyone wants to hear: no

Reality: yes

Reply 15

SamTheMan

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ladygrey

well the person who mentioned something about charisma, personality over looks is talking about something irrelevant. It's already a well established fact that guys can't just rely on their looks to be successful with the ladies. It certainly isn't just looks that make a guy or a girl attractive to the opposite sex, especially in the case of guys.

When people talk about being out of someone's league they often talk about status: a young 18-yr old guy working at a bike shop might find that a 25-yr old investment banker woman is out of his league. A clumsy, unattractive, 5ft3 IT guy will probably struggle to get a 6ft model. These are only extreme examples but all this becomes more apparent with time. There's only so much you can offer the opposite sex.

It helps to give yourself a confidence boost and tell yourself that noone is out of your league but at the end of the day, who are you kidding?

Reply 16

banksy

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fragreaper

You can be attracted to someone for their mind, not just their bust size.

What about their butt size?

Reply 17

john!!

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in terms of looks, probably not, in terms of personality, yes, easily. But since you can chang your personality, I guess a broarder answer is no. But Im 100% sure someone average looking with all the confidence in the world could attract the best looking/nicest women out there. 100% sure...

Reply 18

lukeyboy

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Not unless, the person who's league you wish to be in is incredibly shallow.

Reply 19

serious narb

11

of course there is, obviously with a bit of confidence/charisma whatever you can get someone a bit better than usual maybe. But in reality without wanting to sound shallow I know that there are many girls that I just wouldn't stoop to, it's called having standards. Might sound like a bastard but i'm sure some girls wouldn't be interested in me either so it works both ways.