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viewing someone 'differently'

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If you are serious about this, then just talk to her and try telling her how you feel (or try going down that direction and put some subtle signs out there, if you don't feel you can come straight out with it), instead of messing about playing games - now what if she doesn't consider you that attractive, but say, may like you for other reasons? Your plan might not work. Or even worse, you could end up making yourself look like a fool, trying to show off for her.

You could always get another friend to get her views on you?

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Ang|ophi|e

12

I can see why you don't want to ruin the friendship. First off as a girl myself I think it's a bit shallow of you to like her for her personality but not your target becuase of her appearence. However, guys are guys. Take the risk and ask her out. Who knows maybe she dressed that way to impress you. Girls like an honest guy so be one.

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Cellardore

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i'm good friends with this guy on my course too and we end up meeting each other at clubs and stuff and good conversations while being there. A couple of weeks ago he invited me out to this club/bar thing and i was really enjoying myself. Well a couple of quad vodkas later and feeling pretty typsy! i was dancing with him and then completely out of the blue he kissed me and i thought oook, whats going on!? lol

the thing is when i questioned him later about it he said that he was sober (i would unerstand when you're drunk) but he wasnt. So i'm thinking now, does he like me or was it an off the cuff thing which i hate because if i was friends with a guy who i didnt fancy i would definately not kiss them especially sober!

so now i just dont know where i stand. He's just getting over a two year realtionship so it could have something to do with that

but recently i found he's got funny with me because i went round a guys house friday night and didnt gt back til 10 in the morning lol i really like this other guy and i told my friend on my course because i view him as a 'friend' just to laugh about it but i found he got a bit funny. But it really pisses me off because he didnt do anything about the kiss thing and i just moved on

what do you tsr people think of this? Am i reading into things too much!???

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MagicNMedicine

OP

20

aNgLoPhIlE

I can see why you don't want to ruin the friendship. First off as a girl myself I think it's a bit shallow of you to like her for her personality but not your target becuase of her appearence. However, guys are guys.

nah youve misread what I said there

MagicNMedicine

Well, I think it probably bobbed into my head once or twice that she was attractive enough for me to consider as a girlfriend, but I sort of felt that she wasn't a target, a bit like I felt about an attractive girl who I lived with in my first year - she was 'off limits' because she was a close friend.

I know what you mean about being shallow in terms of not considering someone a 'target' but there has to be some physical/sexual attraction there - in terms of YOU need to be attracted to them, not they need to necessarily be attractive to a lot of other people. I can't deny I look at her differently now I have 'noticed' her in a way that made her look hot, and yeah that is shallow but that is life.

She may very well like my personality but not be attracted to me - again that's life, that's not her being shallow. One of my flatmates did say to me after I had been telling him about her that "maybe she's just looking for someone who's like you but better looking" :eek:

Reply 5

q1w2e3r4t5y

If you have the body for it, then try and get a reason for you to take your top off, like spill water on it or something. Then she might notice you back :p:

Why don't you just tell her that you like her in that way? You don't necessarily have to get the same reaction that she gave you if she's the sort of person who can be attracted to you without needing the same "trigger" as it were.

Reply 6

Zerforax

21

Lol.. kinda similar situation with a friend of mine cept with more history :frown:

Was good friends with a girl, apprantly she really liked me but i never saw her that way; she had an amazing personality and i loved her for it but didnt find her attractive so never made a move, fastforward like over a year after not seeing her so much lately, and now its kinda wow... but yea :frown:

dunno what to do..

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