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Mainly to the girls, but any helpful replies welcome. When girls are in a group, or talking in a pair or something, would you be annoyed if a random guy came up to you and started talking? Or, from another angle, what kind of things could a guy say to one of the girls if he's interested in her (at a club or something). This has happened a few times and I feel like an idiot just interrupting someone mid convo and then having nothing to say other than a usual "hi, my name is....". Doesn't seem like that intro would work if the girl's in a group. any suggestions on what do to in this situation?
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I kinda depends where you are.
If it was me, and my friend got singled out it would annoy me, especially if I was talking to her alone, coz I'd have no-one to talk to. More acceptable if they're in a group.
Generally I'd say don't just single her out, her friend is likely to be pissed off, And if the friend is against you it will be that bit harder to get the girl, plus she'll feel bad for 'abandoning' her friend. Talk to them both, I'd like it if a guy was polite and showed an interest in my friend.
If it was me, and my friend got singled out it would annoy me, especially if I was talking to her alone, coz I'd have no-one to talk to. More acceptable if they're in a group.
Generally I'd say don't just single her out, her friend is likely to be pissed off, And if the friend is against you it will be that bit harder to get the girl, plus she'll feel bad for 'abandoning' her friend. Talk to them both, I'd like it if a guy was polite and showed an interest in my friend.
bob_54321
i'd probably try to catch one of them if they went to the bar or on the way back from the toilet
Hehehe, I have a very amusing image in my head of you lurking outside the toilets with a giant fishing net.
definately agree with rozaroo. it would annoy me if i was with a mate and got shoved out of the conversation.
instead why don't you try talking to both of the girls or the entire group of girls. this way you will avoid annoying some of them. you can try directing the conversation at the girl your interested in but include her friends. she'll notice you like her the most and also you'll get browney points for respecting her friends
a win win situation hopefully
instead why don't you try talking to both of the girls or the entire group of girls. this way you will avoid annoying some of them. you can try directing the conversation at the girl your interested in but include her friends. she'll notice you like her the most and also you'll get browney points for respecting her friends
a win win situation hopefully
yer it annoys me when a friend gets chatted p and i dont! i get embarrassed as i hav 2 stand on my own! N my m8s feel bad for leaving me as do i for leaving them! Its fine 2 go up 2 a gal in a group of over 5, but if not then go up with a mate and dance with them! Then no one is left alone! I hope that helped!
I wouldn't mind going up to a pair of girls/a group, but what type of things would I say? See, this is where one of the problems lie. It's hard to think of something interesting to say once you've just interrupted a group conversation. I guess different people would react differently, but what would be a good place to start a conversation from? If I introduce myself , then they'll all probably give me funny looks and then expect me to say something interesting.
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Mainly to the girls, but any helpful replies welcome. When girls are in a group, or talking in a pair or something, would you be annoyed if a random guy came up to you and started talking? Or, from another angle, what kind of things could a guy say to one of the girls if he's interested in her (at a club or something). This has happened a few times and I feel like an idiot just interrupting someone mid convo and then having nothing to say other than a usual "hi, my name is....". Doesn't seem like that intro would work if the girl's in a group. any suggestions on what do to in this situation?
What you need to do is get a mate to distract the friends of the girl you fancy, so you dont have to entertain a whole group all on your own. mainly you need to work out which girl is the most insecure out of the lot and is the most likely to get irked at you chatting up her mate, and get your mate to make himself useful and chat up that one so she isnt putting negativity onto your game. lol
with regards to what to say, say anything... doesnt really matter. If a girl likes you, you'll be able to tell straight away.
Make up something random, go hi, I'm "....." Just thought i'd come up and say hi as you're "...... Insert compliment here"
then ask if they found the fact that you had to walk over bananas on the way into wherever you were weird. and make up a load of balls about bananas being on the floor. that should break the ice. lol
El Scotto
What you need to do is get a mate to distract the friends of the girl you fancy, so you dont have to entertain a whole group all on your own. mainly you need to work out which girl is the most insecure out of the lot and is the most likely to get irked at you chatting up her mate, and get your mate to make himself useful and chat up that one so she isnt putting negativity onto your game. lol
What you need to do is get a mate to distract the friends of the girl you fancy, so you dont have to entertain a whole group all on your own. mainly you need to work out which girl is the most insecure out of the lot and is the most likely to get irked at you chatting up her mate, and get your mate to make himself useful and chat up that one so she isnt putting negativity onto your game. lol
sounds like you speak from a lot of experience,
El Scotto
What you need to do is get a mate to distract the friends of the girl you fancy, so you dont have to entertain a whole group all on your own. mainly you need to work out which girl is the most insecure out of the lot and is the most likely to get irked at you chatting up her mate, and get your mate to make himself useful and chat up that one so she isnt putting negativity onto your game. lol
What you need to do is get a mate to distract the friends of the girl you fancy, so you dont have to entertain a whole group all on your own. mainly you need to work out which girl is the most insecure out of the lot and is the most likely to get irked at you chatting up her mate, and get your mate to make himself useful and chat up that one so she isnt putting negativity onto your game. lol
Yes, having a wing man is very important.
bob_54321
so how are guys meant to chat up a girl if they have taken a fancy to her? surely the group cant expect equal treatment. if there is just a pair then i suppose its different.
You have to entertain the whole group unless you get a friend to make themselves useful, but if the friends being slack and feeling a bit shy, you can go over to the girl you fancy and do the My mate fancies your mate bit... which'll break the ice, and get her mates gossiping about your friend and whichever one you said that he fancied and whilst they're all distracted you can chat up the one you fancy.
Ask questions, ask her what she does, where she lives, whether she owns a pair of fluffy/animal head slippers
talk about where you are/why there - something you both have in common, compliment her, anything basically, just don't talk too much about you, even if your life story is fascinating, you'll look so self centred
talk about where you are/why there - something you both have in common, compliment her, anything basically, just don't talk too much about you, even if your life story is fascinating, you'll look so self centred
if i'm at a club, i don't like guys coming up to me steaming drunk, it scares me off and i put them down as weirdos.
The best way for a guy to approach a girl they don't know is either appraoch them on the their own at the bar or if at uni 'have i seen you around before?' or something lol
The best way for a guy to approach a girl they don't know is either appraoch them on the their own at the bar or if at uni 'have i seen you around before?' or something lol
This quite cute guy came up to me today in Harrods. He was like, "Can I ask you something?" and I was thinking right... either a chat up or whether I liked an outfit for his g/f or an outfit for him... but no.
"If a girl going out with a guy goes to a bar and starts kissing another guy, is she cheating?"
"Umm....yes."
"If she starts kissing another girl, is she cheating?"
We got into a random discussion about guys being legends for sleeping around and girls being sluts which ended with him asking whether I was a feminist who thought outside the box and then running off.
If it was a chat up line it wasn't a good one. And I clearly put him off anyway
"If a girl going out with a guy goes to a bar and starts kissing another guy, is she cheating?"
"Umm....yes."
"If she starts kissing another girl, is she cheating?"
We got into a random discussion about guys being legends for sleeping around and girls being sluts which ended with him asking whether I was a feminist who thought outside the box and then running off.
If it was a chat up line it wasn't a good one. And I clearly put him off anyway
just dance with her
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